hi everyone (intro)

[laura3103]

hi my name is laura i'm 29 years old

here goes i have a 16 month old little girl called Enid gertrude (gertie) i have been on my own with her since i was 12 week pregnant has my ex didnt want to have another baby as he already had 2 from a previous relationship.

i currently live with my dad as hes been a big help since having gertie.

well i have done so well so far but now my life as been turned upside down i'm having to leave my job as what i earn each week is going back out to go to work as i work nights i cant get goverment granted childcare so my sister has her for me but she is about to have her little boy so i can expect her to have my daughter when she will have 3 children of her own.

well here is the big part i've just found out i'm pregnant and i am happy dont get me wrong but never thought it would happen so quickly the funny part is its gerties dad that is the father to this child as well i have only slept with him twice since we split up as i never heard from him for 16 month and he as never meet gertie.

i only met up with him as i havent been with another man in all this time and i wanted some me time and i also missed him loads even though he left me before.

i think i need to know that everything will be ok and that i will be able to cope being a single mum to 2 children both financely and physicly.

sorry for drowing on just need to let it out

 

[JennaSmith]

Didnt wanna read n run. Hope everything works out for you and your two lil sweeties!

 

[LittleMadam]

Hi Laura,

You will cope financially as you will get help from the govt. Money will be tight though. As for emotionally/physically, that depends on you. Do you think you'll be able to handle two young ones? Only you can answer that. I will say this though: many single mums with two or more LOs are GREAT at it.

As for FOBs, will you get any support (financial or physical) from him?

Anyway, welcome to the forum.

xxxx

 

[isil]

omg, if your ex didn't want to have another baby he's not doing well as he's conceived 2 with you he has to take responsibility for your children (it takes 2!) so I really hope you'll go through CSA even if he doesn't 'want' to have children with you.

Your little girl is gorgeous and you're obviously a caring, intelligent, hardworking woman. You can do this! Yes you may have to stop working for now, but you can work to going back in the future, perhaps doing more child-friendly hours

 

[purpledahlia]

Hiya! I remember you!! How are you?

I think you will be fine, can you stay with your dad? You can get a part time job in day hours, get the childcare for the full week which when your heavily preg she can still use and you can get some time to rest and then after babys here, bond. It will work out!

 

[xJG30]

Welcome :wave: