hi everyone

[elsmogro]

So I have just split up with the FOB (SOB sounds more fitting lol)
Im 18 weeks today and its been a long time coming really, i got sick of him pushing me aside so he could get drnk with his friends, him not bothering to get a job and not being bothered about anything else but himself. Ive had no support and its been heartbreaking but ive finally made the decision to leave him which is the best for me and my bubbs. So Ill be here getting stength from all you amazing women that have already been through this and come out the other side

 

[Makena29]

I'm not single yet but heading in that direction. I'm so sorry you're going through this. You sound confident in your decision, and although that doesn't make it easy, it's at least the first step. Stay strong and focus on all of the love surrounding your little one.

 

[billy2mm]

hi and welcome. sorry you have to be here but as you say you need to do this for you and baby which is a fantascit start to parenting! your gonna make a fab single mummy!

 

[sarahxx]

aww i'm sorry your FOB has been so selfish, sounds like you're already thinking of what's best for you and your baba so well done to you i'm sure you'll be a fab mummy, single or not!x

 

[Sophie1205]

xxx

 

[justlove]

Hi & welcome your reference about SOB made me lol thats the hardest and worst part making that decision but shows how strong u are already. Other than that I hope you are enjoying your pregnancy

 

[elsmogro]

Thanks everyone I know its going to be hard work but it will be worth it. Even though it hurts i feel like a big weight has been lifted off my shoulders already. Now instead of worrying about him and being hurt by him all the time i can focus on getting things ready for my little one and looking forwards to the future xx

 

[teal]

xx

 

[v2007]

V xxx

 

[jameskingama]

what is FOB?

 

[justlove]

what is FOB?

father of baby

 

[elsmogro]

Starting to feel a bit down about things today, the whole thing has sunk in and began to hurt i know its just another hurdle i need to get over but cant help being weighed down a bit by it all xx

 

[justlove]

*hugs* you are bound to have down days being pregnant is a emotional rollercoaster itself let alone the fact of doing it without FOB, the only way I got through it was trying to focus on this little bundle of pure love that I was going to have, easier said than done I know cos there where times when I felt hate towards FOB especially when I kept having to go in hospital.

Hope your day gets better x

 

[elsmogro]

Yeah thats wha im trying to do, keep thinking about my ex and wanting to msg him and that breaks my heart. m trying to keep thinking if he cared he would get in touch with me and as he isnt then he oviously doesnt care. Its just so scary going alone etc and i keep worrying im going to be on my own forever etc which i know is silly. I just want a hug n a kiss and be made to feel better...the funny thing is, if i was still with him i wouldnt even get that anyways so im just being silly. xx

 

[justlove]

hiya elsmogro, just wondering how your doing hows the pregnancy going hope all is well x

 

[elsmogro]

Thank you
Me and bumpa are doing great, every so often i get a bit down but just got to focus on the fact my ex is worth nothing and ive got my baby girl to look forwards too.
xxx

 

[WhiteGeisha]

I was single all through my pregnancy and the greatest thing of all of the shit FOB put me through is knowing I have provided every single thing for my daughter and he was provided nothing but drama!

You found the strength to leave him, you will find the strength to be a great single mummy too x

 

[elsmogro]

we were together for the first few months and i didnt get anything but greif and stress from him. No emotional support at all and since we have split up he has done nothing but party and mess around with other girls so it just shows me exactly how worthless he is. Ive managed to get almost everything i need for her and he hasnt so much as bought a pack of nappies. He is proving he cant be bothered with my baby girl and i dont want a waste of space like him in her life.
Im getting stronger and stronger everyday

 

[justlove]

glad to hear you are doing good, wow you are more organized than i was i didnt even order my pram til 2weeks after I had LO arh but there was so many to choose from. Love the name you have picked for your baby girl - in your signature. x

 

[lily2011]

So glad to hear you are doing well love! I am in same situation as you and also my due date is Sept 22, 2011 - one day before you and also with a baby girl It's almost better when at least you KNOW you're not going to get any emotional support, so why even have him around to constantly disappoint you. I know there are good days and bad days and lots of tears, but we will keep each other strong and happy!