Hi Guys - updated with pics

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  1. oxSarahxo

    oxSarahxo Angel Jessie,1M/C, Preg!

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    Just to let you know I discharged myself this morning, we are home now.

    I'll write up our daughter's story later on.

    We have a few things to do now like ring to sort out her birth/death certificate and we have to call around funeral directors to make arrangements.

    Thanks very much to Blob for updating everyone, its made it so much easier for me to not have to break the news. Thanks for all the kind words.


    very very very brief idea of the situation :-

    Rang hospital on Thurs complaining of agony, they said because I was low risk pregnancy just to stay at home.

    Rang hospital on Friday night complaining of agony, told them out right I was not coping and went in.

    They hooked me up to the machine to measure contractions and baby's heart rate and left the room, her heart stopped, but with no one there to witness, midwife came running in, called in the Surgeon, he looked at the chart, saw it and immediately her heart rate went off the chart again, within a second he said "we need this baby out now, emergency cat 1 c-section"... I was prepped and in theatre in minuits.

    Baby was delivered by Emergency C-Section Friday October 3rd @ 23.38, she was very ill and had to be ressuscitated immediately, she appeared to start breathing as she tried to cry, then she was whisked straight off to special care where they worked on her solid for hours. We were taken to see her on all her machines at about 6.40am, she was pronounced dead on Saturday 4th October @ 07.17am.

    She was a very poorly little girl, had the cord round her neck and had opened her bowels a few days PRIOR to us going to hospital, this was the reason for the total agony I was in, not labour. There was very very little fluid, it was all meconium.

    Her lungs were filled with blood, her heart kept stopping, machines were breathing for her, she hadn't been getting oxygen through her cord for quite some time so brain damage was also involved - obviously the extent of the brain damage would never have been known until she got older.

    She didn't stand a chance, she had everything going against her.

    We believe God did the right thing, he gave her a chance to make a noise so we could hear her, we never got to see her when she was alive for herself, or open or eyes or anything like that, but we don't regret a thing. God let her try and fight for a few hours and we believe when we were taken up to special care to see her, god gave us just a little bit of time to be with her and see her chest moving (all be it by machines), but then he said "come on little girl, you're tired" and stopped her pain. I'll thank him every day til the day I die for stopping her pain.

    Will post up a full story later on.

    Her name is Jessica Charlotte Reay. She was with us for 439 mins, I'll remember every single min for the rest of my life.

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    Sarah + Matt


    In memory of our little Angel baby xxxxxxxx - we played this to her yesterday as she slept in her crib next to us
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1IC7YrTSl5Y
     
  2. Sovereign

    Sovereign Well-Known Member

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    I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family :hug:
     
  3. Serene123

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    :cry: You are so strong. I am sooooo sorry for your loss. :hugs:
     
  4. polo_princess

    polo_princess ♥ Brookes Mummy ♥

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    Oh sweetie, my thoughts are with you all :hugs::hugs:
     
  5. maddiwatts19

    maddiwatts19 Guest

    i really have no idea of what to say..
    i am so sorry for your loss
    and i think you are SO brave and strong for posting this..
    you are all in my thoughts and prayers.
    sleep tight little Jessica, your in the best place now!
    lots of love to you all xx
     
  6. nessajane

    nessajane Well-Known Member

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    im so sorry for your loss, my thoughts are with you :hugs: xx
     
  7. vicwick

    vicwick Expecting baba #2

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    I am so sorry for your loss, you are in my thoughts xxx
     
  8. Mervs Mum

    Mervs Mum Doula & Mum of 3!

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    Sarah I dont know what to say.

    All our love and prayers are with you all.

    Much Love

    Lisa x
     
  9. MummyJade

    MummyJade Mummy

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    :hugs: I am so sorry for what you and Matt had to go through... sounds like you both are very strong and brave people.
    May Jessica rest peacefully
    xx
     
  10. alice&bump

    alice&bump mummy to katie

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    i'm so so sorry for your loss xxx
     
  11. Laura1984

    Laura1984 Ruby's Mummy

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    Hunni you are so very brave.
    All my love to you and Matt at this extemely difficult time.
    xxx
     
  12. missjacey44

    missjacey44 Jacey & Baby Tye

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    Oh sarah im so so sorry :cry::hug:

    RIP baby girl Jessica x
     
  13. xXDonnaXx

    xXDonnaXx Well-Known Member

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    My thoughts are with you & all the family.

    :hugs:
     
  14. helen1234

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    :cry:thats gutting hun, i'm so so sorry you've had to go through that, no-one deserves a pain like that.:hugs:

    sweet dreams Jessica

    xx
     
  15. cupcake

    cupcake Mommy of a gorgeous boy!

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    i am so so sorry, my heart goes out to you and your family. may you feel comfort in your faith
     
  16. cuddles314

    cuddles314 Proud Mummy to Bobby

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    I am so so sorry for your loss, although I realise that no words can ever ease your pain at this heartbreaking time. I am thinking of you and Matt, and know that together you will get through this hard time with your love and support for one another.
    May your beautiful baby girl rest in peace.
    xxx
    :hug::hug::hug:
     
  17. Becky

    Becky Jacobs Mummy

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    Im so sorry to hear about your little girl!! I cant begin to imagine what you are going though!!

    thankyou for having the strength to share your story with us!!

    x
     
  18. Your so strong. Its very brave of you to come back on here and tell us her story. Its heartbreaking. Im so sorry for your loss. R.I.P baby Jessica. She will be in your heart forever. xx
     
  19. KatienSam

    KatienSam Mummy to Ella & Faith <3

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    Im so sorry for your loss, RIP baby Jessica xxx

    Thinking of you xxx
     
  20. ryder

    ryder Mum to Jasmine & Peyton

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    :hug:I dont know what to say, but reading that had me in tears :cry:

    You and Matt are so strong. I wish you guys all the best in this hard time.
     

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