Hi just wanted to introduce myself My name is Rebecca I am 32 In July I lost my daughter Eliza Faith at 21 weeks. My waters ruptured for no reason and I had to give birth. My placenta got stuck so I lostalot of blood and had to be put to sleep to remove it. I nearly never made it and was ill for along time.
Its over 6 months now and although things are a bit easier, I do find the bad days still bad. I have lots of guilt that my body let her down, and I hate that shes not here with us. I constantly think what I should be doing. I struggle to look at other babies I even feel hatred towards them sometimes!!! Which I hate, this experience has brought out some horrible traits in me, like anger, jealousy and quite angry at times.
I can say it does get easier and I can o a few days without crying now, for all of you whos loss is very recent, I can say it does get slightly easier to bear, I wont say it gets better as thats not the right word, but the good days start to overtake the bad days, and the original good days in the beginning start to become like a bad day now. So when I had a good day at the beginning, I would only cry a bit, that now is more like a bad day if that makes sense.
What I do find had is all the reminders in the post and emails thanks to people like Emmas diary who send allsorts through to me about photography and nappy offers and such.
I am so sorry others are going through this.
I am glad to find a site that I can offload to I hope you dont mind.
Its over 6 months now and although things are a bit easier, I do find the bad days still bad. I have lots of guilt that my body let her down, and I hate that shes not here with us. I constantly think what I should be doing. I struggle to look at other babies I even feel hatred towards them sometimes!!! Which I hate, this experience has brought out some horrible traits in me, like anger, jealousy and quite angry at times.
I can say it does get easier and I can o a few days without crying now, for all of you whos loss is very recent, I can say it does get slightly easier to bear, I wont say it gets better as thats not the right word, but the good days start to overtake the bad days, and the original good days in the beginning start to become like a bad day now. So when I had a good day at the beginning, I would only cry a bit, that now is more like a bad day if that makes sense.
What I do find had is all the reminders in the post and emails thanks to people like Emmas diary who send allsorts through to me about photography and nappy offers and such.
I am so sorry others are going through this.
I am glad to find a site that I can offload to I hope you dont mind.