Hi! New here...

[Wishing4abfp]

Hi! So I still have LOTS to read... But thought I'd come n introduce myself....

I am 34 yrs old, and I have 3 boys, 18, 13, & 9 yrs old.

Despite the fact I have 3, we've been wanting to top the cake, lol, with a girl... (I'd love a pair of girls though

We've been actively trying for past 5-6 yrs.... And by this I mean I just stopped avoiding not getting pregnant thinking it would take a bit.... But WOW, has it been a LONG bit....

After my last one I had copper iud, but because if period problems had to remove it after 2 years.

I discussed with my nurse practitioner and she had mentioned since I'm very irregular after I gained weight, that I should postpone and loose at least 20 pounds first and She was sure that would regularize my period and might conceive after a bit..... In the meantime she had me on metformin, that came n went... Then to kickstart, I guess, put me on provera to bring on my period.... I'd have to take it 10 days but that also backfired because later I found myself taking it to start and taking it to stop.

After a while I got on a diet, managed to loose about 30 lbs... Still nothing...

I decided to take matters in my hands and read and bought cloud and pregnyl (from Tijuana) still nothing.... Round 2.... Nothing.....

I'm Hispanic and its very common to go get "uterine massages" I must of gone about a total of 7 times... One of them was an"treatment" I'd go get massages, and then shed have me drink teas, douches... Etc... NoTHING!!!!

Every time I go for my pap, etc, check up... Everything is normal.... I mention the fact that I'm NOT using BC, haven't for past years.... But I'm guessing I'm not pushing enough??? Or the fact I have 3 kids makes her not pay attention???

LOTS of ppl say, just relax..... It will happen.... I keep waiting, relaxing, and IT'S NOT HAPPENING!! I don't know who to talk to because that's the first thing they say... Well at least u already have 3.... So I've sort of just left it on the back Burner.... Secretly, patiently craving a lil bump.... Or two... Lol...

So, I go again to start my research... I'm not getting any younger and I had told my husband ideally, I'd prefer to just give up after I'm 35, because of fear of risks...

But I HAVE NO IDEA where to begin... Well, I do... In a Way... I have started folic acid, and prenatals... And will also begin with evening primrose oil. But after???

I don't even know how I could use clomid due to my irregular periods.... I get them every 2-3 months.... I guess it's time for a real Down n dirty talk with my dr., lol...

SOrry, but i REALLY needed to vent!

Hope to catch up on at least a part of so much reading!

 

[beegray]

I'm no doc so don't take my word for it but it sounds like you have PCOS. Polycystic Ovary Syndrome. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polycystic_ovary_syndrome

Has your partner been tested?

 

[RKW]

As you take clomid when you are at the start of your cycle, I don't see any reason why you could not take it. You would just wait however long until you get your period, then take it from day's 2-5 or 3-7 (I believe, might be wrong)
Good luck

 

[Athena]

:wave: Hi and Welcome

 

[readyformore]

Hi Wishing4. And welcome.

I am also ttc #4. I agree with you that doctors will put you on the back burner and not listen at all when you have 3 children already. I just went to my RE. We have done 4 IUIs which failed and we aren't interested in IVF. She basically told me that there is nothing more she can do for me and she suggested that I just stop ttc. I can't imagine someone saying this to a person that is ttc #1 or #2. I was floored.

I think you need to go back to the doctor, maybe a different one? You need to be pushy and assertive. Maybe by saying that you haven't been using birth control for 5 years she just assumes that you are ok either way. I would word it that you have been trying to get pregnant for 5 years, nothing is happening and you are desperate for another child. Maybe she can refer you to a specialist, (not that that worked for me, but you're not me and may have a different outcome).

Anyway, go see a better doctor and get the care that you need. Baby #4 is just as worthy as #1. Make sure that they know how you feel.

Good luck to you.

 

[Wishing4abfp]

I'm no doc so don't take my word for it but it sounds like you have PCOS. Polycystic Ovary Syndrome.]

Has your partner been tested?

He hasn't been tested... But would that be diagnosed through a pap? I'll go read... I'm actually going to b seeing her again tomorrow as I've been on my period for about almost 3 weeks, and while at first was light spotting, it's brought on terrible, unbearable lower right abdomen pain. So I'm scheduled to go tomorrow, but I have a feeling Provera it will b...

Thanks!

P.s. sorry ad to delete URL in quote, otherwise I can't post...

 

[Wishing4abfp]

As you take clomid when you are at the start of your cycle, I don't see any reason why you could not take it. You would just wait however long until you get your period, then take it from day's 2-5 or 3-7 (I believe, might be wrong)
Good luck

Thanks! Will double check!

 

[Wishing4abfp]

Hi Wishing4. And welcome.

I am also ttc #4. I agree with you that doctors will put you on the back burner and not listen at all when you have 3 children already. I just went to my RE. We have done 4 IUIs which failed and we aren't interested in IVF. She basically told me that there is nothing more she can do for me and she suggested that I just stop ttc. I can't imagine someone saying this to a person that is ttc #1 or #2. I was floored.

I think you need to go back to the doctor, maybe a different one? You need to be pushy and assertive. Maybe by saying that you haven't been using birth control for 5 years she just assumes that you are ok either way. I would word it that you have been trying to get pregnant for 5 years, nothing is happening and you are desperate for another child. Maybe she can refer you to a specialist, (not that that worked for me, but you're not me and may have a different outcome).

Anyway, go see a better doctor and get the care that you need. Baby #4 is just as worthy as #1. Make sure that they know how you feel.

Good luck to you.

Oh wow! I'm do sorry for their rudeness and inconsideration! But I mean if we choose however many # they should help regardless if it's #1, or #4,5...

I'm scheduled tomorrow and hopefully I will make my voice heard!

Thanks!