hiding the bump

[nikky0907]

just a few of my closest friends and my bf know about it. im definetly keeping it and i know i said i wanted to tell my parents when im 12 weeks, but now i want to wait until the first scan incase theres any problems and ive gone to the trouble of telling my parents for nothing. the only thing is, i havent got round to sending off my forms to the hospital yet and i dont know when the first scan will be?

Well,it would be good if the scan is at 12 weeks,so that you know if everything is ok.But it's not necessery,still make sure you get the papers to the hospital as soon as you can...
Wow,12 weeks will be soon for you!Good luck with everything and update us...

I saw one of your posts were you said you're considering adoption,is that still an idea?

 

[meg]

Ella, hope you're doing okay, this must be a really trying time for you and I hope that some of the responses you had here didn't put you off the rest of us!

like others have said, i hope you manage to tell your parents soon, so that they can support you; its amazing what some of them are capable of!

I hope that you can sit your exams in peace, i know what catholic schools can be like - but everyone is human - so if you need to deny that you are pregnant to do your exams, then so be it. You're brave and mature to consider staying at school!

good luck, and keep us posted.

 

[ella170]

I saw one of your posts were you said you're considering adoption,is that still an idea?

me and my bf have discussed it and i still see adoption as a possibilty. last night i was doing my coursework for my AS exams and i really want to be able to carry on the second year. but, even if my school is ok with the pregnancy, if i take too much time off, i could be kicked off my courses because i would miss too much. also, i dont want to have a scan until after my exams, which doesnt finish until the end of may. im basically in school all week until then taking extra revision classes and i know it sounds really bad and selfish, but i really dont want to miss a class up until the exams. i really did get pregnant at a bad time!

 

[toffee87]

I'm sure there'll be other options so you can carry on with your studies. Will you get help towards daycare? Can you opt for an evening scan at your hospital?

 

[Blob]

I know what you mean with missing classes, im at uni, but i really do not want to miss anything. Obv its a bit easier cos i dont have to be in all the time but i'm revising just now and it seems really selfish of me, like i've got my 16 week docs appointment just before an exam and i am dreading it cos i dont think i'm going to enjoy it like i really want to, cos i will be stressing too much. I'm not planning on taking any time out of uni even when blob is born, which is going to be seriously hard. Ha ha i hope you can do it, but i get that you wouldn want the scan then, how are you meant to enjoy it when you're stressing.

 

[ella170]

i know lol and im scared that if i missed class, then that one lesson that i miss would have something to do with a question that comes up in the exam lol that happened to me at GCSE!

 

[Blob]

Am quite worried i'll just sit and day dream through my exams ha ha ha!! Not so keen on doing the resits spesh as i'll be the size of a house by then and i bet it would be doing sumeraults in my tummy while i'm trying to concentrate ha ha ha!!

 

[TT's]

I've only just read your thread ella

Your a very brave girl and whatever you decide to do (adoption or not) will be right for you. My mum had me at 16 and I (think) turned out just fine, but she gave up her life and education to raise me and I really respect that.

If you want to carry on your education and keep the baby you can take a year out and then get all kinds of childcare and hardship grants to see you though college and uni (it will be VERY hard, but you can do it cause you seem like a very intelligent young lady), my boyfriend and his ex partner did this and their son is now 11 and he has just received a scolourship to get into one of the most respected private schools in the country and they both have great careers.

Anyway, GOOD LUCK and take care!

TT's xxxx

 

[trishawootton]

ella i really respect u, u are doin the right thing sweetie, alls u need to do is concentrate on urself and the baby and everything will be fine, the school dont need to no just wear baggy clothes like other people have mentioned on here, and as for telling you parents u really need to they help u so much, when i told my mum i thought she was gonna go mad but she didnt i told her then went down my mates for an hour so she could get used to the idea, and dont listen to people making stupid comments they are just rude and cant except different circumstances from there own lol

 

[alice&bump]

Good luck with it all, you sound so brave! have you told your parents yet? i'm 19 and 14weeks, u wanted to tell my parents with my OH, but when i asked them if they were going to bein the next day for a chat i kinda had to tell them. they weren't best pleased, but have come to terms with it now. They had grand plans of uni and high powered jobs and all that and obviously it hasn't happened. At the end of the day tho it's your life and your parents will love you whatever!

 

[ella170]

Good luck with it all, you sound so brave! have you told your parents yet? i'm 19 and 14weeks, u wanted to tell my parents with my OH, but when i asked them if they were going to bein the next day for a chat i kinda had to tell them. they weren't best pleased, but have come to terms with it now. They had grand plans of uni and high powered jobs and all that and obviously it hasn't happened. At the end of the day tho it's your life and your parents will love you whatever!

i know that i really need to tell them, but theres things that i want to do before telling them, like passing my driving test. at the moment, im suprisingly coping just fine with bein pregnant and without them knowing, so im not sure when im going to do it

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

its good you think your coping with out your mum or dad knowing but trust me, i have been in your shoes! my mums been my rock since she has come to terms with it, its always nice to have someone close to talk to about things an i guess like the other girls have said the longer you leave it the harder it will get xx

 

[alice&bump]

how long have you got til your driving test? if i were you i really would tell them as soon as, its not gona get easier (being pregnant, not telling them - well, both). AS exams are stressful enough, without hiding the fact you are pregnant!

 

[Becki77]

Oh Ella i cant believe you still havent told them!
It must be so hard going through this alone? You really must tell them soon sweetie, i know you want to get things done first but your baby does really come first.
Have you had a scan yet so you know everything is ok?