Hmmm, 2 kids, 24 weeks pregnant, and just split up with partner.

[sarah2409]

Updated a llittle further down the page x

 

[littlekitten8]

 

[Rhio92]

Hope everythings ok x

 

[mummaofthree]

been there...

 

[sarah2409]

Well thanks for the replies haha, even though i deleted my post. I was just moaning a bit too much, and i dont want to moan anymore, want to look ahead to a bright future

We basically split because i was a stay at home mum, he went to work, came home ate slept, went back to work, repeated this pattern all week, throw in the odd game of football and his season ticket to watch football. I didnt mind the football, i just wanted him to spend more time with the kids, help me around the house etc. So i brought this up on saturday, and he said that it was my job to do all of those things and that i should have a propper job. I was like who is going to look after the children and he said if i haad a job we would be able to afford it, which we wouldnt. I asked him does he not see the importance of what i do staying at home looking after our children, and he didnt. He wasnt going to change to help me, plus he didnt apreciate me, so i ended it.

It may seem petty to some, but its hard work and its even harder when you have someone else to look after who isnt contributing, and i really didnt like his attitude like he was superior because he went to work. So he left.

I spoke to him yesterday, he said he wasnt happy about the situation, so i said its not too late, you can still be with us if you just tried and made a little effort, but he said whats done is done. So i told him im glad i gave him the chance, and now i have no regrets because at least i tried one last time to get things on track. I havent heard from him since midday yesterday, he hasnt once asked how his children are or how bump is, or even me seein as i suffer from spd and obviously im pretty upset at the moment.

So ive found a perfect rented house around the corner, which accepts benefits (im going to have to go on them now unfortunately ) and doesnt require a deposit. I peeked through the window yesterday and it looked quite nice, i didnt expect it to be, but tomorrow i am going to get a viewing if it is still available, fingers crossed, and if i like it my mum is going to help me out with some money which is nice. I have it all planned out it my head, get myself and the kids somewhere to live as we have to move out of our house now (was rented with my partner, have till 30th june to move) and just keep looking forward and get over it. Still really hurts though My mum thinks he will come back, i dont. Even if he does, do i take him back after how little he seems to care after this weekend?

Im so trying to be strong and get stuff sorted asap but my head is in a right mess! Sorry for going on! xx

 

[littlekitten8]

I would give him time to sort himself out. If you take him back right away he will just go back to how he was straight away. Once you get into your own little place, you will wonder why you were with him in the first place!

 

[tanni78]

Awww it's good to see that you are looking positively at the situation. I definately think you are taking the right attitude. I have 3 girls to a previous partner and their dad lives in Cyprus so they only see him for a few weeks a year. I started a new relationship in January and ended up pregnant the 1st time my partner and i slept together. We've been close friends for nearly 2 years and when i told him about the baby, he was amazing. Up until last week it was all going great but i announced i wanted a home birth and he hit the roof. I now haven't heard from him since last thurs and i'm not quite sure what's going to happen. Obviously i feel hurt that he hasn't txt to ask how pregnancy is especially as i have spd and had a tummy bug last week but like you, i'm just going to get on with it. Of course i'd love for us to be together but i am happy and excited about the baby anyway and i have my 3 girls to help me out. Just try to enjoy your pregnancy, it's special and will be over all too soon xxx