Holiday Question

[EOOSTHOEK84]

Some background info first

My husband and I live in CO (I moved here to be with him). His family lives a block from us and my family is in PA. I usually see them twice a year, typically summer and Thanksgiving due to time off (I am a teacher). Hubby and I are usually on our own for Christmas (typically do a cruise).

So, this year, my family is treating us to a vacation in FL and we will fly to PA a few days before Christmas. We will be in CO for Thanksgiving this year. My baby will be 7 months old at Thanksgiving. Is it expected that we go to our in-laws for Thanksgiving? I really would like to stay at our home and cook for my husband and make baby food for my daughter. I want her first holidays to be spend at our house with our little family. I would feel the same about Christmas if we weren't going on a trip.

Am I being selfish? How do I approach this? I would have no problem having them over for dessert or something, but it's like it's expected that we go to their house and spend the day. They don't ask, they just call and say "be here at this time". It kind of bothers me. And they were up in arms when we mentioned we might go to PA for both holidays (which we aren't now). Just need some thoughts/advice

 

[Pearls18]

The way I see it is you won't win either way, you will annoy somebody but at the end of the day it is your family, his family are lucky that you live so close to them. I say be selfish, do what you want to do, invite them for dessert if it's a more comfortable compromise for you, but the sooner you lay it down how you want your holidays to be spent now you're parents, the sooner they will get the picture