hormone crash after ERPC

[hopie2015]

Bernie- I love the sound of that full name! I have a confession to make-- I might want to steal that name Jameson if I ever have a boy. Would that be okay?! Such a great name. I am sure hubby will end up agreeing! That made me laugh -- 'man cave fiasco'!!
Sorry you have the hassle of dealing with insurance too from the January bills. Thank you health care reform is right!! Doesn't sound at all right they aren't covering some when you were on the plan? I still can't believe 10K for probably the worst procedure a person can have and I'm still trying to work out a deal with hospital to get the 2K lowered.
Must be nice in UK and Canada, ladies!

Fit- how much would a private scan cost there is you opt to get one? Thanks for the kinds words. Just praying my dad improves...soon.

My mom and I went to the beach today..she can walk a few feet out of the car, we met some nice people and then DF took her for a short walk. It was great! Such a blessing to have her recovering. I also slept my first 8 hours straight here last night with DF staying over and feel a ton better!

Jaspie- how are you feeling-- still tired, I assume? Yes- living a couple hours out of the city sure is more affordable here too. I love living in NYC, but way too expensive. That is why our apartment is the size of a shoebox.

Good news on my renter-- not bed bugs..just flying insects that came in and infested. I'm so grateful for any good news that comes my way now.

Blu-- how are you??!

xxxx Take care soon-to-be mamas!

 

[Blu10]

Wow $9000 for a D&C!! Did they use good plated instruments?!? The English complain about our NHS but I for one am so glad we have free access to healthcare.
Sorry that your dad isnt doing so well Hopie, sending well wishes and hope you get better news soon.
Jaspie I hope youre managing to rest? Has pregnancy sunk in yet?
Bernie i bet you cant wait for your scan, so exciting.
Fit the private scan is so so tempting isnt it! I think we should both do it ha!
As for me im feeking ok today, the headaches are definitely better, gowever the bleeding is still there on and off although very dark and sparse thankfully. Just wish it would go away completely. My appetite is still rubbish, i dont feel sick theres just nothing I fancy at all.
DH is driving me nuts, hes working really long hours every day then not really making much effory at home and dont think my pregnancy tiredness and hormones are helping the situation. I wish he would put DS and I first sometimes rather than work. Anyway moan over its nearly the weekend whoop whoop. 14 weeks now and my belly is getting round ☺xx

 

[jaspie]

Oooh Blu yay for a bump happy 14 weeks!! Hope that bleeding goes away for good soon. Sorry your DH is doing your head in, hope it makes it up to you this weekend. Have you got any plans?

Bernie i love that name, hope DH agrees i like your clever plan.

Hopie that's great news about your mum, it sounds like she's really making progress, I'm happy for you! And I'm glad you're close to DH again 💜

Fit i hope you're more relaxed now after your wonderful scan and A* results for baby fit!

I'm still tired, having lazy evenings on sofa after work and going to bed while it's light but still knackered today. Tender boobs too and metallic taste when i first wake up and cramps on and off. I had some trapped wind low down last night and wowza how how painful?! But yay it's Friday! I think depending on the weather we'll be going over OH's parents for a bbq tomorrow if it's nice. Otherwise just a quiet weekend yay. Roll on 4pm xx

 

[hopie2015]

Your weekend sounds perfect, Jaspie! Glad you're feeling pretty good with all the early pg symptoms. Thanks -- it is v. good DF and I are back to good again. Relationships go in waves, don't they?
Blu- sorry DH is being like that. I heard from someone once something similar about her guy and the guys at his office working super long hours.. Turns out the guys felt extra pressure to work harder at work-- to ensure a good income-- the reason was because a new baby was coming! Do you think that might be part of it? Maybe when you guys have time to relax thiss weekend you can talk about it? But yes, with pregnancy hormones..sure can make things tougher. Gosh, I remember at 6 weeks I had THE worst mood thing going on ever from hormones.. I wouldn't let DF any where near me. It was just horrendous and I was worried -- but that went away the following week!

Yes, the d and c being almost 10K is beyond wrong. Now I'm looking into surrogacy and adoption costs... Whoa! Life is so expensive!

Hope you're having a good, restful evening Blu and you and DH have a happy weekend together. It will get better with him, I am sure. Fit, Bernie and Jaspie- enjoy your wknds too!! xxxxx

 

[bernie86]

Your weekend does sound amazing Jaspie! have fun. Blu- dont feel alone, its a mixture of your horomones, and probably a little bit of him trying to financially prep for a new baby. I think they get stressed about that. Hopie- so glad you got to go to the beach! I know the air and the ocean always make me feel better! And you are free to use jameson as well Ill share! Fit- I hope you enjoy your weekend!!!

Hubby actually brought up names last night while we were lying in bed and we had so much fun laughing at how horrible some names are and he kept suggesting silly ones, but we really did settle on Jameson as our first choice, and Carter as a second choice. So we will have two names in mind when we meet him I dont know why I was so stressed about that but just knowing that we have two that we can agree on really makes me feel better. I was worried we'd still be having the Jr. argument while in labor! Cant wait for the scan Monday!!!! Its a 3 pm my time so you all will probably be sleeping by then but Ill make sure to update you all on Tuesday!

 

[Blu10]

Evening all! Its friday yayyyyyyy!!!
As for DH he is salaried so whether he does 37.5hrs or 100 he still gets paid the same. I dont think lack of intimacy is helping us at all, Im not feeling very close to him and I am missing the physical relationship but there nothing I can do whilst I keep spotting. Hopefully things will work out on the next few weeks!
On a positive note i met my friend with the kiddies tonight at the playcentre then took them for a bite to eat which was lovely. Feeling stuffed now.
Bernie Im so excited for monday for you! And i love Jameson and Carter, good choice 😀
Im glad youre considering adoption Hopie, youre going to be such a great mummy some day, Im so pleased that despite everything thats happened in the past few months you are still finding time to share your journey with us all.
Jaspie my boobs are still pretty sore now and definitely quite a bit bigger. Feeling wiped is a good thing just try and get some rest. I think my fatigue is lifting now which is good.
Fit I hope youre well?
Sounds like most of us have a chilled weekend planned. Im going to get my PJs out shortly then catch up on OITNB and try NOT to fall asleep haha.
Lovely to see all the updates xx

 

[Fit_Mama2Be]

Hi girls!

Sorry your DH is working so much Blu...hopefully you'll get to see more of each other and the spotting goes away so you can get back to business. We are sorely lacking in that area, which is not poor DH's choice...I just have zero sex drive this pregnancy.

Jaspie your weekend does sound great, hope you enjoy the sun (and all your emerging symptoms!).

Yuck on those d&c bills Bernie and Hopie. Because I was induced I had to stay overnight at the hospital, and after 3 nurses failed numerous times to get my iv inserted they had to page the Anesthesiologist to come help me...I can only imagine what my bill would have been for those 2 things alone!

Bernie I can't wait to hear about Monday!!! Glad you and DH have settled on your top 2 names.

Hopie yes isn't life expensive. Whatever you decide I hope you get to be a mom soon because you will make a wonderful one.

I am on my way to my 12 week midwife appointment with a headache. Still basking in the glow of our wonderful ultrasound and results...DH says he thinks of the baby all day at work. It's supposed to be hot and sunny here all weekend...Saturday we're going boating with my inlaws to spread FIL's ashes.

 

[hopie2015]

Oh, Fit.. Will be such an emotional weekend for all of you. I hope you all find peace and comfort while out on the water, remembering your FIL.
I am glad to hear you are still basking in the happiness of your perfect scan! And that is beyond adorable DH thinks of the baby all day at work!! Such a huge blessing for all of you, and your FIL will be looking down on baby always.
Thank you for the kind words. I'm kind of a shitty fiance lately (even before all this, I was miserably stressed at job). DF said sweetest thing -- 'you are the best daughter ever'. That was so nice to hear after the hard past 3 months. I joked, 'and certainly not best fiance ever'. He still said I am. But mother-- I do feel I could be good at that! And I feel ready. My problem is I am ready way too late in life!!

So I am glad all of you have come to this point while younger.

Blu- maybe though if he appears to work so much while at the office and so hard, it guarantees job security, or a chance of promotion for him -- this is the way a lot of guys think I've heard when a baby is coming-- they want to make sure they can always provide well. And yeah - lack of intimacy puts a bump in the road.. I am sure this will all blow over in a few weeks for you guys. In meantime, maybe your parents can watch DS and you guys have a nice date night?

Bernie- glad Junior is resolved now. Ha! That was too funny. Excited to see what name you guys choose once you meet your little guy.
Yes, the beach air sure helps!! Soo excited for your Monday scan and looking forward for the update!

Jaspie- hope you're having a good and relaxing weekend! How are you?

Enjoy the weekend! DF is cooking for my mom and me tonight..whoo-hoo a break!!!

 

[Blu10]

Hey everyone, hope you all had a lovely saturday. Fit I hope you managed to enjoy some happy memories whilst scattering FIL's ashes and Hopie I hope that meal courtesy of DF is just lush. Yourr most certainly not too old to have a child now you just have more life experience to share and tonnes of love to give 😚
hope you managed to gt the BBQ on the go Jaspie and youre feeling ok?
The countdown is on to your scan now Bernie, hope yourr more successful at posting pics than me lol
Ive had a lovely morning with DS, we popped out to get him some funky new trainers which he chose himself then went to costa to indulge in a decaf latte and share a chocolate twist. DH got home early afternoon and we all went to watch minions at the cinema - so funny. Hes tucked up in bed now and mummies headache is back so just made a cup of tea and rolled on he forehead and Im going to chill on the sofa for the evening now 👍
Look forward to reading your updates xxx

 

[jaspie]

That's great news that you're settled on the name now Bernie! You didn't even have to do your plan!

I agree with Blu, Hopie. You are not too old you only got pregnant a few months ago you can totally do it again, and you'll be a wonderful mum. Hope you enjoy your evening being looked after, you deserve it.

Fit i hope your day scattering FIL's ashes went as well as can be expected, I'm sure it's been an emotional day hope the appointment went well yesterday too.

Sounds like a lovely day Blu! Hope your headache goes soon though, they are really pounding you lately. Hope you have a nice relaxing evening now and it goes away. Enjoy your tea!

We went over OH's parents house but only for a few hours in the afternoon so we sat in the garden and played with their puppy! I'm feeling zonked, you know when you've got a hangover and that tiredness is dragging your eyes shut and making you zombiefied...that's me so once we got home I put my pjs straight on and got in bed with Netflix. I'm on the last episode of OITNB now noooo!! Hope everyone has a lovely Saturday evening xx

 

[Blu10]

Well ive managed to watch 3 episodes!! Im not feeling it nearly as much as the first 2 series though, struggling to get into it as much which is annoying.
The headache is def back just put some more 4head on and im goin to try and sleep it off, if that doesnt work its more paracetamol overnight!
I described 1st tri as being like a hangover with DS too Jaspie, I remember making a post about it. Im afraid its likely to take a qhile to lift yet but it will totally be worth it ☺
Sweet dreams xxx

 

[jaspie]

I found that at the start Blu, the second half of the series is much better though. I got distracted and played on my phone a lot in the earlier episodes. Hope your headache has gone this morning. Metallic taste is bad this morning, water is making it worse so i need to get up and make a tea but I'm too comfy! I didn't have this symptom last time so hoping it's a good sign! I need one of those machines like on Wallace and Gromit that makes tea and breakfast for you! Hope you all have a nice Sunday

 

[Blu10]

Haha you need a teasmaid! i remember the horrible taste with DS but havent had it this time. Tea and milk tasted awful. The headache is still there but had a couple of paracetamol and its lifting now, just had breakfast. I'll persevere with it but doesn't feel like this season is really going anywhere.
Did you watch the new Sheridan Smith drama Black work on TV last Sunday? The second part is on tonight so looking forward to that.
It's a wet and grey Sunday here so I'm going to catch up on my ironing and have a chilled day at home which will be nice (not the ironing part!!). Xx

 

[jaspie]

I think it's about episode 8 or 9 when I started properly taking notice! It does get better. No I didn't see the Sheridan smith drama, is it worth a watch?
Wet and grey here too so more Netflix for me later! Glad your headache is lifting, you can enjoy your day (except the ironing!)

 

[Blu10]

Yes it was really good you should get it on catch up. She and her husband are police officers and he is murdered, quite gritty! Weve had a clean up this morning think were going to go out for some tea a bit later x

 

[Fit_Mama2Be]

Hope everyone had a nice weekend.

Looking forward to a short week here! Wednesday is Canada Day, so no work, then we're off the rest of the week for my friend's wedding, woo hoo!

We had a gorgeous hot weekend here, and the boat cruise was lovely. As per usual I was the only one not drinking which was fine...except my MIL has this friend who is in her seventies and she got PLASTERED on the boat. She was like a 15 year old drinking for the first time. She spent 3 hours wailing and carrying on about how horrible her husband was for a bunch of super petty reasons - while the poor man was sitting right beside her! My poor MIL - who just lost her own husband and would give anything for more time with him - ended up having to comfort her. And everytime I walked by this woman - who I've met twice - kept wanting to hug/kiss me and hold my hand...ugh. Thank God she doesn't know I'm pregnant or she probably would have had her grubby hands all over my belly too...ick. Other than that it was a lovely time though, LOL.

How are you feeling Blu, Bernie and Jaspie? How are you and your parents doing Hopie?

 

[bernie86]

Hi Girls, hope you all enjoyed your weekends. sorry Fit about your boat ride, but I hope you and you DH were able to say good bye and give him a good send off.
Blu- I agree with you on OITNB but stick it out, it does get better!!! and I personally liked that the dug deeper into some of the characters. I kinda feel like that was their goal this season. Probably get us all attached to them and make some climatic stuff happen next season!

This weekend was nice and relaxing for me got some things done in the nursery, and enjoyed a visit from my brothers and SIL.... It was ridiculously hot here, so we mostly stayed inside keeping the AC going so excited for the scan this afternoon, but I cant help but get nervous every time I have an appointment. I wish there was a way to be naive again and just always think everything will always be ok.

 

[jaspie]

Good luck for your scan Bernie! I know what you mean, there's no going back to that naivety but I'm sure it will make our rainbows extra special 💞 looking forward to your update!

Fit that woman sounds a nightmare! I hope she didn't ruin the boat trip for you or your mil. Your poor mil having to comfort HER!! Definitely a good thing she doesn't know you're pregnant, she'd have been grabbing your belly and all sorts!

Hopie and Blu hope you're both well! Blu hope your headaches have gone.

I'm ok ta, still shattered! Had a mindfulness course today which was really good. I booked onto it a month or so ago thinking if I was pregnant it would help me cope with the anxiety but as it happens I'm pretty calm anyway but it was still really useful for when i do get anxious because I'm sure I will. I kept falling asleep in the meditations and when she asked how it was for us i mentioned about falling asleep and she said its my body telling me I need more rest! Yes it's baby jaspie telling me i need more rest! it was a good course, very relaxing. And apparently mindfulness is good for labour too so I'm going to look into that!

 

[Blu10]

Hey!
Fit im sorry that wretched woman behaved like a pratt! Thats so annoying especially at such an important time too when shes more than old enough to know better.
Bernie how did your scan go? Bet the little dude has grown stacks!
Hopie how are your parents? Hope you squeezed in some me time this weekend?
Jaspie I had to giggle at you falling asleep on your course haha, naughty baby jaspie 🙈
As for me all seems well, im just having a soak in the bath then im going to slather myself in moisturiser! The skin on my belly and boobs is all flaky its gross, i remember having this with DS too. Ive not had any headaches today which is fab too and I seem to be craving capri suns (for the non UK ladies they are an orange drink in a pouch if you dont have them where you are). Im not feeling baby move as such but am having alot of pressure around where baby and a funny sensation like its pushing my insides so baby must be getting comfy.
Im struggling to find an outfit for my leaving doo next week or for a wedding i have next month. Honestly maternity wear is soooo crap and I hate buying clothes online 😡
I have a couple of days off work now so im going to drop DS at nursery tomorrow then catch up on some chores/food shop and have a little bit of me time whilst its quiet 😊 xx

 

[Blu10]

Oh ps the pregnancy bad dreams have started... i dreamt that I aborted my baby then changed my mind! So horrible x