Hormones or over reaction?

[tamina800]

This is yet another "am I overreacting" question in this board
My mother in law has been visiting us..she's been with us the past 3 months and I can't wait for her to leave next week for various reasons.
I recently took an art class and made a painting for my 4 year old son to hang on his wall, of his favorite superhero character. Being a non-artist, I spent time and effort, took a class and gifted it to him with a lot of excitement. He loved it and it now hangs on his wall.
The next day my mother in law told him she wants to gift him something too. She spent a week on it and when she presented it to him, it was a similar painting of the same character! She asked him to hang it on his wall.
Am I beig unreasonable to think that was either a very mean or a very foolish thing to do? She knows how much doing that for my son meant to me. How will it be unique anymore? Should I tell her I felt bad?

 

[BabyHopes1974]

Sounds like she wasn't being very sensitive. I would definately be annoyed if that happened to me.

 

[DolceBella]

I would just take hers down after she leaves.

 

[Alovelikexo]

I would take it down too. Put it away & only bring it out when she's around. Convince him it's a treat to have it out when nana is about but otherwise it's put in a safe place.

 

[mummy3]

There's no way she didn't know that was out of order. I'd be asking why she did that, talk it out so it doesn't become a regular thing she pulls!

 

[jzgrace]

I don't think you are overreacting at all. My mom us SUPER competitive with my inlaws and my husband. She always wants to do more for me and do it better. Some people are lime that when they are insecure about something. My husbands mom is an ordained minister and when my mom found out that my mil was to marry my dh and I, my mom went online and applied to be an ordained minister. She said ...and I quote..." if I had got my papers in time I WOULD HAVE BEEN THE ONE TO MARRY YOU BOTH." She has also said "I hate it when his family tells you they love you." (She didnt raise me, she actually left my dad and brothers and I when I was 2) so she gets extremely jealous of ANY relationship I have with another woman or girl that is not her or my half sister. So im not suprused that your mil would resort to doing something like that. It is a personal issue she needs to work out. So talking to her would probably get the ball rolling toward her never overstepping boundaries like that again.

 

[Kato2]

If it were me I would explain how I felt to my husband and expect him to ask his mother why she did that and explain I was hurt by it.

 

[tamina800]

The problem is I can't talk to my husband. He instantly starts calling me names. I can anticipate what he is going to call me - petty, small minded. In his eyes, his mother is a fuc*%*# goddess. I'm tired of his name calling.

 

[Kato2]

The problem is I can't talk to my husband. He instantly starts calling me names. I can anticipate what he is going to call me - petty, small minded. In his eyes, his mother is a fuc*%*# goddess. I'm tired of his name calling.

Oh that must make it difficult then. I'm not sure what I would advise then... I 100% don't think your over reacting but it's difficult to advise what you should do in relation to discussing with your MIL. Do you think saying something would make her understand or do you think it would fall on dead ears? If talking to her would have no positive outcome I would possibly not bother but if you think it may help her understand then I would perhaps approach saying your 'upset' as opposed to angry with her. Hope that helps x

 

[PrincessMommy]

It is difficult to say, but I would just take it off of his wall. I wouldn't even wait. If she asks- tell her why you did what you did. You made something special for him and you felt like she tried to trump you and that was not nice. If she doesn't understand then don't worry about it. It's your house and not hers, after all