My cousin had a horrible time with her 2nd birth that she was telling me about yesterday. Long story, scary story (In my opinion) This may all be TMI, so only read on if you want. It was her 2nd pregnancy (The boy is just under a year old now). Her mom was visiting but left by around 7pm- and she was feeling absolutely normal. By midnight, she had shooting pains that were overwhelming, so she called her mom to come over. Her mom didnt think it would happen too quickly, so she said "Let me have a shower first, then I will pop over and we will head to the hospital" (Her mom lives about 15 min away from her, and the hospital she was delivering at was just over 1 hour away.. which is 100% normal here because it is a small town in the middle of no where). She had to scream about how urgent it was to get her mom to change her mind about the whole 'taking a shower thing' before she got her point across. Now on to the graphic bit. Once in the vehicle on their way, her water broke. She started bleeding heavily & due to the amount if pain and numbness of everything all together, she started peeing herself uncontrollably while in the passenger seat. She was literally soaked from the belly button down because her clothing was soaking everything up- the floor boards were soaked and it was like she had poured buckets of water through the interior of the passenger seat. It was January (This is Canada, so just imagine -30 or colder Celcius, or around -45C if you factor in windchill) and she was soaking wet and they get to the hospital and are finally put in to a room. They check her and she is only 3 cm. The doctor, for some stupid reason this part of the story makes me angry, comes in around 3am (They had been at the hospital under 2 hours) and says " I'll see you at 8 in the morning, I don't think you will be progressing much more" and he leaves!! Then, right before 4am, she gets up to go to the washroom and is struck immediatly with the urge to push. The nurses scream at her not to, which she doesnt, and by the time she is laying back down in the bed with the nurse trying to get gloves on, my cousin screams "The head is already out!" and before the nurse had time to react to do anything to help, the baby was born. My cousin had such horrible tearing that she was in surgery for 2.5 hours afterward! AHHHHHHH my eyes almost popped out of my head when she told me this, and her mom was standing there nodding to confirm it. What a horrible thing to go through, but at least the baby was healthy! I have such fears of tearing- this may be TMI, but for me, sex has always been painful because of how narrow I am down there, and it still is painful even now. I am so scared of having such a terrible tear as she did and she said that sex for her had never been painful so she showed concern for me and all I can picture is being pieced back together now too! She said that even though it has been almost a year she is still tender down there, she says it still looks horrible and disfigured! She says she is very self conscious, even with her babies daddy, about her 'lower area' now and is afraid it wont go back to normal! What a horror story!! I would have been sooo upset if that was me.