How are you trying to get smile back on your faces?

[piranha]

It was and still is so hard after a loss/es. As for all of us there are good and bad days for me along the way.

Yesterday morning i woke up all positive, but then on my way to work saw my neighbor with her 1 month old baby. After that all morning at work felt very teary (thank God friday is a short day). After work tried to pick myself up and headed to gym still feeling bad, but then change the direction and went to cinema
I don't normally go to cinema on my own. But that's not the point.... I watched Final destination 5 (3D you know with flying blood and eyeballs in your face ). I don't like that kind of films, i never watch them
BUT i loved it!!! It so distracted me (don't remember seeing even 1 baby in it), i came out smiling from ear to ear. Life was all good again.

I never thought it would take a horror movie to get me back on track when i'm feeling like there is no hope.


What tricks are helping you to get through a bad day?

 

[threebirds]

Hiya p,
We went to quite extreme measures & got married yesterday!!
We had begun to talk about it when I was preg but then really decided to go for it after our loss. It has been a really good part of the healing process for us. (It was s civil ceremony with 2 friends, we hadn't told anyone - this was something we did for us, our way & luckily our families are v happy for us, and a bit surprised hehe - we made a decision not to tell them about our loss even tho we are v close to them, we had been days away frm announcing we were preg when it happened).
Its been so lovely to have this good thing in our lives right now and to celebrate our love after what we have been through. xx
P.S. Talk about timing, I actually ovulated yesterday on our wedding day!!

 

[chiapso]

Hiya p,
We went to quite extreme measures & got married yesterday!!
We had begun to talk about it when I was preg but then really decided to go for it after our loss. It has been a really good part of the healing process for us. (It was s civil ceremony with 2 friends, we hadn't told anyone - this was something we did for us, our way & luckily our families are v happy for us, and a bit surprised hehe - we made a decision not to tell them about our loss even tho we are v close to them, we had been days away frm announcing we were preg when it happened).
Its been so lovely to have this good thing in our lives right now and to celebrate our love after what we have been through. xx
P.S. Talk about timing, I actually ovulated yesterday on our wedding day!!

congrats!

We were going to get engaged on the 8th of august but I miscarried on the 6th - It was a lovely hotel and in a nice place. I was so disheartened we didnt get to have our engagement.

4 weeks after the miscarriage we got engaged! I now have a lovely sparkly ring to show for it. I kept busy by stopping my degree ( intense ) and doing a lovely 1 day a week art course, I need time to heal as i suffer from bipolar aswell but its 2 month on and im only just starting to feel good again - although I still think about what could of been

 

[jessy1101]

I actualy created a thread called who wants to be in the pupo group for october. The whole point of it is to bring out the positive in where we're at right now with the whole TTC after a lost. It has helped me soooo much because it'S crazy feel good posts that make u LOL all the time.

Feel free to take a peek of u want a good laugh and if ur into crazy posting dont be shy to jump in. I'm thankfull to have met such hilarious women that make the day easier to go by

Sending u tons of positive vibes sweety!

 

[FreeSpirit]

I've found all sorts of things to cheer up, even if its for a few minutes or hours. From the smallest things like coloring my hair, a hot bubble bath, or buying some new make-up. Having a glass of wine (or 3) with my friends. Watching movies or shows that make me laugh (favorites: anything with Will Ferrell, Family Guy, Bridesmaids.etc).

One weekend I went up north with my family and sat in front of a bonfire for hours and hours - and just relaxed. I try to live in the moment more now. Its been a few months now - and I still have so many friends that seem to know without me saying that I am getting quiet and sad... they pick up on it and bring me out of my sadness. Its easy for me to get absorbed into my own sadness, my own feelings. I notice if I pay more attention to whats going on in the moment... its not so hard anymore.

I have found a huge support system that I never knew I had. Even at work - I work with alot of men. And I was shocked when so many of them found out - they turned into the kindest people - I never knew they could be that way. Some of the biggest tough guys - melted the second they found out what had happened. I realized that more people than I had ever realized.... really do care.

 

[CARNAT22]

Hiya p,
We went to quite extreme measures & got married yesterday!!
We had begun to talk about it when I was preg but then really decided to go for it after our loss. It has been a really good part of the healing process for us. (It was s civil ceremony with 2 friends, we hadn't told anyone - this was something we did for us, our way & luckily our families are v happy for us, and a bit surprised hehe - we made a decision not to tell them about our loss even tho we are v close to them, we had been days away frm announcing we were preg when it happened).
Its been so lovely to have this good thing in our lives right now and to celebrate our love after what we have been through. xx
P.S. Talk about timing, I actually ovulated yesterday on our wedding day!!

Congrats to you - fingers crossed for a "honeymoon" baby for you hun

xxxxxxxx

 

[Twinkie210]

OHHHH Threebirds! Even better than a "honeymoon" baby- a "wedding night" baby!

 

[NewbieLisette]

Great post you guys! I wish I had a list to add but i haven't quite found a magic formula yet...so far loving texts from concerned friends make me smile and great big hugs from H that remind me how much closer this experience has brought us!

Hope for more smiles and brighter days ahead for us all!

 

[franks17]

I've lost 3 angels currently being tested so can hopefully conceive new year if everything is ok its been a while since I've had the 3rd mc (January) and I've just stopped thinking about it I won't let myself if I find myself thinking I go watch tv or read a book I will never forget my babies but it hurts too much to think about it all the while maybe if I can't help but think about it then I think about the happy times like how exciting was to get a positive test and have that smile from ear to ear I will have a healthy baby one day if I think negative it hurts

 

[Sparkern]

After our loss we went out and bought a new house! What we went through kind of made us throw caution to the wind. We were unable to sell (after two years) so we decided to part exchange. Don't think I would've done that if it hadn't have been for what we went through and losing our baby. It has given be something positive and hopeful to focus on through the dark times. xx