How baby Georgia came into the world -josephine3's birth story (warning traumatic)

[josephine3]

This is the story of how my baby girl was born... And the scary moments which followed.

It may be in a few parts as my phone cant keep up!

On 11th august I went shopping round town, bumped into some friends so did a fair bit of walking, maybe more than id planned. One of them told me how she'd gone into labour after a long shopping trip with her mum then eating a curry....

Later on that night oh wanted a take away so i thought why not? I like spicy curry anyway so went ahead and ordered one.. It was yummy lol. As i was goin to bed i thought i may as well go for it so bounced on my ball a lil and had a cup of raspberry leaf tea for good luck....
To be continued...

 

[josephine3]

....at 2am I woke feeling sick, and threw up most of my curry. I went to the loo and lost a big chunk of plug. Felt a little excited! Woke again at 6am with strange pains in my hips. lost a lot more plug (this now continued all day) . I couldnt sleep and had an uncontrollable urge to do the washing up, so got up, finished packing my bags and cleaned up a bit.. Mananged to doze for half hr on the sofa. The pains were like burning in my thighs and hips, not like id imagined contractions to be at all. I got in the bath an didnt want to get out.. When i did around 2pm the pains worsened and i had to groan and sway around. Got my partner to start timing them, they were around every 5-10 mins, lasting about 30 seconds, but every other one was a weaker one. We decided to call the birth centre and let them kno things were happening....

 

[josephine3]

...we called Serenity (birth centre i had chosen as it is attatched to Birmingham City hospital). They told us to call again when contractions were 3 mins apart lasting at least a min each.....
I had another bath and by the time i got out i was yelling at my partner for help and havin him massage my hips through contractions. For some reason i forgot all about the pain relief ideas id had for aromatherapy and hot water bottles etc.. Thinking mayb id use them at the hospital/birth centre. By 9pm on the night i knew we had to go, but felt no immediate panic or rush. We got ready to leave, rang the birth centre again as they were now coming 3-4 mins apart, and around 40 secs long. The oh now suddenly decides hes hungry and is going to make a bacon and egg sandwich lol! I couldnt have cared less what he made at this point lol but knew he needed to eat. So after that we got in the car where i finally used my hot water bottle for pain relief. It worked really well and kept me sane till we got to the birth centre.

They checked me out and i was 4-5 cm which i thought sounded about right. The mw got me started on some gas and air which was amazing. Took away a lot of the pain.. She started getting the pool running for me too. I was comfy on the rocking chair but decided to try the pool when it was ready....

 

[josephine3]

..and thats when i felt things really stepped up. The gas n air was no longer taking away all the pain and i was starting to get scared..however what felt like minutes later the mw came in and said i was making some good noises, like pushing noises. This spurred me on a lot. I also felt my waters pop around now. It all gets a little blurry from here, but she said i didnt need checking again as she could see babys head when i gave a little push!

I found the pushing stage to be the most painful, and was pushing for an hr and a half! My partner was holding my hips up the entire time, and eventually the poor soul got in as his back was aching so much. I screamed and swore throughout the pushing phase, and the gas just made it feel like she was going back in. I remember saying she was stuck and i couldnt push any harder - but of course, she wasnt stuck and out she came at 2.56am 13th august. her body came out with the same contraction as her head, and i said 'shes out' but no-one seemed to react, i think the mw was suprised her body follwed so fast.

The mw passed her up to me and after only a few seconds she took her first breath, but didnt cry..she was very calm.. I was very shocked, and still in a lot of pain! The birth was over but the scary part was yet to come... One more part of story to follow...

 

[josephine3]

Sorry this is longer than i intended but its helping me get it all clear in my head...also my phone keeps deleting what iv typed arrrgghhhh... So it may be 2 parts im afraid sorry lol. Well done if ur still following here!
..I wanted to bf straight away but the cord was too short and was pulling and rubbing on my sore parts! The mw left it to finish pulsating then oh cut the cord. I fed my baby for a few minutes and the placenta came very quickly.. I pushed it out a little then the mw asked me to stand up to help it deliver. It plopped out immediately as i stood up, but i then felt very faint. The mw helped me out of the pool as she said the heat of the water wasnt helping, and she lay me down on the floor. I tried to sit up but couldnt and was passing out. Apparently i was out a few times but i only remember once when i felt like i was dreaming and woke up to people shouting my name. People started rushing in and i started to panic. Someone mentioned an epidural and i freaked out. I have always been scared of intervention and this was the last thing i wanted. I couldnt sit up so they lifted me up on a hoverbed thing, which was nice and soft, but then onto a hard board, and then bed. I was wheeled to another room followed by my partner and baby. I hated this room. It was full of poeple who ignored me and seemed to faff about doing nothing....

 

[josephine3]

....no-one seemed to be listening to my requests for sips of water or a pillow for my head, just to feel a bit more comfy. I suppise everyone was doing their jobs but no-one was helping me it felt like I was getting frusrated and in a lot of pain still, someone told me off for swearing which i did not appreciate! Eventually someone explained to me that i needed a spinal anaesthetic to investigate why i was loosing so much blood and to sort it all out. I reluctantly signed the consent form and made it clear i wasnt going in without my oh.
Once the spinal was in place i calmed down a lot! It was very surreal having all these people around my lady parts but it almost felt like it was happening to someone else. They had a good poke around my uterus ad i think pulled out a little retained placenta..but most of the blood loss was from a 3rd degree tear,which wasnt immediately apparent as my perinium was still intact! (maybe from the massage i had done?) however they had to cut it apart to fix the inside
I was in theatre for maybe an hr then wheeled to a recovery room....

 

[josephine3]

...here i was given fluids and ha a blood transfusion. People kept going on about how low my blood pressure was..i had drips in both hands and people coming to take blood, blood pressure cuff on constantly, heart monitors, the works. I hated it and ended up crying cos i could see my baby in the cot but couldnt reach to touch her, and the docttor said i couldnt have her lay onto me. This was the same one who had told me off for swearing, i hated him. Later a nice mw laid her on me it was lovely. But by then i really felt so traumatised and like id been without my baby for hrs.
Slowly we all got moved from the high-dependency room to other rooms as i got unhooked from monitors, catheter removed etc. Eventully we ended up on the ward, at around 8.30pm on the 13th, 17 hrs after Georgia arrived. My partner then had to leave as visiting hrs end at 9pm. I was exhausted and had to look after my baby all alone.

I had 3hrs sleep between 6am sunday morning and 8pm wednesday night when we were finally discharged. It was the worst few days of my life. But now we are home and doing well I am falling in love with my baby girl.

Thank you to anyone who read this far! Xxx

 

[sar89]

Hey im sorry you had such a bad time of things but congrats on your baby girl

 

[wanaBmummy]

Sounds like you had to go through a lot but congratulations and you can now enjoy being a mummy!! x

 

[oox_tasha_xoo]

Sorry you had such a tough time, but huge congrats xxx

 

[Mummy2B21]

Congratulations xx

 

[Sushai]

Wow! That was full on at the end but Well done for getting through it. Congrats!!

 

[josephine3]

Thanks ladies!i was just so upset that my nice natural birth turned into such a drama. The way the doctors treated me and spoke to me i was not happy about. I do think i didnt help things by panicing. Nobody seemed to think that i might want to hold my baby either. The midwives were all really nice tho. Was all very scary. Id have done the birth part twice rather than do the post-birth drama!

 

[shantehend]

Congratulations!! Sorry it was so traumatic for you.

 

[Laurenj22]

Wow a birth story and a half. Glad your both well and big congratulations on the birth of your daughter. X

 

[armywife11]

Oh Jo!

Glad your home and doing well now!

 

[likeaustralia]

Congrats Josephine! I had 3 internal tears, so I know how you feel!! Try to take it easy as much as you can and enjoy that new little baby

 

[MrsButterfly]

Wow - you certainly went through it at the end. But congrats on your baby girl

 

[mara16jade]

Wow I'm so sorry it was traumatic!

How are you feeling now?

 

[josephine3]

Thanks for reading sorry it was so lengthy!
we're both doing well now im just tired and sore! Getting used to being a new mum and trying to find time to keep up with it all.. They take up more time than i thought!