How bad is 1.5year age gap?

[KylasBaby]

So we were going to ttc#2 next spring (I want a February/March baby) so that would be just before our daughter turns 2 so would be a 2.5 year age gap. However, I'm ridiculously broody right now it's not even funny! So I'm thinking maybe of trying this spring which would make a 1.5 year age gap.

How bad is it really?
Is all the horror of 2 under 2 true?

 

[Eleanor ace]

There's 21 months between my 1st and 2nd and its great

 

[KylasBaby]

Thanks! Was pregnancy hard with one that little? I know I was nauseous the first 20 weeks and was so exhausted and couldn't sleep!

 

[Septie]

I have a 2 year gap exactly, and now a 4/6 year gap. My first 2 pregnancies were quite easy, but the third quite awful - so if the other kids had been younger during my third pregnancy, it would have been terrible indeed.
If you've always wanted a 2.5 year gap - I'd still aim for that. As broodiness will likely return after your second and third child!! It certainly did for me (if I could, I'd have a 4th in a sec!). I wouldn't let temporary urges affect a lifelong decision. Also, in terms of school, it might be better to have two years gap, so that if one kid needs to be held back or skip a year, they don't end up in the same class year...Just another thought.

 

[KylasBaby]

I've never wanted any certain gap. We has picked that before our daughter was born for no reason really.

 

[donnarobinson]

We have a 24 month gap & now a 22 month gap
It's hard some days but doesn't stay hard and seeing them play together is great I get extreme morning sickness and still managed the tiredness was hard to deal with X

 

[jessmke]

My twin sisters are 16 months older than me, so my mother had 3 under the age of 2! It was great for is growing up because we would play really well with each other, but I'm sure it was a handful for my mom!

 

[Spudtastic]

I say just start trying. I am an older mum so this could account for it but....

Dd1 was conceived in the may and I only came of birth control at Christmas. I figured I'd conceive no2 quite quickly. After a terrible pregnancy and birth I wasn't ready to try again until dd1 was 10 months old (af arrived back at 11 months).
Instead of conceiving quickly nothing happened for 7 months. Then I had a Mc followed by an mmc. Now I am incredibly lucky to have my beautiful dd2 and there is a 3 year age gap.

So I reckon get bd-ing.

 

[KylasBaby]

Well there is no bding as we use a donor. But I conceived both my loss and my daughter the first cycle trying so I'm hoping it will be this easy the third time around as well.

But pretty sure dd put me in my place. Was up from 4-5:30 for absolutely no good reason. Pretty sure my ovaries have run away so I don't get pregnant anytime soon.

 

[Spudtastic]

I didn't look at your signature...sorry. I see your loss too. It''s night here and I'm keeping myself awake for bf but I'm very much half asleep.

Funny how babies will make us soo broody and then go and do something like keeping you awake.

I think whatever age gap you go for there are the positives and the challenges so I guess whenever you are ready is a good time.

 

[pinksmarties]

There is 19 months between DS1 and DS2. I'll admit it was very difficult to start off with, back to sleepless nights, bf'ing whilst looking after a toddler that was still very needy was challenging. I was wracked with guilt over not spending the time with DS1 that I used too and that was difficult for me. It did get easier as DS2 was a much better sleeper that ds1 ever was.

My two are 3 year and 18 months old and are back to being a handful again, as toddlers are meant to be, but they are great and get on well. Seeing them play together and laugh and giggle is just the best.

 

[Septie]

Just another thought in favor of a slightly longer gap: If you start ttc in a couple of months and fall pregnant straight away, you may not get to fully enjoy the babyhood of DD1 (due to nausea, fatigue, possible bedrest etc.). I find the first years of life so fast-paced and exciting, that it would be sad to miss out. At a 2.5 gap, they will still be close enough to play together, but the first one may be walking well during your pregnancy., and possibly be free of diapers once #2 arrives.

 

[Buttercup84]

I'll let you know after 29th Feb lol, that's when my third is due and the age gap between my youngest 2 will be 17 months. This pregnancy has been tough I must admit, not just with already having a baby/young toddler and a preschooler but more than I anticipated in general. I pretty much breezed through my first 2 pregnancies so I joke that this one is giving me all the grief With my first 2 I had an almost 3 year age gap and my oldest was obviously much more independent so it was easier in a lot of ways but it'll be a little while before they're able to play together properly, oldest just tends to get frustrated with the youngest at the moment. I think all age gaps have their pros and cons though and you just adapt

 

[VickyLou]

My daughter is almost 15 months and I'm pregnant with my second (11+3) wasn't planned and was such a shock but I'm slowly getting used to it. I figure there is no right time really, in an ideal world I would of waited till DD was 2.5-3 years but it's happened now. I know it's going to be hard work in the short term but long term it will be so worth it seeing her with a sibling. I say go for it of its what you want, there is never a right time for a child/children. Something always crops up when you least expect it. If you want it and feel ready go for it good luck

 

[george83]

I have 2 1/2 years between ds1 and ds2 and then 15 months between ds2 and ds3. I actually found it much harder going from 1 to 2 children than 2 to 3 even with the smaller age gap. I feel like I never left the baby stage with ds2 and everything with ds3 has just been a progression from ds2 doing it, literally when ds2 out grows something - clothes, toys, feeding stages etc - ds3 has pretty much picked up where he left off. The only thing I struggled with is the guilt that ds1 had so much attention until he was 2 1/2 but ds2 missed out on so much. He was only 7 months old when I found out I was pregnant again and my morning sickness was terrible so I seems like from 7 months on he's been left out and not had the attention I wanted to give him

 

[sethsmummy]

I have a 1 year 9 month gap roughly between my two. It's ok when they're younger. Right now it's a nightmare because ds2 is going through crazy terrible twos and mr 1 is just learning about hitting etc and won't leave his brothers alone. This leads to many a "fight" where one hurts the other and I. Can't leave them alone for a minute. But then there are times they play so nice together x

 

[KylasBaby]

My ovaries have jumped ship. LO has been up and down all night the past couple nights. I'd definitely like some sleep before we think about another.

 

[jessmke]

Haha! Good plan! My hubby is older so we are only planning on having one child, but he did tell me the other day that he would consider having another, but it would have to happen very soon. Ya, I don't think so!!

 

[maria43]

There's a 20month (ish) age gap between my two youngest boys and it's amazing. No regrets having them close together at all, their bond is so cute! Best friends for life, honestly.

It is hard sometimes, especially when they were younger and I had a toddler and a young baby but it was still fun then! They're 5 and 3 now and inseparable.

 

[Kirsty3051]

There's 9.5 months between our 2 and we love it difficult at times but you'll get that with all age gaps xx