how can i be more firm without involving a solicitor?

[21Rach]

i really don't wanna get words like solicitor/courts/legal contracts involved if poss... wanna avoid that whole scenario if possible. Situation being fob will not communicate properly. I have to persistently text him, and usually will find out he's going to be late here/early back/can't make that day... but if he would just communicate properly i wouldnt have a problem with that, just the fact i wouldnt know until the very last second, and need to pester him to find anything out... also it's meaning i can never make half the plans i'd like to as i need 2 wait to fit around his last minute changes. I've tried reasoning with him, but the communication is going down hill x

 

[MissEfendi]

Write an agreement of when he sees LO, get him to sign it, make sure you add that if he changes plans he is to let you know the day before, otherwise you will wait just 20 mins on the day and if he has not turned up will deem the visit cancelled and he will have to wait until the next visit to see LO.

 

[Laura2919]

I have already spoke to you about this so sorry for repeating lol..
You can go to a solicitor and have an agreement drawn up and it will be explained to him that if he breaks the agreement you can start court proceedings.

I have trouble with Chloe and Jaycee's dad sometimes and I think maybe I should but then I think its gonna drag up so many issues.

Anyway, Tell him that if he dont stick to the rules then you will go to court.. Sometimes its the better option!

 

[21Rach]

same here if i knew it would be simple and both sides co-operating i'd prob go for it but if it was gonna be simple they'd sign the agreement minus solicitors involvement lol xx

 

[tinkabells]

Yeah as others have stated get an agreement, but you shouldnt have to constantly txt him to find out about his lateness or any other means xxx

 

[21Rach]

well hes dropped him home and he will be having him again some time this week. hes (again) not checked when hes working days/shifts so i've said find out tomorrow and text ME lol. x

 

[MissEfendi]

Could he not ask his work for a month or fortnight advance on all his shifts so that you can plan? Kids needs routine and consistenty. I would still do the agreement, there are sample access agreements online. You don't need a solictor involved to do your own private agreement.
Tell him not to put himself out too much!