How did you do it? Pregnant while single.

[elsmogro]

Hi,
I am with the FOB after nearly 6 years and he wants me to get rid of it.. he screams and shouts at me telling me I am ruining his life I feel completly torn at what to do.. I am terrified of being a single mum at 31.. I will have to move back into my mums house and bring up a child alone with no dad.. Is that possible? Is it best to terminate and start again with someone else.. I am so alone and confused.. I live 4 hours away from all my friends and family as I followed my boyfriend when he wanted to move away and have no one to talk to
x

do what YOU want!! you will be fine. Im going to be a single mum at 26, yes its going to be hard but im going to do it regardless. I have been living back at my parents house for the last 9 weeks and have now found a place of my own that i am decorating and preparing for when baby comes so you can do it too. Just move back in with your parents and get yourself on the council list (if your in the UK) and while your on there look for an affordable private place too. you will be fine. I totally understand how scary it is as im in the same situation so feel free to msg me if u ever need to chat


in reply to the thread....It is scary and worrying becoming a single parent whether it is your first or fifth and whether you were alone through your pregnancy or not. I have been on my own since i was 18 weeks because the FOB was not supportive, he was selfish and was basically not good enough for me or my unborn daughter (and still isnt)
Ive come to think that its easier for me to be alone, yeah id love to have someone to cuddle when im upset and hormonal. Someone to share my exitment and talk through worries and stuff but to be honest im happy.
I dont have to put up with the demands of a relationship or have to worry about shaving my legs and trying to be sexy when im not feeling it (or have the energy for any antics like that anyway lol) i can plan my house/birth/parenting choices completly myself without having to consider anothers feelings and views!!!!
Also there are amazing people here who are in the same situation that can offer support and an ear to listen to my rantings and advice


oooh that reply turned into a bit of a rant haha

 

[Kayles1/8/08]

hey lily!

i was a single mother with my first daughter went through entire pregnancy and only febuary she started seeing her father (nearly 4 years later) i was 17 when i fell pregnant and was so ill the doctor signed me off from working..i was young,skint,single and pregnant! i thought my life was over i had a horrible pregnancy i lived in a pokey 1 bedroom flat on my own had zero support from family and friends and had 2 months before falling pregnant tragically lost my dad who i was very close too! i hated my whole pregnancy if im honest and cried ALOT...but when my baby girl was put in my arms all those memories just dissapeared ..since then my life got better and better! i have a healthy daughter who is almost 3! yeah money was tough..social life wasnt great but i had something greater than anything anyone had! my baby girl! i wouldnt change her for everything in the world she has been my rock and without her id never have got out that rut i was in! it was like she was there for a reason to take me away from all the badness! single parents are not givin the respect and recognition they deserve! it really does take someone strong to carry and bring up a child on there own so go u give ur self a massive pat on the back and dont be scared! these nobodys asking nosey questions have nothing more exciting in life than to try pick on other people..btu u have an amazing baby on the way so stay focused on that and forget about all those snotty nobodys! only ur baby matters now XXXXXXXXXXXXx

 

[MidnightSun]

When people ask me about FOB I don't give much away to be honest, it's mine and my daughter's business not theirs...

I haven't spoken to him since I was 12 weeks pregnant, not seen him since 6 weeks and my usual reply when people ask about him is 'not heard a dickybird and quite like it that way, I'm very happy' ... then I change the subject lol

My pregnancy was lovely apart from having Hyperemesis from weeks 5-17 and yes it would have been lovely to have had a partner around to have cared for me, as I literally wasn't any use to anyone, but all in all I love being on my own and having my darling baby all to myself... x x

Cosmic Star I am 31, and never imagined this is what life held for me - but I am deleriously happy and love my life... it can be done hun, please don't make a lifechanging decision that you may regret just because a man tells you to! x x

 

[whoops]

Hi,
I am with the FOB after nearly 6 years and he wants me to get rid of it.. he screams and shouts at me telling me I am ruining his life I feel completly torn at what to do.. I am terrified of being a single mum at 31.. I will have to move back into my mums house and bring up a child alone with no dad.. Is that possible? Is it best to terminate and start again with someone else.. I am so alone and confused.. I live 4 hours away from all my friends and family as I followed my boyfriend when he wanted to move away and have no one to talk to
x

I was you this time last year and I chose to have my baby and move back home. FOB pays maintenance but has no interest in meeting her.

It's been a tough year, I won't pretend otherwise, but I've spent the last hour looking at photos of my beautiful daughter on my phone while I'm supposed to be studying - the happiness I now feel and my love for her is worth all the pain of the past year. Things aren't perfect but they're a lot closer to perfection than I would have imagined they'd be all last year.

 

[louloubelle76]

I know this post is over a month old but im glad i have read it, having a down night tonight, keep thinking about my ex and what a selfish wanker he is not even acknowledging that im pregnant, my reckons he may think im lying about being pregnant but he will know when he gets the scan picture in a few weeks, just feeling really down tonight

 

[SophiasMummy]

Me and FOB broke up when I was 11 weeks preg, I just concentrated solely on my growing bump I had friends come see me occasionally etc, but mostly I just focused on staying upbeat for bump, I got funny looks sometimes I was 20 at the time but looked younger so I just gave them funny looks right back to be honest I get the same looks now when me and LO go out from some women, I figure there just jealous I have such a gorgeous baby so I ignore them xx

 

[Ju_bubbs]

I applied for income support as a lone parent when OH left me a few weeks back.. then I got called in for a benefit fraud interview, JUST because I was pregnant and single.. apparently coz I'm pregnant, I had to be lying about being single! I couldn't believe it!