Hi,
I have 2 children from a previous relationship. When I got with my partner they were so young that they cant remember life before her. It actually took us several months to decide to commit to eachother (it is the 1st same sex relationship for us both) as we wanted to make sure that it would be the right thing for the kids. They are now 6 and 4 and have grown into very lovely, understanding children!
We get the odd question from them but generally speaking...to them this is just normal. Our eldest is a boy and I thought that he would have been bringing questions home from school (as he is already talking about being "sexy" and boobs). But school is very understanding and they are just as prepared for it as us
Where we live though...there are NO other SSPs...it is very un-known and we are the only ones in their new school from what I know so far.
The only problem we get is similar to some one else that has replied to this....my ex plants nasty seeds in their heads! But our kids love to tell him that he is wrong
The biggest thing that helped our cause there is that I split up from my ex after 6 years of abuse of every level possible. My kids, esp the eldest, heard and saw a lot of what happened. So to them...2 mums are far better than living with him
They do struggle to get their heads around 2 dads though, we dont have contact with any such families but the puzzlement came up when we were talking about a dog with 2 daddies...which lead onto the subject of kids with 2 dads.
The best thing is to teach your children about values, love and equality. I guess it would also help to have a network of other similar families, but we actually dont know any other SSPs...which is something i want to change at some point so that when they have issues they can turn to someone else who knows exactly how that feels.
What would also be great is to have some books with SSPs in it...but not being specifically about that subject. I have noticed any SSP books are focused on that subject, but would be nice to have a book about going swimming, or birthday parties, going to the seaside...etc but the parents just happen to be SSP...because it is normal. Would also be great to see more same sex couples on the tv before the watershed...so the kids can see that we are a normal part of society!
Hope that helps!!! Jenni