How did you tell your FOB he's not going on birth cert?

[bther]

I don't have my dad on my birth cert and I hated it. I do not understand why anyone would want to leave their child's father blank on their birth cert. How bloody likely is it that everyone of the 'dad's that you lot are talking about on here are honestly going to run off with the children? I think its really sad and out of order, and I am a single parent, my FOB wasn't there through my pregnancy but has fully stepped up since she was born. :Like someone else said, unless there's been actual violence or FOB has a history of violence or drugs there's no need to withold parental rights from them. I wonder how many fathers 'abduct' their children :/

You can't really harp on as you have no idea what my situation is. All i can say is you're very lucky to have a FOB like yours. Not all men are like that.

 

[melly4390]

my FOB will not be goin on pips ( thats wot i call my bump lol) bc he walked away and so far has only given me stress in wot is the most important tri when stress is the last thing i need or want, i have seen both sides my father was in and out of my life and all i rememeber when i was young was thinkin wot i had done for my dad not to want to see me much and why he didnt love me, that is not goin to be pip, my 11 yr old daughter has never seen her dad and he isnt on her bc either i seem to have picked two twats to have babies with although that being said i fell preg on the pill with my daughter. she has never missed having a dad and has never asked y she doesnt have one, she has had a very happy childhood and as ppl keep tellin me is a credit to me and i have done a brill job.
now in answer to you question how many dads keep there children and done give them back my FOB did that with his youngest two, he had a wobble with me like this one at easter and we split of a couple of weeks ( he is a stress head and things get to him where he needs time out) anyway i got a random text from him sayin he was sorry blah blah we started to txt for a couple of days and then on the fri he rang me to say i need you to go to tesco and buy me some clothes for the kids i have them, i though oh thats gud she has let him have them for the nite, the nxt call i got was, im goin away for the weekend and taking the kids dont tell anyone where i am!!!!!
then i got about 2 hrs later im comin back ring the police for me and meet me at home anyway to cut alone story short he had run off with the kids and she had called the police who were looking for him, i met him at home the police came and as he was on the bc he was allowed to keep them all weekend till monday till she was able to get to the court and get an order to get them back i was with him all weekend and she turned up at the door a mess he told her to go away and shut the door. now in his defence she hadnt let him see the kids for months so when she did he stepped over the line but its a line that has been crossed and wont be with my pip.
sorry for the long post guys

 

[Snowball]

That's the thing with FOB. When I was pregnant he gave me nothing but stress and upset. At 6 weeks he left me (in the middle of the night after he'd downed a bottle of wine). At 13 weeks I weighed around 7 stone (normal weight 9st). He'd begged me to abort him, told me he was going to be disabled and it would all be my fault for keeping him. I was told to go into hospital for fluids and it took me 48 hours to get him to come and have our other three children for a few hours so I could go. Looking back, I wish I hadn't have bothered asking. All of this could have damaged Louie and he couldn't have cared less . Then whilst I was in hospital he told me he was inviting people around my house unless I discharged myself... So I had to rush out.

Then a week later he sat me infront of a social worker and told me he didn't love me and hadn't for a long time. Then accused me of being mental (I had been with this guy for 6 1/2 years ). He told me to sleep with someone else, said I should have another man at Louie's birth. 4 days after Louie was born he went off to Butlins and left me with 4 children to care for just after giving birth and trying to establish bfing.

Why would I name him as a father if he has never acted like one? If he abused his PR to him and 'did' take him (he has threatened it before with our other children on the account of me being so mental), Louie wouldn't have a clue who he was . It doesn't surprise me that women want to protect their babies. I used to think I knew my ex inside out... Truth is, I never knew him at all.

 

[littlelinnies]

I don't have my dad on my birth cert and I hated it. I do not understand why anyone would want to leave their child's father blank on their birth cert. How bloody likely is it that everyone of the 'dad's that you lot are talking about on here are honestly going to run off with the children? I think its really sad and out of order, and I am a single parent, my FOB wasn't there through my pregnancy but has fully stepped up since she was born. :Like someone else said, unless there's been actual violence or FOB has a history of violence or drugs there's no need to withold parental rights from them. I wonder how many fathers 'abduct' their children :/

You can't really harp on as you have no idea what my situation is. All i can say is you're very lucky to have a FOB like yours. Not all men are like that.

I totally agree with this comment.. in fact I was a bit annoyed someone had made such a comment, when things arent black and white in life and they clearly dont know what its like to have a complete idoit in your childs life, i'm not going to allow freddy misery he doesnt deserve if hes dads not going to be a good dad to him.

 

[teal]

I don't have my dad on my birth cert and I hated it. I do not understand why anyone would want to leave their child's father blank on their birth cert. How bloody likely is it that everyone of the 'dad's that you lot are talking about on here are honestly going to run off with the children? I think its really sad and out of order, and I am a single parent, my FOB wasn't there through my pregnancy but has fully stepped up since she was born. :Like someone else said, unless there's been actual violence or FOB has a history of violence or drugs there's no need to withold parental rights from them. I wonder how many fathers 'abduct' their children :/

You can't really harp on as you have no idea what my situation is. All i can say is you're very lucky to have a FOB like yours. Not all men are like that.

I totally agree with this comment.. in fact I was a bit annoyed someone had made such a comment, when things arent black and white in life and they clearly dont know what its like to have a complete idoit in your childs life, i'm not going to allow freddy misery he doesnt deserve if hes dads not going to be a good dad to him.

Definitely agree girls Not everything is that simple.