How did you tell your parents??

[lizmageeful]

My parents werent that bad, me and FOB just kind of sat them down and blurted it out after id know for about a month... kind of regret telling them that late cause they were rather cool about it. His parents were awful though. We had only been together for 5 and a half months when we told them and we were 8 weeks pregnant... they did the math and werent vary happy. Also, his family is super catholic, so the whole "sex before marriage" thing didnt go over very well... he's been living with my family for the last 8 weeks since. But they are slowly coming around. I really hope they do soon.

 

[tbonexx]

I wrote my mum a letter and put it under her pillow.. I text her and told her to read it and told her to text when shed read it! she was fine with it.. much to my astonishment lol xx

 

[heyyydayyy]

I found out I was pregnant just a few weeks before I turned 20. I remember being terrified to tell my parents because they really didn't like my boyfriend due to a falling out we had. But about 2 days after I found out, I knew I had to tell them because it was best to get it out of the way. My mom was really upset at first, and lectured me on how no matter what happened with my and my OH, he was going to be in my life forever now. She wasn't happy. Then as time went on, my OH mended things with my family and everything totally changed. Instead of my parents looking at my pregnancy as a mistake I made, they looked as it as their grandchild. Now that I could have my baby any day, my mom is beyond excited and my whole family is really supportive of not only my baby, but of my relationship with my boyfriend. It's a huge relief. For anyone who is too scared to talk to your parents, just remember that the more time you give them to process everything, the easier it will be for them. They might be furious at first, but that will all go out the window when they see their grandbaby's face!

 

[xVAP]

I told my parents last night.
I was sat in my room with FOB and I was crying at the thought. My brother (who knew) came in and sat while I collected myself. Then he said to go down and tell my parents but I just couldn't. So he text my parents and told them to come into my room. I basically just blurted it out as soon as they walked in. My parents did NOT take it well and we still haven't said a word to each other since. I know it'll get better over time but right now things aren't great.

 

[divershona]

i told my dad first as i am closer to him, i waited until i was about 8 weeks and he went away for the weekend and text him, he immediately called me back and i didn't answer so he text me, he said something along the lines of well that's a bit of a shock but i will support you whatever you decide to do, he also came back that night and didn't spend the weekend away. My dad told mum about 2 weeks later when she came up to visit and I was away visiting my BF. Mum took it badly and said i had ruined my life but she did come around after about 2 months.

the 2nd time i got pregnant I sent them an email with a pic of my LO saying that she was going to be a big sister ... again they were shocked but didn't react quite as badly ... sadly i lost the baby and surprisingly my mum was really supportive, she never wanted me to loose the baby and wished i never had to go through that.

This time i'm waiting until after my 12 week scan to tell them as i want to make sure everything is okay. They both like my OH, and although it is quite soon we live independently and both work so I think it will be easier for them to take now.

 

[emmahopeful1]

Im 19 but me and OH own our own home so my mum and dad were over the moon. We were planning a wedding which is now on hold - but everyone was happy. Wasnt worried about telling them as me and OH are independant anyway.

I'm 20 and live with my fiance in our own place independently. I'm nearly 5 weeks... I shouldn't be but i'm really worried about telling my mum and dad. May wait until after the 12 wk scan!

 

[F0xybabe]

Im 19 but me and OH own our own home so my mum and dad were over the moon. We were planning a wedding which is now on hold - but everyone was happy. Wasnt worried about telling them as me and OH are independant anyway.

I'm 20 and live with my fiance in our own place independently. I'm nearly 5 weeks... I shouldn't be but i'm really worried about telling my mum and dad. May wait until after the 12 wk scan!

My advice would be don't wait!! You'll miss precious time to celebrate. It was nerve racking at first and my parents had to get use to the idea, but I realized the sooner I told them, the sooner we could celebrate And we did and I'm happy I didn't wait.

 

[emilyrlove94]

I text my mum saying i had something to tell her and i was really sorry. and then when I met her later that evening i couldn't bring myself to say it, and she just goes "well I think you're pregnant.." and so that's how she found out. My dad I didnt tell till I was about 12 weeks gone, and I'd told my step mum earlier that day and she said if i didnt tell him soon she was going to..anyway i was sat in the kitchen with him about to say it and she just burst into tears and goes "emilys having a baby" so that was that! x

 

[Amy89]

Just wanted to let you all know of my experience...I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant, not living with either my mum or my dad, neither with FOB at the time..
I found out in the morning, told my younger sister for support then sat waiting for my mum to come home...she hit the roof, like properly hit the roof. I went to my Dads house and told my step mum who text my dad and told him (against my wishes, I just wanted her advice). Everyone was furious, including FOB, like it was something I'd planned! Long story short, I was forced to have a termination, and its something that haunts me to this day.
To all you girls who are scared of telling your parents, just do it, it would have killed me keeping it a secret...and don't let anyone tell you what to do...I wish I'd had someone to tell me that it wasn't the end of the world, and now I really regret it.
Happily, OH and I are now TTC, but the reaction I got the first time around means I'm really dreading telling my parents this time...eventhough we live together completely independently, and it's something that we both want and are planning for.
Don't let your parents push you into what I did, if you can support yourself and look after that baby then there is nothing that should change that.
xx

 

[bsd]

My OH and I had been dating for almost 3 years at the time, and I was 2 months away from being 20! We were also engaged, planning a wedding (which obviously got postponed!), and didn't even live with my parents. They STILL reacted badly! Selfish people.. would it kill you to be there for me and not think only of yourself for 2 seconds!?

I was around 8 weeks, I only waited a week after I found out to tell them because I knew it had to be done eventually and I just wanted to get it over with. My mom started bawling her eyes out immediately, my dad was pissed off to say the least and walked away only to come back and yell at me 3 seconds later.. after a while of my mom not saying one word to me I asked if she was okay and she just blubbered out "NO I'M NOT!!" ... lets just say I got out of there as quickly as I could!

It took my mom around a week to get used to it. She never apologized about how she reacted or brought that up. I think she realized the circumstances didn't effect her at all except for the fact she got to be a grandma again (my sister has kids) and she was able to hold a little baby soon! Me and my OH actually ended up moving in with my parents about a month ago and she couldn't be more excited for the LO's arrival.

My dad is a different story entirely.. he's clinically insane. And extremely negative about everything in life. He didn't come around for a while.. every time I went to their house to visit he'd just complain about how I really screwed my life up and I have a lot on my plate and blah blah blah. When I showed him my 12 week ultrasound photos he just shook his head and walked away I was really pissed about it!

It seems now he is FINALLY starting to get used to it. about a month ago he asked about the baby's health for the first time ever. He asked if everything with my pregnancy was going okay. And last week he asked what his middle name was going to be so he seems to be a little interested now.. frankly I don't care what he thinks! I was a little disappointed he was so awful about it but he's disappointed me my whole life so no surprise there!

 

[we can't wait]

I told my mom while we were sitting in a parking lot waiting for my dad to buy auto parts. She told him about two months later...