How do I make him understand?

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I recently lost my first baby. It wasn't planned but I was thrilled to become a mother. The father & I have a part-time relationship. He plays sports professionally & I don't want to be in the spot light. After I found out I was pregnant I didn't know his to tell him, but only days later I miscarried. I work in health & knew its common to lose your baby early on. But when I told him (over two weeks ago) he said he needed time to process it. He never can and saw me. Wasn't there to hold my hand through the D&C. I'm continually sad & as our relationship isn't one we acknowledge publicaly, I have nobody else to turn to. I've tried explaining how sad, devastated I am. That I'm scared I'll never be able to carry a baby to term. He just stated he was more upset he got me pregnant. I know grief is different for everyone, but I feel like I'm doing this alone. It's worse now as he's on break & away & I'm at home studying for exams. All he's said is he's bringing me a present home. I don't need a present. I need a shoulder to cry on. Has anyone else been in this situation? What should I do? Thank you in advance.

 

[ItsAWonder]

I am sorry to hear you are not getting the support that you so need at this time. Although I am sure you have strong feelings for him, and he may be a good person, he is obviously not good at this. Maybe this is a way (not a good way) to know where you stand in his eyes. You have support here. You can find physical support at home via doctors, therapists, family, friends etc. I hope you find someone who will be by your side in the future in both the good and bad times. I know I have needed a lot of support lately and could not have gotten through my second m/c without help. I am sorry for your loss.