How do you cope with knowing you need to have a c-section?

[Angel2Fire]

I had a section with my first, he was breech and I had SPD so they didn't try turning him. I just accepted what the consultant said and didn't challenge anything.

I've just found out this baby has turned from transverse to frank breech The consultant said its likely I will need another c-section as breech babies run in my family

I'm so upset, I really wanted a vbac. I just feel there are so many negatives to having a c-section and don't want to go through it again. I really don't know how to get my head around it or how to prepare myself mentally.

I'm glad the baby is healthy, but I'm dreading having another c-section

Any advice?

Thanks for reading

 

[BlueHadeda]

Due to various reasons, I've had 3 c-sections. I hated each one of them, and are now faced with a 4th in less than 2 months. I cope with it by trying to forget about it! I don't know what else to do! Because I'm scared out of my mind, I'm not looking forward to it and I wish there was another option. But alas, no other way for me to have a baby! So I just try to focus on preparing for the baby, and not how baby will arrive. I'm hoping to go in labour before the planned c-section date (like I did with all mine) because I canNOT face the night before a planned date. I'll honestly be way too stressed out.

Good luck! In the end, just focus on having a healthy baby in your arms.

 

[nataliecn]

Sorry things aren't going as planned.
All you can really do is keep focused on the fact that it means there won't be the stress on the baby. When you have yourself focused on one way, I know it's awful. But the doctors do have to do what they think is best!
Maybe baby will turn?

 

[AlwaysPraying]

I dont have to have one but they are telling me I only have a 50-50 chance of a suscessful vbac if I tried. My doctor said bluntly that the biggest risk of a vbac is uterine rupture which could result in either baby or mother fatalities. The biggest risk of a other c section is "normal surgery complications". Basically I could risk my babies life or I could be more planned and cautious. Clearly he has an agenda and feels a section would be best when I read between the lines. He did say that many times a vbac is totally possible and complications really rarely happen. He just had a rupture 3 weeks previous where they had the baby out by c section in 8 minutes from rupture to baby out. So they went from the delivery room, prepped for surgery and got baby out in that time. Now 3 weeks later baby is ok but still in care. The hospital lost a baby from a failed 4 years previous. I really feel he holds these situations close to his heart. As a surgeon he has so much more control over outcomes in these circumstances and just wants to use that control to get successful outcomes.

So many people say that surgeons just want to cut and don't want to let women have a natural birth and that c sections are pushed too hard. But after my conversations with him I see it all very differently.

Sorry to go off track. Yes I wish I could have a vbac and I still may but if it comes to another c section then I welcome it.

 

[Baby321]

Like bluehadeda, this is also my 4th section. I feel very nervous as well. I just focus on preparing for baby and just block the thought of the section. I also do hope that I go into labour so, I get fed up of the pains and then want a section. I have been asked to come in on the morning of the section where they will prep me. I have also been told that I am the first on the list which really scares me. I always worry that if something happened to me, who would look after my kids. All sorts of thoughts come into my head when I start thinking, the best way is to just block out the thought of a section until it comes head on.