Feanorous
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Hi all,
I have been a bit of a lurker here for a while as I feel a bit if a fraud as we aren't 'trying' for a baby yet. A bit of background about me...
I am 27, my OH is 31, we've been together for 10 years. We own our 2 bed flat in London, zone 6 (Surrey). I have an ok ish job, he earns quite well too.
He proposed a couple of years ago but we haven't got round to getting married yet.
I have been so surprised how broody I have gotten over the last year or so. Sometimes its all I think about! I was always career minded but this really jumped out at me from nowhere.
I gre up in a big family where as my OH never had any children in the family at all. Infact he has no aunties and uncles! He says he wants childrens but won't commit at all to a start time. He'll say things like 'Lets see later this year' etc etc..
Then he'll send mixed messages and say things like 'lets not use a condom tonight' but then actually won't go through with it! It's so infuriating!! Then he said when I get a new job we'll start trying, but I've been trying to find a new job for the last year and its not easy.
In my mind I know it makes sense to wait a while. Get the house in a better state, get a new job, have another holiday etc...but I just dont know how to take my mind off wanting a family.
If anyone has any advice or can relate to my OH issues then I'd love to hear from you!
x
I have been a bit of a lurker here for a while as I feel a bit if a fraud as we aren't 'trying' for a baby yet. A bit of background about me...
I am 27, my OH is 31, we've been together for 10 years. We own our 2 bed flat in London, zone 6 (Surrey). I have an ok ish job, he earns quite well too.
He proposed a couple of years ago but we haven't got round to getting married yet.
I have been so surprised how broody I have gotten over the last year or so. Sometimes its all I think about! I was always career minded but this really jumped out at me from nowhere.
I gre up in a big family where as my OH never had any children in the family at all. Infact he has no aunties and uncles! He says he wants childrens but won't commit at all to a start time. He'll say things like 'Lets see later this year' etc etc..
Then he'll send mixed messages and say things like 'lets not use a condom tonight' but then actually won't go through with it! It's so infuriating!! Then he said when I get a new job we'll start trying, but I've been trying to find a new job for the last year and its not easy.
In my mind I know it makes sense to wait a while. Get the house in a better state, get a new job, have another holiday etc...but I just dont know how to take my mind off wanting a family.
If anyone has any advice or can relate to my OH issues then I'd love to hear from you!
x