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Oh I feel your pain
. That is so sad...OMG and how some people can be so blind is beyond me!
Hang in there.. I am fervent believer in karma above all else. I told dh that if anything happened to the girl, but the baby survived we could raise it [his brother and mom would reject it sadly...] and someone needs to do the right thing.
*sigh*
It's a bad situation, all the way around :S.[/QUOTE]
Oh hunnie
Your an amazing lady. I know how you feel My sil is 9wks and she is a drama queen most of the family see through her except my mil and my bil. they have been togther 5 yrs got married this yr and still live with my in laws and have never lived on their own and there 30. I'm pleased to be an auntie but she told my dh a yr ago that she was thinking about getting herself pg to trap his brother! who would 1, do this and 2, tell his own brother what she planned. so knowing this we find it difficult to be happy for her. we'd never tell my BIL we love him dearly.
We have many question's over her motives for this pregnancy and none seem to be for the right reasons all we here is that she doesn't want to work! they knew we were trying last year and when she got her BFP my BIL to DH that of all the thing that went through his mind was that we should have had the first grand child. I know everyone worries about fertility issues by she's been playing the age card since 29!
The thing that really upsets me is that my MIL favours her over her own son! One time i was talking to my sil about preconception nutrition and was saying what you can't eat, take folic acid, and don't drink to which my MIL start shouting what a load of b######S don't listen to that s###t listern to ur midwife she'll tell you what to do!
We told her 10 yrs ago we were considering starting a family and even then she was vile about the sistuation and saying we hadn't been together long enough to have kids we had been living togther for 3 yrs and were married and i was 29. It broke our hearts how could we bring a child into the world when its not wanted by it's own nan? even now i still want to know what the difference is for us and my sil?
My MIL has never asked us how we feel on our TTC journey the last time she asked us anything when my sil annouced her bfp all she said was any news? I said if it happens it happens if it doesn't it doesn't and she repiled well i think thats the best attidude to have! and yet sheld tell us all about my SIL's worries. So i figure her attidude hasn't changed!
The biggest heart ache is my my wonderful DH wants to walk away from his own family and have nothing to do with them and this breaks my heart.[/QUOTE]