ha yes get the other OH speak to her about it. its the best way i think, i think if it had been the other way round and somebody on your side of the family interfering then maybe it would be down to you to sort out. my problem was, my mil kept giving me clothes for my dd which she had kept from her own dd, now thats not a problem but the clothes were something like 30 years old- no joke!! i was polite and asked my oh to have a word with her, which he did, however she kept sending them, so i simply put them to one side. i havent used any and never will, if she thinks im being rude then so be it.