How do you deal with this situation?

[surprisepg]

Im in the same situation only difference is FOB is in another country so that in itself is complicated. I had a huge fight with FOB the other day and have decided to stay away from him for now since he things a baby at 21weeks gestation is a seed and not a baby until its born :/

Breezybaby I am so happy that FOB came around and is in LOs life now. I will send FOB a pic of his son when hes born but at this point I have kind of given up.

 

[MissRhead]

Yeah we split too, when LO was so young we are friends though which is good! Some good memory's from their though, I recently added Emma and Kat on Facebook as I only had them on my old account we haven't spoken though, I often wonder how everyone is getting on from their what a small (Internet) world lol! X

It's good that u are friends I remember when u split. Me and shayens dad are friends now and get on really well which is good seeing as he came from a one night thing (not what I had planned) :/ he's a good dad and provides for him every week.
I think quite a few people off their have got different men now or are single lol. I've always got on with Emma so chat now and again on fb but a few of them I didn't click with cos they didnt like that I speak my mind lol x

Yeah we hated each other when we split it literally took a year for things to settle down, he has been in a relationship for about 2 years, that was quite difficult as she banned him from seeing me what so ever, but they split (surprisingly lol) yeah it seems that way, crazy how much changes! Glad to hear your doing well anyway! Add me on Facebook if you like just send me a pm

 

[MissRhead]

Im in the same situation only difference is FOB is in another country so that in itself is complicated. I had a huge fight with FOB the other day and have decided to stay away from him for now since he things a baby at 21weeks gestation is a seed and not a baby until its born :/

Breezybaby I am so happy that FOB came around and is in LOs life now. I will send FOB a pic of his son when hes born but at this point I have kind of given up.

I hope things work out for you too I'm quite lucky? I don't know if that's the right word but that he hasn't contacted me so we haven't had any fights or fallings out, it's just sort of been left. But yeah I think sending a picture once LO's here is a good idea and that's something I'll do, but I'm presuming if he is back with his ex wife like he says (I don't think he knows who he's with himself tbh) I don't think he will reply.

 

[Breezybaby80]

Im in the same situation only difference is FOB is in another country so that in itself is complicated. I had a huge fight with FOB the other day and have decided to stay away from him for now since he things a baby at 21weeks gestation is a seed and not a baby until its born :/

Breezybaby I am so happy that FOB came around and is in LOs life now. I will send FOB a pic of his son when hes born but at this point I have kind of given up.

Men really have no idea do they! Lol. Thank u All u can do is be the bigger person that's exactly what I did, I had to put all my feelings of anger towards him away for the sake of the baby and I'm glad I did and so is he and its also shown him that I'm a responsible reasonable person too. I seriously didnt think he would come round but its amazing what a pic of their child can do. I don't think men realise its a baby until its born and then it hits them. If they see a pic and then don't want to know then sod them they don't deserve to be in ur child's life and u can tell urself u done all u could and be proud of urself

 

[Breezybaby80]

Yeah we split too, when LO was so young we are friends though which is good! Some good memory's from their though, I recently added Emma and Kat on Facebook as I only had them on my old account we haven't spoken though, I often wonder how everyone is getting on from their what a small (Internet) world lol! X

It's good that u are friends I remember when u split. Me and shayens dad are friends now and get on really well which is good seeing as he came from a one night thing (not what I had planned) :/ he's a good dad and provides for him every week.
I think quite a few people off their have got different men now or are single lol. I've always got on with Emma so chat now and again on fb but a few of them I didn't click with cos they didnt like that I speak my mind lol x

Yeah we hated each other when we split it literally took a year for things to settle down, he has been in a relationship for about 2 years, that was quite difficult as she banned him from seeing me what so ever, but they split (surprisingly lol) yeah it seems that way, crazy how much changes! Glad to hear your doing well anyway! Add me on Facebook if you like just send me a pm

I remember what he was like when u split he wasn't there got kameron but seems like he's grown up a bit now and I'm glad he's being a proper dad . I can't stand it when women try and stop them from seeing their kids cos at the end of the day the women/girls will just lose out cos the kid will always come first . I'll add u now

 

[surprisepg]

Im in the same situation only difference is FOB is in another country so that in itself is complicated. I had a huge fight with FOB the other day and have decided to stay away from him for now since he things a baby at 21weeks gestation is a seed and not a baby until its born :/

Breezybaby I am so happy that FOB came around and is in LOs life now. I will send FOB a pic of his son when hes born but at this point I have kind of given up.

Men really have no idea do they! Lol. Thank u All u can do is be the bigger person that's exactly what I did, I had to put all my feelings of anger towards him away for the sake of the baby and I'm glad I did and so is he and its also shown him that I'm a responsible reasonable person too. I seriously didnt think he would come round but its amazing what a pic of their child can do. I don't think men realise its a baby until its born and then it hits them. If they see a pic and then don't want to know then sod them they don't deserve to be in ur child's life and u can tell urself u done all u could and be proud of urself

The way I'm feeling now I dont want to show him anything or tell him when baby is born etc I spoke to some friends yesterday and they urge me to think about it and do the right thing and tell him and show him pics of the baby when its born. My fight with FOB was 90% about our relationship and basically him blaming me for everything. I miss him but then I get so mad at his treatment of me.

 

[Breezybaby80]

Im in the same situation only difference is FOB is in another country so that in itself is complicated. I had a huge fight with FOB the other day and have decided to stay away from him for now since he things a baby at 21weeks gestation is a seed and not a baby until its born :/

Breezybaby I am so happy that FOB came around and is in LOs life now. I will send FOB a pic of his son when hes born but at this point I have kind of given up.

Men really have no idea do they! Lol. Thank u All u can do is be the bigger person that's exactly what I did, I had to put all my feelings of anger towards him away for the sake of the baby and I'm glad I did and so is he and its also shown him that I'm a responsible reasonable person too. I seriously didnt think he would come round but its amazing what a pic of their child can do. I don't think men realise its a baby until its born and then it hits them. If they see a pic and then don't want to know then sod them they don't deserve to be in ur child's life and u can tell urself u done all u could and be proud of urself

The way I'm feeling now I dont want to show him anything or tell him when baby is born etc I spoke to some friends yesterday and they urge me to think about it and do the right thing and tell him and show him pics of the baby when its born. My fight with FOB was 90% about our relationship and basically him blaming me for everything. I miss him but then I get so mad at his treatment of me.

U just do what u feel us right Hun. When lo was born I was so in love with him that I thought how can u not want this amazing child and really wanted him to see how special he was too and what we had both created. All resentment for him went out the window I just wanted him to see what I saw x

 

[surprisepg]

Im in the same situation only difference is FOB is in another country so that in itself is complicated. I had a huge fight with FOB the other day and have decided to stay away from him for now since he things a baby at 21weeks gestation is a seed and not a baby until its born :/

Breezybaby I am so happy that FOB came around and is in LOs life now. I will send FOB a pic of his son when hes born but at this point I have kind of given up.

Men really have no idea do they! Lol. Thank u All u can do is be the bigger person that's exactly what I did, I had to put all my feelings of anger towards him away for the sake of the baby and I'm glad I did and so is he and its also shown him that I'm a responsible reasonable person too. I seriously didnt think he would come round but its amazing what a pic of their child can do. I don't think men realise its a baby until its born and then it hits them. If they see a pic and then don't want to know then sod them they don't deserve to be in ur child's life and u can tell urself u done all u could and be proud of urself

The way I'm feeling now I dont want to show him anything or tell him when baby is born etc I spoke to some friends yesterday and they urge me to think about it and do the right thing and tell him and show him pics of the baby when its born. My fight with FOB was 90% about our relationship and basically him blaming me for everything. I miss him but then I get so mad at his treatment of me.

U just do what u feel us right Hun. When lo was born I was so in love with him that I thought how can u not want this amazing child and really wanted him to see how special he was too and what we had both created. All resentment for him went out the window I just wanted him to see what I saw x

I think how can he deny this baby now by calling it a seed... sighhh.... and I know myself and know when the baby is here I will want him to see LO. I guess time will tell.

 

[Breezybaby80]

Im in the same situation only difference is FOB is in another country so that in itself is complicated. I had a huge fight with FOB the other day and have decided to stay away from him for now since he things a baby at 21weeks gestation is a seed and not a baby until its born :/

Breezybaby I am so happy that FOB came around and is in LOs life now. I will send FOB a pic of his son when hes born but at this point I have kind of given up.

Men really have no idea do they! Lol. Thank u All u can do is be the bigger person that's exactly what I did, I had to put all my feelings of anger towards him away for the sake of the baby and I'm glad I did and so is he and its also shown him that I'm a responsible reasonable person too. I seriously didnt think he would come round but its amazing what a pic of their child can do. I don't think men realise its a baby until its born and then it hits them. If they see a pic and then don't want to know then sod them they don't deserve to be in ur child's life and u can tell urself u done all u could and be proud of urself

The way I'm feeling now I dont want to show him anything or tell him when baby is born etc I spoke to some friends yesterday and they urge me to think about it and do the right thing and tell him and show him pics of the baby when its born. My fight with FOB was 90% about our relationship and basically him blaming me for everything. I miss him but then I get so mad at his treatment of me.

U just do what u feel us right Hun. When lo was born I was so in love with him that I thought how can u not want this amazing child and really wanted him to see how special he was too and what we had both created. All resentment for him went out the window I just wanted him to see what I saw x

I think how can he deny this baby now by calling it a seed... sighhh.... and I know myself and know when the baby is here I will want him to see LO. I guess time will tell.

He really does need to be educated on how a baby develops inside the womb! Lol I think if it was me I wouldn't be able to help myself but send him some links of the baby progress for him to read so that he has no excuse for acting a div! Lol. Having said that I know some people it just don't seem real until its born, us women feel it moving and growing but some men don't have that connection

 

[surprisepg]

Im in the same situation only difference is FOB is in another country so that in itself is complicated. I had a huge fight with FOB the other day and have decided to stay away from him for now since he things a baby at 21weeks gestation is a seed and not a baby until its born :/

Breezybaby I am so happy that FOB came around and is in LOs life now. I will send FOB a pic of his son when hes born but at this point I have kind of given up.

Men really have no idea do they! Lol. Thank u All u can do is be the bigger person that's exactly what I did, I had to put all my feelings of anger towards him away for the sake of the baby and I'm glad I did and so is he and its also shown him that I'm a responsible reasonable person too. I seriously didnt think he would come round but its amazing what a pic of their child can do. I don't think men realise its a baby until its born and then it hits them. If they see a pic and then don't want to know then sod them they don't deserve to be in ur child's life and u can tell urself u done all u could and be proud of urself

The way I'm feeling now I dont want to show him anything or tell him when baby is born etc I spoke to some friends yesterday and they urge me to think about it and do the right thing and tell him and show him pics of the baby when its born. My fight with FOB was 90% about our relationship and basically him blaming me for everything. I miss him but then I get so mad at his treatment of me.

U just do what u feel us right Hun. When lo was born I was so in love with him that I thought how can u not want this amazing child and really wanted him to see how special he was too and what we had both created. All resentment for him went out the window I just wanted him to see what I saw x

I think how can he deny this baby now by calling it a seed... sighhh.... and I know myself and know when the baby is here I will want him to see LO. I guess time will tell.

He really does need to be educated on how a baby develops inside the womb! Lol I think if it was me I wouldn't be able to help myself but send him some links of the baby progress for him to read so that he has no excuse for acting a div! Lol. Having said that I know some people it just don't seem real until its born, us women feel it moving and growing but some men don't have that connection

He needs more than some education on baby development he needs a whack across the head smh I have a very supportive OB and I told her about this situation and when I quoted what he said she he doenst want to establish a connection to this baby. Shes right! He did say he doesnt have a baby till its born and this only tells me he doesnt want to face the fact that this baby is coming. I know that most men dont connect and dont see it as being real till baby is born but a seed? meh...