How do you feel....

[Sparky0207]

when you know baby's father is getting on with his life without you and the baby?

I hate it. As much as I love my daughter and bump, I hate that he can go out when he likes, do what he likes and ignore all his responsibilties while im at home caring for the baby and carrying another.

How do you all manage to cope? Im stuggling a lot at the mo as we havent been split for long and hes already with someone else. I keep thinking how can he spend every night with her, doing what he pleases with no thought at all for his kids. Makes me so angry! xxx

 

[bloodbinds]

Hmmm. Well i feel like he's missing out on all of this. He will never know his own daughter as well as i will, he will miss her first smile, her first laugh, her first steps. He will never have near the same bond as we will. I feel sorry for him really.

 

[teal]

I agree that it will him losing out in the end. He'll regret it one day. I just can't understand how some men can just walk away from their child.

 

[purpledahlia]

i agree with both aswell. I feel sorry for him for messing up so badly.

 

[xxannxx]

Hi Sparky, 1st of all, i'm so sorry your having such a hard time at the minute, but i would say that it will get better. As i've said on here before, me and ex split when LO was 6wks old, and at 1st it was hard that my life seemed to have changed completely and that he was going on as normal. My LO was planned, and so it was hard to accept that the family we had planned together was no longer going to happen, and was so so hurt.
However, i have to say that now i feel more pity for him in that way then anything else. My LO is now 3 and although his father sees him every week he doesn't have anywhere close to relationship i have with LO, also he is still in his parents house, whereas me and LO have moved in to our own wee house, and i have got my own wee car, so i feel like all in all i definately have the better deal out of the 2, i am so happy with my life (most of the time) and i wouldn't swap it for the world. Stay strong, he is definately the 1 missing out.

 

[xJG30]

Honestly, it doesn't bother me whatsoever.

If his gf's more important than his son, then that lies with him.

 

[tinkabells]

It bothers me every now and again, espicially as i know his looking after his 1st daughter, but then i think your a lying cheating son of a bitch and i wouldnt want you near me, but we all have those slips where we cant help our minds drifting off and thinking the what if's xxx

 

[McLovin]

some wise and inspirational words spoken here... very comforting & I look forward to feeling the same.... but it is so hard not to feel bitter and angry - especially when they can prance around without a care in the world and you are left to pick up the pieces.
Soooo difficult, but there must be light at the end of the tunnel... there has to be!
xxx

 

[suzanne108]

Hi Sparky

I kinda know how you feel...the only reason I know what he's doing is through Facebook. Its not contact, I haven't heard from him for just over 3 weeks now but I see status updates, pictures, comments etc. There's loads of pictures going up of him out drunk with his mates...I don't care what he's doing but I hate that he is just getting on with his life as if nothing is happening, and I hate that he's out spending money that he should be offering to me but isn't.

I know people will think I should just remove him as a friend, but I still have his other friends and family on there so would still end up seeing pictures etc unless I deleted them all. But I don't want them to know that it bothers me!! And I don't want to stop using Facebook cos I keep in touch with loadsa people on there that I wouldn't usually see.

So yeah, although I don't want him back in my life and I love bump more than anything I do know where you are coming from xx

 

[bloodbinds]

I have FOB as a facebook friend too - i'm lucky in that he doesn't use it very often. None of his friends are camera people, so though i know he probably is going out and getting drunk and snogging girls, i don't have to see the evidence, thank god. He's also not a big one for updating his status so i don't have to deal with that either. All i see is every couple of days that he's been on mafia wars, or someones commented on his wall asking how he is.
Don't think i could cope if he used it more often and had to watch that he's happily getting on with his life without me :-/