How do you handle close friends/family getting pregnant?

[PizzaWagon]

Thank you everyone for posting. I'm now looking at this from different angels and it was very helpful.

 

[jack79]

I don't think I'm LTTTC yet but I feel like my family is treating me like I have been trying for years.

Back Story:
Last week my Mother-in-law(MIL) & Father-in-law(FIL) took my Husband(DH) and i out to dinner for my DH's birthday. During dinner my MIL told us/me that my Brother-in-law(BIL) and his new wife are pregnant. I told my MIL that I was happy for them and asked if she knew how far along she was. (In side I was a bit sad that it wasn't me, but my happiness for them out weighed my sadness for me.) My MIL said the just found out a few hrs ago and they wanted to tell me soon because they where worried about the way I would react. When my MIL said that i was taken aback, I didn't know how to respond. So i just said 'I'm fine with it. I'm happy for them'. The topic was dropped for the rest of the night...
A few days later I call my Mom to let her know about me being an Aunt again. My Mom's first words where "Oh, I'm sorry...". In my head I said 'sorry for what?', but I replied with 'It's fine I'm happy for them.' She said 'Yes, I'm happy for them too, but I'm sorry it wasn't you'. I then tell her 'it's ok, God decides when you have kids, not the other way around'. She says that is true and goes on about how she wished it was me and other stuff along those lines...

After both of those talks happened. I've been crying and depressed. I'm not fully sure why, but their comments really got to me. I'm starting to feel sad that I'm not pregnant yet and I didn't feel that way till after them talking to me.

I was exactly the same after an HSG earlier this year...felt strong and although was nervous was thinking positively about it all. Then my mum called and started saying stuff like "oh, are you ok? I've been thinking about you. I should have came with you to hold your hand....da da da!!" I came off the phone and felt so upset and overly emotional! I was so annoyed with her! Maybe I was holding it all in and needed to get it out. But at the time I felt she had made the situation a lot worse!! I think they just care at the end of the day but sometimes caring means saying the wrong thing and making things seem a whole lot worse!!! xx

 

[cooch]

I find it incredibly difficult to be happy for people, mostly though when its a 2nd or 3rd etc. I have been dealt a crap hand and its just not fair. I will not be around pregnant women, don't know how I will be when its a baby though. Probably super emotional!!

I actually would welcome people being sensitive to me in the lttc kinda way. Although I wouldn;t have been happy for it to have been done at a restaurant dinner table. xx

 

[NellyVille]

I generally get bitter, resentful and feel pretty sorry for myself. Cry like a baby then tell myself to get over it!