How do your hubby's feel about ttc?

[Mrs. Love]

Just curious how your guys are, they don't seem to have much of ticking clock like women do!

My hubby is super focused on the DTD rather than the baby aspect.
I'd like it if he was as excited about a baby as he is trying. But it took 5 years to get him this far! I did wait for him to tell ME when it's 'time' which he did on Sunday I cryed (more like bawled) I was so happy & surprised!

 

[Mintastic]

He is into it but doesn't like to talk too much about baby stuff saying we should just get through first things first.
Also I wish he were focused on DTD! He gets home from work much later than me and is quite tired and it is a struggle to BD on weekdays.
Additionally, he really isn't feeling the time pressure in the same way I am. He is a year younger and male so he wants to have a baby but if it takes a year or more it seems like he is fine with that whereas I want it to happen ASAP!

 

[Mrs. Love]

Oh yeah I get the there's no hurry thing a lot too!
I'm like of course there is! I WANTED to be wearing a baby bump with my bikini and it's almost august!!! Lol I'm not going to wait a whole year to try for it now though! I'll take what I can get!

Btw we've been together 12 years! This August we will be married 5 years. Waiting to try until last July. Then we were not trying not preventing all last year until Sunday Uhg! SLOOOOOW process! Haha!

 

[DandJ]

In the beginning he wanted to wait, now he is all about it! He asks when I'm fertile and last cycle after I propped my hips up for 30 minutes, I went to the bathroom before the time was up and he got all irritated that I didn't stay elevated long enough.

I just want to mention that it's sexy to me when my DH wants this as bad as I do (even if it's so I won't get depressed)

 

[Mintastic]

DandJ - slight sidetrack but I dunno where so many folks online got 30mins into their heads from. Actual research studies show that while lying down on your back for 15 minutes after helps that anything after 15mins doesn't provide any added benefit.

 

[Mrs. Love]

In the beginning he wanted to wait, now he is all about it! He asks when I'm fertile and last cycle after I propped my hips up for 30 minutes, I went to the bathroom before the time was up and he got all irritated that I didn't stay elevated long enough.

I just want to mention that it's sexy to me when my DH wants this as bad as I do (even if it's so I won't get depressed)

DandJ That's adorable! Yes I think it's hot as hell too! How long did you guys wait (once you were ready)?

(side note) Tonight we will be a little rushed in between other obligations but he's still determined to DTD which is pretty amazing! YAY babymaking!

Mintastic I laid in bed for hours after yesterday morning (I went back to sleep) and was darn happy about it too! But yeah I don't mind 15-30 mins i'll just play on my phone anyway.

 

[DandJ]

DandJ - slight sidetrack but I dunno where so many folks online got 30mins into their heads from. Actual research studies show that while lying down on your back for 15 minutes after helps that anything after 15mins doesn't provide any added benefit.

Really?? I don't need to lay uncomfortable on my back with my hips elevated for more than 15 minutes??? Thank goodness!! I guess our mindsets are thinking the longer, the more chance of conceiving? I don't know but thank goodness...

@Mrs. Love; Well, I had baby fever even before we were married which will be 2 years in October.. but this was our first month so we waited almost a year and a half. We were in the process of buying our first home to remodel and I had unforeseen circumstances with previous jobs so that delayed the process even more but now we're ready What about you?

 

[Mintastic]

For me I usually have to pee so knowing more than 15mins isn't needed was a big relief.
https://infertility.about.com/od/tryingtoconceive101/f/lying_on_back_after_sex_getting_pregnant.htm

AFM,
Hubs and I together almost 9 years. Married almost 4. Been WTT for about 2 years - until I finished my masters. Went off my BC end of May. NTNPd in June and first cycle actively trying this past July Cycle. Now onto August.

How old are you Mrs.Love?

 

[DandJ]

Mint, what does "AFM" mean? I see it everywhere and all I can think is "Aunt Flo Moment" which clearly is not it.

 

[Mintastic]

Haha Aunt Flow Moment! Too funny
"As for me"

 

[DandJ]

Thanks for clearing that up, knowing is half the battle!.... GI Jooooooe!

 

[Mrs. Love]

[QUOTE How old are you Mrs.Love?[/QUOTE]

I'm 28

 

[Mrs. Love]

DandJ - slight sidetrack but I dunno where so many folks online got 30mins into their heads from. Actual research studies show that while lying down on your back for 15 minutes after helps that anything after 15mins doesn't provide any added benefit.

Really?? I don't need to lay uncomfortable on my back with my hips elevated for more than 15 minutes??? Thank goodness!! I guess our mindsets are thinking the longer, the more chance of conceiving? I don't know but thank goodness...

@Mrs. Love; Well, I had baby fever even before we were married which will be 2 years in October.. but this was our first month so we waited almost a year and a half. We were in the process of buying our first home to remodel and I had unforeseen circumstances with previous jobs so that delayed the process even more but now we're ready What about you?

Wow I'll have to get use to this forum, quotes and acronyms!

We've been together a little over 12 years (i think?) Married for 5 years in August. I've been ready for a baby for about 3... and waiting to try and he was dragging his feet. Then we were 'not trying not preventing all last year' after I went off BC in July 2013 because of complications and hoped to ttc then but then we had to move, life changed a bit. I've left it up to him to tell me when it's time (for the last 2 years) but also have been bugging him a bit to hurry! I sobbed happy tears when he told me he's ready Sunday (2 days ago) and here I am! He's being really cute and unlike himself with this!

 

[DandJ]

Awww, I hope your and your hubby get your LO very soon! Man, I don't think I could wait 5 years to have my first, I'd go bonkers! I told him when we first met that my timeline is I want to either be pregnant or have a child before I'm 30 and I'm turning 29 in November so I'm hoping it happens before then

 

[Mrs. Love]

Yeah that kid (or another kid) before 30 thing I hear a lot! I'm feeling it too.. My friends is doing it with her 3rd. We women are weird!

I should also mention that when we started dating... 2 years into it he was still adamant that he would never have kids and did not want them! I let him know it was kids in the future or no me! So him being excited about it is really amazing when for years and years he didnt want it at all! yay

 

[DandJ]

I'm so glad he changed his mind about having children and it must be a great feeling that he's excited about it too!

I have a friend who just found out she's pregnant (she is 38) and her situation is soooo not ideal. The guy AND her family want nothing to do with the child... I feel so bad for her

 

[Mrs. Love]

That's terrible! I dont understand how that can happen, i mean i know we're all baby crazed around here but even in less than ideal situations... uh yay! and Poo on her family

 

[Mrs. Love]

I'm glad i'm not the only 'older person' with all my younger friends on their 3rd and 4th!! kid right now It's HARD to be childless! I'm older than them and still not even in their league.

 

[DandJ]

Right?! This should be the most happiest time in her life with her expecting a child she always wanted (her marriage fell through because after a month the dude said he did NOT want kids when he told her previously he did) but instead no one is willing to share it with her.

I'm glad i'm not the only 'older person' with all my younger friends on their 3rd and 4th!! kid right now It's HARD to be childless! I'm older than them and still not even in their league.

I have a few friends like that, but I look at it this perspective; I got to enjoy my 20's without worrying about children and doing something spontaneous while they missed their time to party and travel and etc. Now it's our time to settle down because we enjoyed our 20's.

 

[Mintastic]

I am in NYC where it is popular to wait until late 30s or 40s to have kids. A few of my friends have kids already but most don't. I don't feel old in real life but on these boards I do.