How does having baby no.2 affect baby no.1?

[CantWait_xx]

Not sure if this is the right category to post in but I found out I'm pregnant yesterday (about 5 weeks) & I already have a little boy. I am happy but I'm really worrying..

Firstly, I honestly don't think I could love anyone more than I love him.. is it normal to feel this? :/

Secondly, I'm worried he will get jealous (he will be 27months when this baby is born)

He's my complete world, I'm worried about losing my bond with him, I'm worried he will be sad & it's making me sad

Is this normal?? Any advice? Thanks ladies x

 

[DolceBella]

It's normal to have these worries, but it really does work out. After a week or two, you'll learn how to juggle both of them well. And your first child will never remember life without the baby. My two are 26 months apart, and it's lovely.

 

[Mummy to be x]

Stalking

 

[Geo2]

Speaking as an only child, i would have loved if i had a real sibling, i know other ppl, including boys who are only childs and really disappointed they didnt have a sibling too. It will be a blessed addition to your family, honestly he will be so happy and you will too!

 

[Luvspnk31]

First, don't worry about loving the 2nd as much. You will. I never felt this way, but had friends who did and loved the others just as much. I think that its a fairly common fear.
As far as affecting your first, yes it will, but not necessarily in a bad way. There will always be an adjustment, but make it a fun thing. There might be some jealousy, but the more u project ur own insecurities about the situation, the more he will figure out how to manipulate you. There is really no reason to feel sorry for him. He'll adjust . Our kids our much more adaptable and stronger than we realize. Make it fun , and when baby arrives, don't let #1 run the show. I don't mean to be harsh, but I feel like far to often we project our own fears and anxieties on to our kids. Most of the time I don't think they're ever affected to the extreme we think they'll be.

 

[mmMlm]

My first was CRAZY jealous. Before I told her about baby, she would kiss babies in books. After, she would hit them.
We got them together as much as possible, as soon as possible, and very soon she got used to her baby sister and fell in love.
You will love your second baby just as much! I worried about that too but it will come just as it did with #1.

 

[k1w1mum]

Stalking this thread.

My little man is my complete world - he is 3.5 and it has pretty much always been just the two of us. His Dad was never really around and just after he turned one we separated (and are now divorced).

I'm nearly 8 weeks, and it's like he already knows ... has made so many comments about our family, commenting how we are going places and I will have a baby on my knee etc.. very spooky!

 

[mjemma]

One of the first emotions I felt when I got my my BFP - after shock and excitement - was guilt. I was surprised by it but I felt bad for my DS, who will be 22 months when baby arrives. I know it will all work out but as he gets all my attention at the moment, and still needs me so much it's hard to imagine adding another child in,

 

[Happy happy]

Great thread!! My DD will be coming up for 3 when we are due #2 .. I'm so excited for her to be a big sister as she's so affectionate but also worried I may find the baby in the dishwasher or laundry basket if left alone for a second!haha xoxo

 

[Bunny_Boo]

I feel like this! I'm around 6 weeks pregnant and my wee boy is currently 5.5 months so around 13 months apart and I have been feeling sooo guilty for my wee boy in case he doesn't get the attention he needs during his first years. Also worried I won't bond with this wee baby and can't imagine how to cope with two well under two! I'm sure all these feelings are normal but it's horrible thinking about all these things

 

[babe2ooo]

My first will be 6 when this baby comes along. My ds is so happy to be having a little brother or sister.

 

[Reidfidleir]

My ds will be 27 months too. I'm really looking forward to having another newborn again. I feel like I have a lot of love for many babies so not the same fears. But I do wonder how the adjustment period will be. I'm an only child myself and never really had a lot of friends as a kid. And most of those were also onlies or the baby of the family so it will be an adventure I'll have to learn as I go along!

 

[Fallacy]

Stalking. Makes me nervous cause Micah is my entire world and he'll only be 16 months when LO is here. I don't want to make him feel left out...