How hard was it to tell your parents?

[EricaH]

Hey all! I've been lurking a tad here and a tad on the 1st tri forum. I might be one of the older gals on here, but you'll just have to make due
My name is Erica and I just turned 22. I had a miscarriage on March 12th and somehow conceived 2 weeks later! So now in the midst of all this worry about miscarrying this time (I'm assured everything is healthy), Now I get to worry about telling my Dad.

Now I know I'm an adult, I live on my own, and support myself. I've already told my Mother, she was mad for maybe a day. But my Dad is the type to get angry over me accidentally dropping a fork on the ground. Total hot head. I keep repeating to myself that I can always just hang up on him. He hasn't been to my new apartment, he can't find me But in the back of my mind it still worries me, which is why I'm avoiding telling him until I'm past my 12 week mark, just to make sure he doesn't stress me out so much it could be harmful to my little bean.

How did you all tell your parents? How old were you and how did they react?

 

[Croc-O-Dile]

Sorry for your loss
But congratulations on your

I was/am 16, and I found it really hard to tell them.
When I told my mom, I was about 8 weeks along and I had to tell her because a) it was around Christmas time and I knew if I didn't, I'd end up with clothes I'll never fit in and b) my morning sickness was just too bad. I text her while she was sitting next to me saying "I'm pregnant." and then walked back into my room and waited for her to get the message. Turns out, she already knew. It was that "mom sense" (and because she noticed I hadn't had my period as I usually get horrid cramps and go through a whole box of midol)

She reacted wonderfully! And after she told my (step)dad, they both said that if adoption was something I was looking into they would adopt her. Of course, I'm keeping her, but we're still all living under the same roof, so I really got super lucky.

My real dad told me the same thing he told my mom when she broke the news she was pregnant with me, "Uh...huh...Welp...Uh...I gotta call you back." Then he called me back the next weekend after he "mentally killed that slimy boy 14 times."

 

[Mel+Bump]

Im 22 as well, was 21 when I became pregnant and Im in my second year of uni. I told my parents a few hours after I found out! They just happened to ring me in the evening and I thought well, what better time than the present. My dad just said 'oh' and put my mum on the phone and my mum told me to keep them all up to date with the tests to confirm it. Both were very shocked and probably a bit disappointed but they've been ace about it all and so supportive!

The FOB didnt tell his parents until i was around 18/19 weeks and they were really upset that it took that long to tell him. Id say the sooner they find out the better, cause it gives him time to think it all through and get his head around it

Congratulations btw!

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

Sorry for the loss hun but congrats on you

I was 16 when I found out I was pregnant. It was easy to tell my mum because she is the one that brought me the pregnancy test as my period was late

Then my mum told my dad. He is also teh type to get very angry over silly things but suprisingly he was amazing and said he will be there for me

Sometimes the hardest things to say can be the easiest to sprt out

Good luck
xx

 

[Lauraxamy]

Congrats on your but so sorry for your loss also.

Well I was 17 when I fell pregnant, telling my Mum was easy she's the kinda Mum I can tell anything and I know she's 100% supportive no matter what. My Dad I was a bit worried about but he was 18 when he had me so he was actually also a big support!
I know it's sometimes hard but best of luck when you tell them

 

[x-Lovee-x]

Sorry for your loss! Congratualtions on your pregnancy now

My mum kind of new as i was crying & couldnt get a word out.. I wasnt crying because i was sad about it i was crying because i was still in shock but my mum was even more shocked as im her baby haha! She quickly pushed how she felt aside and since then has been there for me! The first person i told was my boyfriend which was easier i thought!

Hope it goes alright with telling your dad! People handle things in different ways but once you have told him i think your feel alot better & im sure he will be alright in the end!

Good luck! x x

 

[bbyno1]

ahh big congrats for findin out you was pregnant so soon aftter
but also sorry to hear about your misscarriage
well im 21..telling my mum was easy..me n her have always had such a good relationship where iv been able to speak to her about anything n everything really n when i told her she was really pleased n very supportive..on the other hand..my dad..we dont live together n are kinda distant..hes the type thats qite strict and i had no idea how he would react..he goes mad at little things easily and stops talking to me for a while so i was kinda worried but it thought oh well its my life whats the most he can say?its only gua be words which isnt gunna change anything..n when i told him the 1st thing he said was congratulations! i was soo shocked!
but goodluck and im sure you will be fine x

 

[Natasha2605]

I'm 18 and my OH is 17. I didn't have much choice to tell them. I burst into tears after going to the doctors cause I was in such shock. To say my mum was unhappy would be an understatement, she never spoke to me for four days. My dad was more like 'hm. What about your university''. Over time they've learnt to accept it and my OH's parents are over the moon. Your dad might suprise you, mine certainly did. Good Luck xx

 

[rainbows_x]

Hey, I was 19 when I became pregnant, my OH is 27.
I told my sister before I told my parents, as I just needed to not tell them all at once, at first she wasn't very supportive, but she came around quickly.
Me & my OH went to see my mum when I wa 8 weeks, all three of us were sat in the living room, and I was bricking it! My OH had to tell her in the end as I just couldn't speak
She was thrilled, and told me she would tell my dad for me, as he can be quite scary
She told him and he was over the moon! I was shocked to say the least.
You can never really be sure how they will react, but just be preapred

 

[supriseBump_x]

It was easy peasy, my mum guessed i was pregnant before i did lol. She was the 1 tht bought me the test n told me 2 do it I got her 2 call my dad and tell him tho lol as im not that close with him and didnt know how he'd react. He was in total shock to begin with but came to terms with it in a few weeks and is now so excited
Your dad might surprise you and be over the moon about becoming a grandad
Hope all goes well xxx

 

[PleaseBaby]

My mum was and always has been absolutely thrilled. I was being sick so she came home from work and asked me how I was feeling and I said pregnat. She run out of the room to tell my stepdad and have a little dance around because she didn't know if I was happy or not.

 

[Mumma2B2010]

I really didn't tell my mum, I did the test upstairs in the bathroom, my brothers girlfriend was there and she said the test was positive so I did another one and that one said positive. I ran downstairs crying and looked at my mum apologizing and begging her to help me.

 

[LovingYou]

I waited until my mom was in a good mood and i told her "mom lets go upstairs i have a surprise for you" and i set up the bath tub for her with bubbles and candles and then when she got in the bath tub and got relaxed, i said "mom i have to tell you something but i really don't want you to be mad at me, because i have it all figured out"
and she said "what, are you pregnant?" and i said yes i am.
she looked disappointed for about.....2 seconds and then she jokingly said "Well Lisa!! How am i supposed to carry around all my grandkids? my back is starting to hurt!" hahaha she will get over it, don't worry.

 

[AngelzTears]

It was easy for me to tell my parents as I'm married and live with my Hubby (I'm 20 now). So it makes it a very positive thing instantly, you know since I'm not living under their roof and all lol.

But back when I turned 18 I thought I might be pregnant since my period was like 8 days late. It was soooo hard to tell my mom, and she took it pretty well. She actually bought me a test and took me to the dr. I told her not to tell my dad unless the test was positive, but she told him anyway. He wasn't too happy, since he was a hot head too. But he didn't say anything to me about it. Anyway, turns out I wasn't pregnant at the time but I had ovarian cysts that needed to be taken care of. So all in all it worked out for me, but it was kinda stressful. lol

 

[daisy777]

my dad is so strict, he once kicked me out for having an ear piercing! lol so you can imagine how hard it was. i was 19, i told my mom in a text, i dont advise that! lol but i couldnt bare disapointing her so i chickened out. they were upset for a few days but now there amazing! really into it all, i think my mom was just upset i didnt say it to her face! x

 

[Zebra Stars]

i was 16 when i got preg 17 now,
i was scared to but new i had to but the day i planned to i was actually ill so FOB text my mum saying jaz (meaning me) needs to talk to you. she asked me whats up i said nothing, she said ur not pregnant are u? i said uhuh (half asleep in bed with MS) my mum said the A WORD and didn't talk to me that day then the next day said im so excited and started buying stuff

my dad is still not talking to me n TBQH i don't care because i don't get on with him

 

[Adrienne]

I told DB and my sister (who got pregnant at 19) before I told my parents. DB and I both sat down and told my mom. At first, she cried, but after she got over the initial shock, she got kind of excited. I let my mom tell my dad, because I was too scared he'd be furious. He acted like he didn't know for several weeks. He never referenced it or mentioned it or anything. DB and I sat both of his parents down and told them a few days after we told my mom.

 

[lily123]

Your Dad sounds exactly like my Dad! I planned to do the same as you, wait until after the 12 week mark, but i found i had to tell him at about 10 weeks. He was NOT IMPRESSED! he was swearing at me, saying how could i be so selfish, and concluded with 'i'm never going to accept your decision and thats final' - i honestly thought he would never speak to me again! Between him and his mother they tried to turn his half of my family against me, didn't suceed at all, though i felt like i had to constantly apologize to them all but after he'd had time to cool down, he was okay with it, and he improved as time went on.
Now he laughs about how awful he was to me and some of the stupid things he said (not really funny - but at least he knows he was an arsehole!) Now he's really excited to meet his grand daughter

Good luck hun, it might be really tough but trust me everything will be fine in time.

 

[lilmama]

I was 18 when I found out I was pregnant, 19 now though.
I live with my mom and 2 sisters & my dad lives in California, the next state over. Anywho after 2 pregnancy test that were positive i was still in denial and couldn't just spit out to my mom that i was pregnant. Eventhough i practiced 5 million times and I considered writing a letter which i re-wrote a few times and never gave to her.
After my comfirmation from my doctor at 6weeks I came home and immeditely went to her room with tears saying "im going to have a baby" and she looked blank for awhile.. she was in shock i suppose and she was kept telling me about my other options.. which i declined and told her to stop telling me about it. after about 2 weeks she stopped. and shes not super supportive but shes just accepting it cause she has too

My dad on the other hand...
I didnt know how to tell him, he was still mad about me getting a hicky on my neck when i was 15. so i know it takes him along time to get over things.. i decided not to tell him or the rest of my family until i fount out the gender at 18 weeks. I was gonna send him a card with a utlrasound in it saying your going to be a grandpa... but i decided to toughen up and send a text message lol cause i didnt want to hear his voice.. . he said.. "congratulations?" idk why the question mark.. but he stopped textin me for 3 days then finally said he was glad i told him blahblah. and ever sinceeee he has not yet called me, he only text me now so i suppose he still upset. Oh well

im glad everyone knows and it is hard telling them specially if you think or know they will be disappointed in you.. my whole family was.. and ive survived almost due

sorry so long! lol

 

[mommy2bej]

I just walked into my moms room and started watching tv with her and then.. I said "What would you do if I took a pregnancy test and it was positive?" and she said "IDK Why?" and I said "I took a pregnancy test and it was positive." and she surprisingly set up the doctors appointment and helped me out and is still really supportive and shes helping me buy EVERYTHING for the baby since I don't have a job.. You gotta find out what works for your family.. mine was finding the humor in telling her and she took it well.. either way your parents will take it how they take it and cant change the situation just the way u handle it