How l long before you went home after giving birth?

[youngwife20]

aww , your charlie looks so cute!! so all worth it in the end xx

Thanks he is , theyre always worth it in the end whatever you go through you look back and its just one (or two!) days out of so many good ones.. even if you dont get that instant 'id do it again tomorrow' rush cos i didnt! x

I know exactly what you mean! the whole process is so exciting and i cant wait to experiance it! x

 

[youngwife20]

awww thank you so much ladies for all your responces!!!!! i cant wait for that momment when were home with the baby! all this worry and when pregnant will all seem trivial once our little bundle of amazingness arives!! xxx

 

[Emma&Freya]

Im bit worried now. My boyfriend has just said if I have my baby at 11pm at night or in the early hours of the morning he will be sent home quite quickly? And I wont have my baby with me when its born? I thought it got cleaned up then given to you then put it in its little bed by your bed?

 

[babyscanart]

I was in hospital 3 hours after having my first and was home by 3am in the morning. I couldn't wait to get home, didnt tear or have anything other than G&A so MW got my notes done asap and let me get home. I did have to go back to the hospital to get the paediatrician to check baby over about 36 hours later as DD wasn't seen before we left, but I would have rather done that than waited 24 hours in hospital.

 

[mygirl]

completly different story for me. as i live in France the standard is 5 days hospital for the first baby and 3 - 5 days for the next. i could have stayed in longer. for the first 3 days i was so knackered after a bad birth it was bliss to be looked after like i was. i didnt have to do anything for the baby cept feed her and hold her until i was ready and up to it, we are waited on hand and foot. literally. 3 square meals a day, someone on hand to change nappies and bath her, slept as much as i needed etc, they provided all nappies creams etc too. i asked my midwife if its the same for the second and she said well you can go home after 3 days but i recommend staying the five, just to get a rest. i can honestly say that im glad i stayed, because when i left, although there was a huge sense of responsibility and what the hell do we do now, i was confident i could bath, dress and breastfeed her properly and i never felt i had been thrown in the deep end and the care i recieved was exceptional, not something i would get at home. im in a different part of the country to where i had my daughter but ater talking to my friend who had her babies in the hospital im going to, im sure it will be the same, and she said they even bring a little wardrobe round for the babys each day!
lol, no fear of hospital here!

 

[babyscanart]

Im bit worried now. My boyfriend has just said if I have my baby at 11pm at night or in the early hours of the morning he will be sent home quite quickly? And I wont have my baby with me when its born? I thought it got cleaned up then given to you then put it in its little bed by your bed?

I delivered at midnight and left straight from the labour ward as they wanted to send my husband home at about 2am which I was not having. Baby wont leave your side unless there are complications they do stay with your in your room but if you are worried about your husband being kicked out you can look into private rooms or ask to be discharged asap.x

 

[SpiderLady]

I had meconium in my waters and consequetly ventouse which meant a transfer from birth centre to hospital, with meconium baby has to be monitored and checked hourly for 24 hours. I had him Monday 8:20pm, got out 2pm the Wednesday. Trying to get discharged took ages, one midwife to go round us all writing up the paperwork and doing both of our final checks. I had plans to be out same day too, was so annoyed tho I didnt feel up to much after spinal and episiotomy the Tuesday so it was probaby best x

Fwiw, my son also had meconium in water, his heartbeat went from 145 to 40 bpm. theatre was full or he woukd have been a c section. he was a swift forceps delivery.
He was not checked hourly and although we did stay in over 24 hours it was more cos of the time he was born and waiting for a doctor to sign us out. we would have been out around 12 hous after if the doctor didnt take forever to see us x

 

[youngwife20]

Im bit worried now. My boyfriend has just said if I have my baby at 11pm at night or in the early hours of the morning he will be sent home quite quickly? And I wont have my baby with me when its born? I thought it got cleaned up then given to you then put it in its little bed by your bed?

were did he hear this? i assumed if your all quiet they wont disturb you and they woudnt take yur baby away unless there was issues with the baby to my knowledge dont worry to much you should ask your midwife what the hosp pollicies are hun xx

 

[youngwife20]

completly different story for me. as i live in France the standard is 5 days hospital for the first baby and 3 - 5 days for the next. i could have stayed in longer. for the first 3 days i was so knackered after a bad birth it was bliss to be looked after like i was. i didnt have to do anything for the baby cept feed her and hold her until i was ready and up to it, we are waited on hand and foot. literally. 3 square meals a day, someone on hand to change nappies and bath her, slept as much as i needed etc, they provided all nappies creams etc too. i asked my midwife if its the same for the second and she said well you can go home after 3 days but i recommend staying the five, just to get a rest. i can honestly say that im glad i stayed, because when i left, although there was a huge sense of responsibility and what the hell do we do now, i was confident i could bath, dress and breastfeed her properly and i never felt i had been thrown in the deep end and the care i recieved was exceptional, not something i would get at home. im in a different part of the country to where i had my daughter but ater talking to my friend who had her babies in the hospital im going to, im sure it will be the same, and she said they even bring a little wardrobe round for the babys each day!
lol, no fear of hospital here!

wow that sounds amazing! i for sure think the hosp enviroment were you are is alot more easier to handle! hosp here smell weird and food is awful! i think if we all had that treatment here we wouldnt all be in such a rush to go home lol

 

[bunnyg82]

My son was born at 3.10am. I had him naturally but had a 2nd degree tear and clitoral damage (makes me cringe so much thinking about that part!) . Due to the damage, they put a catheter in. I basically had to fight them to get it taken out and to go home the same day as I really wanted to be home with my family.

So, finally, they agreed that as long as I promised to pee when I got home (they were worried that the damage would put me off peeing and therefore risk me getting an infection) then they'd let me go. I finally left hospital (after pestering them all day!) at about 8pm.

When I got home, to be honest it was all of a blur! I remember being so glad to be going home though! I am really pleased I pushed for it.

I put it in my birth plan, but they pretty much ignored that part and I really did have to push them. I couldn't bear the thought of my husband going home and me being left with my son alone in the hospital.

If you really want to go home and haven't had any major complications then you have a right to ask to be released and like me, if they are trying to get you to stay, find out the reasons behind it and make your own mind out as to whether you think that you will be better off home or not. x

Edited as I just read above - certainly the hospital I was staying in we really had to fend for ourselves. The staff are so busy that there was no way you'd get any help (although they did manage to spare a few minutes to help me with feeding). So, I would have been left alone to look after the baby all by myself, husband being sent home, other babies crying away and likely to get very little sleep. Perhaps if I was in France, I might have stayed!! ha! x

 

[youngwife20]

My son was born at 3.10am. I had him naturally but had a 2nd degree tear and clitoral damage (makes me cringe so much thinking about that part!) . Due to the damage, they put a catheter in. I basically had to fight them to get it taken out and to go home the same day as I really wanted to be home with my family.

So, finally, they agreed that as long as I promised to pee when I got home (they were worried that the damage would put me off peeing and therefore risk me getting an infection) then they'd let me go. I finally left hospital (after pestering them all day!) at about 8pm.

When I got home, to be honest it was all of a blur! I remember being so glad to be going home though! I am really pleased I pushed for it.

I put it in my birth plan, but they pretty much ignored that part and I really did have to push them. I couldn't bear the thought of my husband going home and me being left with my son alone in the hospital.

If you really want to go home and haven't had any major complications then you have a right to ask to be released and like me, if they are trying to get you to stay, find out the reasons behind it and make your own mind out as to whether you think that you will be better off home or not. x

Edited as I just read above - certainly the hospital I was staying in we really had to fend for ourselves. The staff are so busy that there was no way you'd get any help (although they did manage to spare a few minutes to help me with feeding). So, I would have been left alone to look after the baby all by myself, husband being sent home, other babies crying away and likely to get very little sleep. Perhaps if I was in France, I might have stayed!! ha! x

thank you for answering! and ouch that damage sounds painful!!

and i would hate to be all on my own in the hosp! so i will be adding that to my birth plan being sent home as soon as possible if baby and i are ok!!

 

[Rebaby]

I had a normal delivery, we didn't get to go home until 5 days later though as Toby was started on IV antibiotics briefly until his blood cultures came back negative and then we were discharged that evening.

As for what i felt when we got home: happy, tired, cold and overwhelmed!!

 

[chuck]

With my EMCS that was done in the night...I stayed one more night then discharged myself to a local birth centre and stayed there in a double bed with my man for another night before going home.

With my 2nd it was meant to be a homebirth but we decided to go in as I was losing a lot of blood...went in after midnight he was born by 4am I was home by 6pm...too long I was ready to leave after a little sleep and knowing I could wee so by lunch time. But I had to wait forever to see the paed and then get my Anti-D.

 

[we can't wait]

Number 1 : How long after birth were you alowed to go home?
In the States it's a bit different. My doctor keeps you for a day or so to monitor mommy and baby. So, I had LO on Tuesday and went home on Thursday. She also had a little bit of Jaundice, so that could have been why too.

number 2: I'm wondering do you stay in longer if its your first?
No. I think you only stay in longer if you have a complication.

number 3: what was the first few things you thought when you you finaly got home with your brand new baby?!
I was so excited to have her home. It was so weird and thrilling. You spend nine months knowing that you are having a baby, and yet when the baby actually arrives it is still shocking!

Good luck!

 

[Snowball]

The next day with all of them

 

[youngwife20]

Thank you for your answers ladies xx

 

[Nyn]

Number 1 : How long after birth were you alowed to go home?

ds1 - 5 days
ds2 - 15 hours

number 2: im wondering do you stay in longer if its your first?

I did, but only because of the induction with ds1.

number 3: what was the first few things you thought when you you finaly got home with your brand new baby?!

Finally home!

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

1. We were home within 24 hours of having my first. We stayed one night.
2. No I don't believe you have to stay longer because it being your first etc. I think if mum and baby are doing fine, they want you to go home when you're ready.
3. wow... she's my daughter! I made her!

 

[youngwife20]

I had a normal delivery, we didn't get to go home until 5 days later though as Toby was started on IV antibiotics briefly until his blood cultures came back negative and then we were discharged that evening.

As for what i felt when we got home: happy, tired, cold and overwhelmed!!

what made them think he needed anti biotics?

 

[wilbz]

Hi I was in 3 days with my first after c section, but only 6 hours with my second as she was a normal delivery