How long have you gave urself...

[FEDup1981]

....to get pregnant by, before you give up?

With breaks, that were out of our control, we have been TTC for #2 since jan 2008. Now i know if i was ttc #1 then it would be a different story - id never give up.

I will ALWAYS want a 2nd child, im desperate for one. But how long can i keep putting myself and my family through this obsession?

I said to my husband the other day that i think 6 more months, and thats it. But what happens come april/may next year and im still not ready to give up.

Does anyone understand what i mean.?

My DH and son both want a baby. Jack is 4.5, and he mentions babies all the time

 

[kayley2704]

we have been trying for 3 years i think i will try for another year then if nothing il look into adopting xx

 

[Redfraggle]

Not sure I could ever give up.

 

[jacky24]

Well been TTC #2 well i say #1 1/2 as you all know my story with my stillborn son, But since August 2007 so that makes it 3years already...

I said I will push for a baby till im 30 and im turning 27 next month... so it will be my obsession for another 3years i suppose.... Then for my 30th Birthday I want cash from all family and friends towards IVF or addoption or a surogate...

But as redfraggle said i don't think we will ever give up

 

[MariaF]

We are ttc No 1 so not really thinking about ever giving up! I think only if we wouldn't be able to afford the next round of IVF - then we'd put ttc on hold to save up. But we are a long way from that

When you stop ttc - do you mean you'll start using contraception? Or just stop coming on here, counting cycle days and doing opk's? If its the latter I'd say you'll have a better chance to conceive then!! I've heard so many stories when girls got pg when they were "on a break"

 

[FEDup1981]

We are ttc No 1 so not really thinking about ever giving up! I think only if we wouldn't be able to afford the next round of IVF - then we'd put ttc on hold to save up. But we are a long way from that

When you stop ttc - do you mean you'll start using contraception? Or just stop coming on here, counting cycle days and doing opk's? If its the latter I'd say you'll have a better chance to conceive then!! I've heard so many stories when girls got pg when they were "on a break"

Yeah i mean start using contraception again. Some of you may know that i have bipolar and havent been well lately - well after speaking to my husband we kinda feel that my recovery is being hampered by my obsession with getting pregnant.

The whole month. The first week of AF - the week leading up to ov, then the whole 2ww obsession. Its getting out of hand.

I know all of you girls are talking about TTC baby #1, and i respect ur replies. You are all very strong willed, and i know i would be if it was #1 that i was so desperate for. But i think i have to remember how very lucky i am to have my son, and stop this obsession thats so affecting my life. But what if i regret my decision. I dunno, im so confused, all i know is that I CANNOT put myself and my family through this much longer.

I wish all of you luck, and i hope ur not waiting much longer, because i know the hell that it must be

x x x

 

[sparkle83]

I've been ttc 10.5 years for #1.
We will keep going til we've exhausted our NHS funded treatment, then looking at adoption. There isn't an age limit.

 

[Sbee]

....to get pregnant by, before you give up?

With breaks, that were out of our control, we have been TTC for #2 since jan 2008. Now i know if i was ttc #1 then it would be a different story - id never give up.

I will ALWAYS want a 2nd child, im desperate for one. But how long can i keep putting myself and my family through this obsession?

I said to my husband the other day that i think 6 more months, and thats it. But what happens come april/may next year and im still not ready to give up.

Does anyone understand what i mean.?

My DH and son both want a baby. Jack is 4.5, and he mentions babies all the time

I understand totally what you mean x

 

[MariaF]

We are ttc No 1 so not really thinking about ever giving up! I think only if we wouldn't be able to afford the next round of IVF - then we'd put ttc on hold to save up. But we are a long way from that

When you stop ttc - do you mean you'll start using contraception? Or just stop coming on here, counting cycle days and doing opk's? If its the latter I'd say you'll have a better chance to conceive then!! I've heard so many stories when girls got pg when they were "on a break"

Yeah i mean start using contraception again. Some of you may know that i have bipolar and havent been well lately - well after speaking to my husband we kinda feel that my recovery is being hampered by my obsession with getting pregnant.

The whole month. The first week of AF - the week leading up to ov, then the whole 2ww obsession. Its getting out of hand.

I know all of you girls are talking about TTC baby #1, and i respect ur replies. You are all very strong willed, and i know i would be if it was #1 that i was so desperate for. But i think i have to remember how very lucky i am to have my son, and stop this obsession thats so affecting my life. But what if i regret my decision. I dunno, im so confused, all i know is that I CANNOT put myself and my family through this much longer.

I wish all of you luck, and i hope ur not waiting much longer, because i know the hell that it must be

x x x

I guess it's hard for me to imagine what it's like ttc No2. But I guess it's no longer about experiencing all that for the first time and more to just give life to another person, to add to your family, to give your eldest child a sibling...

If ttc is having an impact on your family then Id definitely stop. At the end of the day you could say your family's complete! And you never know what will happen in 1-2-5 years time! You may still have a really good chance in future!

Whatever you decide best of luck, hun xxx

 

[bumski]

i completely understand where you are coming from with this one, me and dh have been trying for 3 and a half years now but to be honest i have not been on bc for a long time before then, i have a dd from a previous relationship but dh has no children of his own. i am forever grateful for what i have already and understand how painful it must be to ltttc your first.

i too have let ttc take over my head and my life at times and have thought many times there has to be an end to this where i can concentrate on other things. no matter what, i would still be thinking of ttc if i was not on bcp but then i would hate the thought of stopping any chance of ttc.

i said to dh that when i turn 30 i will no longer officially ttc, no opks, no timing, no bbt, no symptom spotting, no obsessing and just get on with life. i wish we were in a position to be like that now but i know if we dont put everything into it we will prob miss one of the very few chances we get, (i have ov twice since ttc)

i dont want to turn round later in life and wish i had tried harder. i will turn 30 next august and i think by then i can safely say that we tried, but obviously its not meant to be and i will have no regrets, i wish you all lots and lots of luck with ttc in the future.

 

[ald]

My dh and I have been ttc no1 for almost 3 years now, I don't think we will ever give up but we will start living our lives again when we can not take any more treatment. We start ivf next year and have 3 free attempts at that and then we can fund some as well hopefully but that will depend if we emotionally can do it.
We will never use prevention methods again even if we are successful with ivf.
But I think if we are unsuccessful then the day will have to come when we live our lives, go on holiday, get drunk etc, but I don't see that time coming for a few more years yet!

 

[FutureMommie]

We have been ttc'ing our 1st for almost 3 years now. Like one of the other ladies said, I don't think we will ever give up but I think that we will decided to live our lives without counting days until O, and the 14 days after Oing until AF shows. I am just starting IUI's again, and plan to have 3 and then my RE says that we need to think about IVF, and while money isn't the issue, I'm not sure I'm ready emotionally to begin that process, so the 3 IUI's may be the end of the ttc road as far as medication but we will alway NTNP.