How long to keep 3rd preg secret

[Sprinkles]

I am 12 weeks pregnant with my 3rd child. I have moderately serious chronic medical issues that have me hospitalized 1-2 times per year and closely monitored by several specialists. I do need help with my kids when I am more acutely ill, but for the most part you would not know there is something wrong with me. My family does not help me on any consistent or reliable basis. I also have had early issues (with bleeding, a cyst on the baby's brain, low HCG levels, etc.) these have mostly resolved. I did not want to tell my family until I could handle their judgment and I knew that this was really going to happen. This is a failed contraception pregnancy. It should not actually affect them because they are not involved in our daily lives, but for whatever reason their judgment will affect me. I also want to tell my kids 1st and I did not want them to know so early b/c of miscarriage and how long it takes to incubate a new life -- a long time if you are 3 or 5. I know it is going to be hard for me, especially in the beginning, but my panic has subsided. How long can I wait, without it being a weirdness of waiting that long? I don't want to offend people who would not judge me and feel left out that I waited so long.

 

[Suz]

First off I would like to say Welcome to BnB

Congrats on your 3rd Pregnancy. I think you should wait to tell your family until you start to show and you know the coast is clear for the rest of your pregnancy. Hope it all works out for you. Again Congrats!

 

[Wobbles]

Do what feels best for YOU not other people, anyone shoudl understand that the reasons for low key until you feel its time to tell people.

I have no advice but follow when its right for you to share your news.

Welcome to BabyandBump x

 

[sian]

congratulations on your 3rd baby bump!
i told most people about my pregnancy when i got to 14 weeks and knew the baby was doing well but some people didn't find out till i was 20 weeks! just tell people when you feel comfortable telling them good luck with the pregnancy!

 

[bek74]

Congratulations. I only told close friends of mine of my pregnancies, everyone else I didn't tell till I was showing. I just told them " I didn't want to tell anyone until I was in the safe zone", that seemed to work.

Good luck I wish you all the best.