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[jumpingo]

how was your scan sunshine?

 

[.hopeful.one.]

Nice to see some ladies I recognize, very bad circumstances. It's good to hear that you're doing relatively well given... Dr. Just confirmed a missed miscarriage for me. I'm debating now if I want to take a pill or go for a D&C. Any advice?

 

[jumpingo]

hopeful.one

i started miscarrying naturally before i was able to (or had to?) make the choice.

i think it comes down to where you would rather be...? and if you have a schedule that allows or does not allow for being home and going through the process of miscarrying.

some people don't want to see/deal with seeing the baby/all the tissue/etc and others want to. for me, it's nice that we still have our baby at home (in a tiny urn) and from what i gather, you don't get that option if you have a d&c.

on the other hand, by doing it at home, we didn't have anything to take in to get tested by the time i had an appointment with the doc, so we weren't able to run any tests, which you could potentially get if you have the procedure done in a hospital.

i've read some people say they don't want a d&c because they worry it will cause damage/scarring, but i haven't talked to a doctor, so i'm not sure what the chances/risk of that are. definitely a question for your doctor.

some women have said the d&c was "easy" and they hardly bled afterward.

emotionally it's hard either way.

it was hard to even THINK about moving forward until the bleeding stopped and it was hard for my husband to come home and me still be in pain for several days too.

sorry i've gone on forever...and not sure i even gave you any helpful information. sending positive thoughts your way. it sucks, and we didn't deserve what has happened to us. just listen to your heart on which feels right to you, maybe? i hope which ever way you choose, it goes as smoothly as possible.

 

[jtink28]

I'm so so sorry about your mc. It's so awful.

I was originally going to opt for the d&c, but my mc started on its own a week after I found out. I was supposed to be 9 weeks, but everything stopped growing at 6 weeks. I had one terrible day when I passed everything - it was very physically painful. But I wasn't given painkillers. It's been exactly one week since I passed everything, and I'm not bleeding anymore, just random brown spotting. Every woman is different.

Hugs. Xx

 

[.hopeful.one.]

Thanks ladies. My doctor seems to think it isn't going to start on it's own because it's been about 4.5 weeks since the baby stopped growing.

Right now I'm leaning toward D&C because I'm really dreading seeing everything. I guess I'll call today and ask a few questions. I'm not sure how soon they'll book the surgery. I'm ready to get it over with so I can deal with everything.

I'm sorry for your losses as well, nobody deserves this.

 

[Xmas719]

I had some light brown/ pink spotting at 9w2d the nurse told me it was fine not to worry.. Spotted on and off for w week and nothing happened... Thought my cervix was soft and that when I was having a bum that I was irritating it... I tryed not to worry the. I decided that Fter w week of this I would go and check everything out to be on the safe side. At 10w2d they doc couldn't find a heart beat on ultrasound. Said my body didn't realize that the baby wasn't growing and I needed to be put on cytotec to tell my body to miscarry. That was yesterday and it was the longest 12 hrs of my life.... Knowing that my baby was no more. Now I just have some light red blood but no more clotting.

 

[.hopeful.one.]

So sorry for your loss Xmas.

I'm in almost the same exact boat. Only difference is I am supposed to be 11w4d. This is the worst emotional pain I think I've ever been through, knowing that there's nothing I can do is really hard. We can get through this together.

 

[sunshine2014]

My scan didn't go well. I'm booked for a d&c tomorrow. Ugh. All that trauma for nothing. I'd definitely recommend the d&c to anyone. It was painless and less traumatic.

This sucks. For everyone. Sending hugs to you all.

I also started a TTC journal in that section!!

 

[jumpingo]

oh sunshine, i'm so sorry to hear that!
found your journal and sending all kinds of positive thoughts your way for tomorrow

 

[sunshine2014]

Thanks jumpingo!!!!!! I feel them!

 

[jtink28]

Oh sunshine I'm sorry you have to get another d&c. Sucks.

 

[sunshine2014]

Thanks jtink.

How are you feeling? I started a TTC journal. Come see me

I'm dreading tomorrow but DH will take good care of me. I'll be at home in bed in no time.