How many hours per day total do you hold your baby?

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Just curious. Some of the nicu nurses are saying we are holding him too much. He is a week old and we're holding him for about 5 or 6 hours per day. How much do you hold your baby? They're saying we are spoiling him. We don't see him at night, so all holding is during the day. Just curious about what other mummies/mommies are doing.

I appreciate any responses a ton!


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JB
 
Ignore them!! Babies want and need to be held, loved, cuddled, talked to as much as humanly possible by their loving parents.
 
https://content.usatoday.com/commun...-ways-best-in-childrearing---like-neolithic/1
 
That is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard.

Give that baby a kiss, and hold him an extra 20 minutes for me, please. My little girl is getting too big and I wish I would have held her more, and we held her a ton. Like all the time.:thumbup:
 
I held him all the time as a newborn and I'm glad I did. Now he Is older, active and with a little persoality he doesn't want to be hugged anymore. They aren't babies for long. Enjoy it! Xxx
 
Babies need to be held and comforted!! I still hold my LO alot, she loves cuddles. Soon enough she will be running off and not wanting any, so I am making the most of it!! Do what feels right for you x
 
I hold Maddie ALL day, literally. She fusses if I put her down, she even naps on me! i know she needs to learn to nap off of me, but for now, I'm just going to hold her! I worked really hard to get her, and don't know if we'll ever have another baby, so I'm just going to love her (and spoil her) all I can. :)
 
I'd say now it's between 1-2 hours and that includes bottles. I'd do more but she wiggles out eventually and I'll give her 'floor freedom'. Held her a ton more when she was as little as your LO. I can't believe you're being told by nurses that you're spoiling him! Total bunk!
 
At that age, prbably about the same. I now have a very independent baby though, lol. I MAYBE hold her an hour each day- that includes any rocking I do. She just wants to sit and do her own thing.
 
I hold her probably 10 hrs a day not counting cosleeping. Don't listen to anyone about this, do what is right for you!
 
That's ridiculous.

Babies will let you know when they want something, held, cuddled, fed, etc. I hold my son a lot... as much as your hold yours if not more. I just held him for the past 5 or so hours since he was having stomach problems. That wasn't including the time I held him earlier and he's 2 weeks old now. xx
 
There is evidence that lots of holding and touching by the parents helps ill babies get better faster and newborns regain their birth weight faster when kept in close, constant contact with their mother. I don't see how 5-6 hours a day is "too much"?? I'd ignore those nurses!

When Parker was a week old, I was probably holding him 18-20 hours a day. He slept on me and I could barely stand to put him down. :haha:

Nowadays I hold him probably... 10 hours a day? If he's awake, I've got him in my arms or in my carrier. :thumbup: And a lot of the time that he ISN'T awake, I'm holding him then too. :haha:

My husband tried to tell me I was spoiling him... he's 2 months old! He's un-spoil-able :haha:
 
That's silly. Maybe they are trying to be polite and suggest she needs quiet time/getting over stimulated. At the end of her nicu stay i was there for 12 hours, pumped every 3, and held her whenever i could. They even had me put handkerchief in my bra, then in her isolet. If baby isn't getting over stimulated i would keep doing what your doing. My nurses said the more you hold and bond is most important.
 
I have my LO in her wrap all day. Keeps her close and happy while I have my hands free to chase after a toddler and get everything else done!
 
Whenever she lets me ha :)

When she was first born if be holding her all the time, 23 hours out of a 24 hour day. Babies need touch!!!
 
Hold him as much as you like you can't spoil a baby.

Thomas lived on my chest in the early days and I still spend almost all day holding him (I baby wear and co-sleep). He loves it and so do I. He will still self settle and doesn't cry or have a tantrum when I put him down.

It's such an outdated way of thinking. Our babies need our cuddles.
 
Oh, WTF... Haven't these genius NICU nurses heard of kangaroo care?!
Ignore them!
I was holding her for 12-15 hours a day up until recently.
She's now three months old and wants to by herself sometimes.
 
What utter nonsense!!!

Google kangaroo care which is what all good NICU should be encouraging if baby is well enough. When she was tiny I easy held her 10+ hours a day in my arms and in a wrap.

I would tell them that unless they are advising you of a medical need then you don't require pairenting advice from them.
 
https://www.midwiferytoday.com/articles/kangaroocare.asp


One of the first things to happen is that maintenance of the baby's body temperature begins to depend on the mother, requiring the baby to use fewer calories to stay warm. Mothers naturally modulate the warmth of their breasts to keep their infants at the optimal temperature where babies sleep best, have the best oxygen saturation levels, the least caloric expenditure, and so forth. Maternal breast temperature can rise rapidly, then fall off as baby is warmed. As the baby starts to cool, the breasts heat up again—as much as 2 degrees C in two minutes!

Being next to morn also helps the baby regulate his or her respiratory and heart rates. Babies experience significantly less bradycardia and often, none at all. The respiratory rate of kangarooed infants becomes more stable. The depth of each breath becomes more even, and apnea decreases four-fold and often disappears altogether. If apneic episodes do occur, the length of each episode decreases. In my own experience with a baby in NICU for bradycardia and apnea, I found that both problems disappeared completely when I was home kangarooing my baby.

During kangaroo care, a premature baby's overall growth rate increases. This is in part due to the baby's ability to sleep, thus conserving energy and putting caloric expenditure toward growth. According to Dr. Ludington, during the last six weeks of pregnancy, babies sleep twenty to twenty-two hours per day. In a typical NICU, however, they spend less than two hours total in deep, quiet sleep. Most of that comes in ten or twenty second snatches. With kangaroo care, the infant typically snuggles into the breast and is deeply asleep within just a few minutes. These babies gain weight faster than their non-kangarooed counterparts, and it is interesting to note that they usually do not lose any of their birthweight.
 

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