How much did your wedding cost?

[Dizzy321]

Around £75,000. No joke. My husbands family are completely over the top and he has a huge family. 350 people (50 of which were mine) and 3 different functions; the registry was £5000, pre wedding party was £20,000, the wedding and reception was £50,000). It could easily have been double the amount of people, could have had 2 more functions and cost would have easily doubled if I hadn't have reigned it in and put my foot down! I got to marry my soul mate so that was all that mattered to me,if it were up to me I would have had a wedding on the beach with ten people, haha xx

About the price of my home!!

 

[lhancock90]

Am i the only one with Nutshake envy?

 

[Pensivedore]

Not very much at all as we didn't have much money back then and both our parents didn't agree with the wedding so wouldn't contribute (in fact only my Mum came- Dad and in laws stayed away). Biggest expense was registry office and drink. We did a big curry as food with naan breads and rice for cheap (it fed 30). We brought a couple bottles of nice champagne but otherwise we told people to bring their own drinks. I wore my sisters wedding dress, shoes from Primark and my friend is a hairdresser so did my hair for nothing. I did my own makeup. Wedding car we used my friends DHs BMW. I had a floral bouquet that was done quite cheaply (contact of DHs) but no other flowers. We didn't have a honeymoon.

We are talking about doing the whole vow renewal and having a big bash on our 10 year wedding anniversary and then having a fortnights honeymoon without the kids- and I know we will blow a lot if we do.

 

[Pensivedore]

My wedding ring was only cheap too- but he brought me another one last Christmas, talk about a surprise gift!

 

[Baby France]

Ours will be around £8000. My dad is giving us £2k of that though.

Nutshake...we NEED piccys. Please!

 

[embo216]

I'm not married but my Sister spent close to £60K on her wedding- amazing day though and honeymoon. They paid for it all themselves and had their perfect wedding so good on them.

 

[Meredith2010]

Ours was about £15k including honeymoon (which was "only" £900 as we didn't go anywhere that exotic).

However, the venue totally f***ed up and in the early hours of the morning when everything was finished and we asked for the key to our room (wedding suite which was part of the package) they couldn't find any of our details - the wedding planner had totally forgotten to actually book the room, which had then been given to another couple! We then asked "well where are our bags then?!" as they'd been taken from us when we arrived - turns out they WERE in the suite, with the other couple who hadn't noticed them!!! The hotel was fully booked so there was no room for us other than a twin room. Wonderful, just what you want on your wedding night!

So the venue then paid for our honeymoon as an apology!

 

[kmbabycrazy]

Ours was about £15k including honeymoon (which was "only" £900 as we didn't go anywhere that exotic).

However, the venue totally f***ed up and in the early hours of the morning when everything was finished and we asked for the key to our room (wedding suite which was part of the package) they couldn't find any of our details - the wedding planner had totally forgotten to actually book the room, which had then been given to another couple! We then asked "well where are our bags then?!" as they'd been taken from us when we arrived - turns out they WERE in the suite, with the other couple who hadn't noticed them!!! The hotel was fully booked so there was no room for us other than a twin room. Wonderful, just what you want on your wedding night!

So the venue then paid for our honeymoon as an apology!

My friend had hers at a beautiful hall. It cost them £8000. The power completely cut out at about 8pm and there was no back up generator (which is illegal if you are a venue like that) so she had no music, no chocolate fountain, the food had to be served up quickly it was mostly lit by candles but you could barely see and she spent most of the night in tears. Not to mention the fact that at the church the minister seemed drunk. He kept slurring his words and dropping his papers. She was mortified. Luckily a few friends saved the night as she used to go to a musical theatre group and they all played the piano and sang so that her and her husband could have their first dance and that part was beautiful. And she of course got the money back from the venue. But talk about a disaster wedding.

 

[porkypig]

Around £60k. That includes 5k honeymoon too. We had 280 sit down meal plus another 100 in the evening. Luckily our parents helped out xx

 

[Nut_Shake]

Here are some pics for those of you asking to see

Spoiler

Registry...
At the registry office, then back to hubs home for a fully catered meal, dancing etc, so thats where the money for that went

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Pre wedding party called a mehndi... In kensington, drinks reception, 350 people, all decor with swing seated stage, ladies doing henna on peoples hands, flowers, drum playing singing and dancing, catered asian food, dj etc...

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Wedding (islamic ceremony) and reception... In mayfair, drinks reception, 360 people, sit down fully catered lebannese food with fancy mint tea pourers, haha. Drummers, dj, flowers, chair covers, etc etc...

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I didnt want to upload pics with a lot of people in as you can see their faces and dont think they would be too happy with me uploading their pics on here! But you get the gist of it all Also makeup and hair, outifts i designed myself and got made by hand, jewellery blah blah, all adds up! Crazy really. Ahh well, was fun! xx

 

[tina_h75]

its one day - unless you have an unlimited supply of money there really is no need spending thousands for the ultimate party. sure enough your guests will think its a fantastic party but they are not picking up the bill and once the hangover has faded, so have the memories.

I can't remember how much we spent, but it was under £5000 incl dress, car, photographer, food, reception and 24hr bar.

 

[morri]

I had a registry office wedding, we had a small party after with a buffet and DJ, there was a cake, we got my dress, the suit and bridesmaid dresses, flowers and such and it totalled about £500-700. If I could go back in time I would have just sorted out the paperwork at the registry office and not bothered with anything else. But I would personally find spending a lot on a wedding a huge waste of money and would find a huge wedding really uncomfortable to have that many people staring at me.

I am the same and it looks like yours also equalled the same in costs

 

[Lellow]

Nat, i love the tea pourer, how cool.

Ours cost around £13/14k...We had ours abroad tho and we had an amazing weddin, but everything costs alot less out there than here...you get alot more for you £$£$£'s.

Spend what you can afford i say, our parents foot most of the bill to be honest.

 

[bluebell]

Ours was very basic and cost us about £1500 including a week in Cornwall for our honeymoon (which is when we decided to move here )

We wanted to 'be' married rather than 'get' married IYKWIM so were happy for it to be a really low key day. We spent the most money on our wedding rings as we will be wearing them forever

xx

 

[Fiona41]

Our wedding cost £10,000 (including my dress). We did only have 20 guests though so that was quite a lot per person! We only wanted immediate family there as neither of us wanted to get married in front of a huge crowd - way too much attention. We spent another £10,000 on the honeymoon.

 

[RachA]

I can't remember tbh honest but i know it wasn't anything like that much. OH paid for our honeymoon so i don't count that in the cost - plus i still don't know how much it cost 8 years later!!

The things i do remember the cost for:

photographer - £700
my dress and trimmings and the bridesmaids - total £1000
invites etc - £200

I'm pretty sure that everything else costed a max of £3000 and that included a 4* hotel for 100 guests (wedding breakfast and evening barn dance), 2 x wedding cars and a horse and carriage.

If you have the money i don't really see the problem in spending a lot - although i don't think that spending a lot = it being a better wedding. My parents paid for both mine and my sisters weddings and they certainly didn't have a lot of money to throw at them. My sisters wedding cost them about £2000 and it was a lovely wedding with all the trimmings you could want.

 

[Nut_Shake]

To the op, its def unfair of her to expect her parents to pay that much, especially when they don't have it. If she wants a lavish wedding she should pay for it herself! My husband paid for our whole wedding himself. If family want to help that's great, but I don't think it should be expected, not that much anyway! And RachA is right, an expensive wedding doesn't guarantee a great wedding, if there's no heart in it, no real love and care from the couple and guests the wedding has no warm atmosphere. I know people who have spent millions on their weddings, and they've been boring and cold and the whole thing has felt like a 'show'. However I've been to expensive (and not expensive) weddings that have been so beautiful and you've felt the love from every corner of the room. It just comes down to love, that's what a wedding should be all about anyway xx

 

[lhancock90]

WSS
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xxx

 

[dani_tinks]

To the op, its def unfair of her to expect her parents to pay that much, especially when they don't have it. If she wants a lavish wedding she should pay for it herself! My husband paid for our whole wedding himself. If family want to help that's great, but I don't think it should be expected, not that much anyway! And RachA is right, an expensive wedding doesn't guarantee a great wedding, if there's no heart in it, no real love and care from the couple and guests the wedding has no warm atmosphere. I know people who have spent millions on their weddings, and they've been boring and cold and the whole thing has felt like a 'show'. However I've been to expensive (and not expensive) weddings that have been so beautiful and you've felt the love from every corner of the room. It just comes down to love, that's what a wedding should be all about anyway xx

Exactly this

 

[lindseymw]

£3,500 for everything