How much help do you get?

[Aneesa_09]

My in laws are pretty good.

They will watch the children any time of the day when I need them. But I like to keep them all to myself unless I am NEEEDING a break lol

Its very much a cultural thing that in laws are very involed. I dont mind and I think that its a beautiful thing for children to feel loved by many.

 

[baileybubs]

I'm a single mum and I get very little help outside of babysitting so I can work. Even then it's only one day a week, I pay for nursery the other days. My mum is with me and the kids a lot and helps me but not in the sense that she looks after them whilst I do other things or get a break, more that she might wipe my dds hands whilst I sort my ds after they eat. When I am at home I do everything for my kids really. And when I'm not at home I'm at work. So no breaks here at all.

 

[Buttercup84]

My parents and my OH's mum would mind my girls anytime really but I don't ask unless I really need it, I wouldn't ask just to get housework done or whatever. OH's dad has 10 year old twins and works split shifts so he doesn't have much spare time. OH is 'OK' in terms of helpfulness, I sometimes feel like he could/should do more and it grates a bit that I have to ask rather than him taking the initiative but he does a tiring physical job and since i'm at home full-time until September it doesn't bother me too much. Once I return to work he'll need to step up a bit though!

 

[Nina83]

I don't have any help.
I go back to work in June, the baby is 5 months old, DH works long hours, and is home in time for bath and bed.
My mom lives too far away, and my inlaws, they don't show much interest in taking care of her. My FIL didn't even hold her until 2 weeks ago when we practically made him for 2 minutes. I don't get what the deal is either, they both practically raised both sisters kids.
This week I'm leaving her at their place because I need to visit a friend who's child passed. I'm terrified because she's never been without either of us when awake.
DH doesn't help out that much, so all the cleaning I get done after she goes to sleep and on the weekend when he takes her for a walk.

 

[Myszka]

I'm A single mum and live with my parents. They're too busy to watch her while I go to the toilet at weekends so basically no help. Sometimes they will go as far as to heat her bedtime bottle though, on a good day I cook daily, clean and do all the washing. They work as teachers. It's just the norm to me, feels like I've got 3 kids though!

 

[modified]

My mum lives with us. It's just the 3 of us in a little bubble, no other help. My mum is terminally ill so can't do much more than be in the room with her whilst I dash for a 5 minute shower. She's prone to seizures so can't be left for long. I have to schedule that 5 minute shower in hours in advance.

So morning til night, Monday through Sunday it's just me.

 

[LoveCakes]

I tend to do the majority of the baby stuff as oh is at work all day and she goes to bed at 7 and at the moment only wants me. He is great at doing the housework though while I'm settling her.

Both sets of grandparents love having her and I'm lucky I trust them. They have her once/twice a month between them for a few hours at the weekend. Usually though it's because I have a casual job I'm still doing occasionally whilst on maternity and oh travels for work so can't help. I've never had her minded just to take a break it's been because of work, an event (wedding anniversary, birthday etc...)

My hubby works from home but he's more of a hindrance as he is noisy and is usually to busy to take her or help during the day. I just work housework, showers etc... Round her