How much to compromise??

[jocelynmarie]

So, I had names picked out for both a boy and a girl and it looks like the little peanut is a boy.

The FOB was here last week from England for the ultrasound and afterwards wanted to "discuss" names. I told him I had already picked out the name and it wasn't open for discussion. Especially the surname... that is the one thing that I am completely firm on though.

I love the name I have picked out. I don't want to change it. Should I compromise though??

 

[billy2mm]

i would listen to what he has to say, tell him you will think about it, then ignore it all, forget about them and go with your original name

 

[littlekitten8]

I would pretend to consider his suggestions but stick with my name lol. I've already decided on names for James's sibling and nobody is going to change my mind on it pmsl.

 

[jocelynmarie]

Thanks ladies!! I wasn't sure if I was being unreasonable!!

He told me that I didn't have the right to name the child by myself... I was like I sure do!!

I know it will come up again so I'll pretend to listen to him!

 

[ShireLass]

Is he planning on being involved? (sorry don't know the backstory) If he's gonna be part of the family I guess he has a say, but if not then it's up to you what the name will be.

 

[jocelynmarie]

He'll be as involved as he can be from England (I'm in the US).

The biggest sticking point for him is he wants the baby to have his surname... that is not an option or up for debate though. I'll be the one enrolling the child in school and taking them to the dr and so on and so forth. I'm not having the parent with the same surname live 4,000 miles away.

He also doesn't like the name Aidan, but I'm in love with it and don't want to part He's fine with the middle names.

 

[ShireLass]

He might not like the name but once his child is wearing it he'll come around lol.

 

[Rhio92]

Stand your ground (after pretending to listen and deeming his names as 'crap' ). I regret listening to FOB... If I stood my ground, I'd have Connor David Godden rather than Connor Ewan R******

 

[teal]

I agree you're doing the right thing by giving LO your surname! I'm loving the name Aidan xx

 

[billy2mm]

i loved aiden too but my ex didnt.

i also like leland, landon, kayden and loads more. i love his name now though! it fits him.

 

[chels24uk]

as his father if hes going to be as involved as possible, i do think he should have some kind of say. I wouldnt budge on the sur-name though. Maybe give him the option of chooseing the middle name? I dont know the sex of this baby so told ex he could choose the name if its a girl... I said no to a load of his ideas but we've settled on a name for a girl and boy now. Good luck xx

 

[newmama]

hi jocelynmarie i like the other ladies' suggestions. ask for his SUGGESTIONS, and tell him you will think about it. then keep your own name. i personally LOVE aidan, it was our 2nd choice boy name --- but we are having a girl!

i dont think it is unreasonable at all, and i would do the same thing. you're the one who's going to be doing all the work alone, you should name the child whatever you want.