How often/How long / etc

[xnmd1]

Couple quick questions..

How often do your FOBs see your LO?
When did they go for overnight visits?
Did you come to an agreement outside of court, or through court?

 

[Strawberrymum]

he sees her once or twice every six month for about 30-60 minutes with me there and my mum and FOB mum. he doesnt say anything he just sits there. he doesnt even try and interact with her, hes never bought her anything or gave her any money. it sucks i hate it. but i dont want my LO thinking i keeped him away he chooses not to see her.

decision was made after he went and saw a solicitor after not even trying to talk to me, so i rang him and said grow up we dont need lawyers you can see her when you want with me there and hes seen her 5 times ad shes nearly 18 months. hmm turned into a rant sorry

 

[xnmd1]

its okay for the rant, thanks for some info xx

 

[hancake100]

My fob is hard work so I cant answer your simple questions with simple answers sorry haha.

When we split he didnt see Ellie for 10weeks (even after me begging him to come and see her, he said he didnt want to) Then we set up for him to come around every Thursday for an hour after he finished work, I think this lasted for about 3-4 weeks. In the mean time he has been so nasty to me and said alot of hurtful things but still I have never once stopped him from seeing Ellie.

I gave him every option under the sun in different ways to see her, he said he would rather see her with me in her own home, but this is because he can sit there and watch my tv and watch me do everything with Ellie. After me telling how pissed off im getting with him he decided he wanted to see her in a contact centre, I told him to get a solicitor but he doesnt want to and nothing has been said about him seeing her since.

Not the way I want it to be honest but there is no more I can do, I have tried my best with him but he is a waste of space.

Sorry mine turned into a rant also, hehe x

 

[Ginger84]

FOB see's him one night in the week for about 2hrs (puts him to bed) and usually once at the weekend, unsupervised for about 5 hours. Thinks are still amicable at the moment and he wants to be involved so i think thats fair for DS's age.

 

[Boomerslady]

Me and FOB are very amicable and he currently has him Thurs eve til Sun lunchtime. However I've just got a PT job so we need to reorganise stuff but he'll be having him 3 days a week.

 

[TiredNurse27]

every sunday, if his back doesn't hurt, or he's got a cold for a millionth time, or his other son doesn't have a cold, or he's "stuck somewhere".....I could go on.

Stayed overnight once or twice when he was with his ex. I rarely let him now as he only has a 1 bedroom house. If he doesn't like it it's tough shit really.

 

[112110]

Never and never and it's his choice so neither

 

[whoops]

Never, but if he wanted to and lived near, I'd be happy for him to see her a couple of times a week.

Just saw your thread in BC, hun. Hope you're alright.

 

[xnmd1]

Never, but if he wanted to and lived near, I'd be happy for him to see her a couple of times a week.

Just saw your thread in BC, hun. Hope you're alright.

Thanks hun. Hes comming to see Jarrett today or tomorrow he hasn't decided. I am going to suggest he try living here, I move the crib to my room, and he gets a matress for LOs room. And we set some ground rules up front and be roommates and co-parent Jarrett both full time, at least for a little while. Im not sure how it would work if/when either of us decided to date, but im not looking for that right away and neither is he so I guess we'd cross that bridge when we got to it.

If he doesn't think he can handle that (hes extremely upset), then I;m thinking 2 days a week with Jarrett. Its up to him to decide he can either take him for the night, or take him for the day on each day but bring him home for bed time, or just come here for the day or even for the night.

He doesn't think he could look after LO for the night just yet because he has severe seperation anxiety, but I really want to work with him here.

Its so stressful. He is my best friend and I want him here all the time but I don't want to "be" with him .

 

[mskellydenise]

Couple quick questions..

How often do your FOBs see your LO?
When did they go for overnight visits?
Did you come to an agreement outside of court, or through court?

He usually gets her every other weekend from Friday evening until Sunday evening.

We had a nasty breakup so we went through the courts...he started overnight visits when she was around 4.