How should I handle this?

[Hopeful1479]

So it seems this time around naming our daughter who will be here in 2 short months seems to be quite a challenge... We both have been coming up with names and I don't like his list at all and I feel bad... But he chose names which I have some adversion to like a memory or reminder of something in my life which I just can't call my daughter. He thinks I am crazy. I can't help it, its just how I am and yes I feel bad. I can't even find any compromises of the names.

Thanks for the rant, anyone else have this issue or gone through it?? I want to name this baby so I can be more prepared and what not!!!

 

[staralfur]

I think having negative associations with names is a fair reason to veto them, we went through a bunch of names that both my DH and myself felt that way about.

What are the names if you don't mind sharing? Maybe we could give suggestions that are similar or get creative with altering them enough to be useable.

 

[Hopeful1479]

I think having negative associations with names is a fair reason to veto them, we went through a bunch of names that both my DH and myself felt that way about.

What are the names if you don't mind sharing? Maybe we could give suggestions that are similar or get creative with altering them enough to be useable.

Thank you... Here is the final list it has both of our selections... We have a 2 year old daughter named Emery now.

Riley
Kylie
Peyton
Elise
Novaleigh
Delaney
Everly
Willow
Kiera
Davina

 

[MummaBear16]

I definitely understand having certain aversions to names!

My suggestions I think are somewhat similar would be

Ivy
Kirra
Kirra-lee
Elissa
Pyper
Evie
Keely

Goodluck!

 

[Lief]

There's a few names I quite like but knowing people with those names and having bad experiences with them has definitely put me off using the name for our daughter. My DH is the same though, he relates certain names to certain people/things and they got crossed off our list. It happens, I definitely don't think you're crazy.

 

[Hopeful1479]

UPDATE!! We were able to agree on a name and since the Branco's won the superbowl, her name will be Peyton!! I have always loved the name and this just puts the icing on it! Now just have to work out a middle name.

 

[Amygdala]

Sorry to rain on your parade but doesn't his history of sexual harassment bother you when naming your daughter after him? That association would be a deal-breaker for me.

 

[iBeach]

Sorry too... I felt the same way... I am not sure if I like it.

There is a boy in my nieces classroom and they make fun of him and call him : ""pee-ton" I kinda feel bad. .

 

[Hopeful1479]

Wow, I guess I did not expect to have people come at me with my name choice saying I am pretty much degrading my child because she will be named after a very well respected athlete who over 10+ years ago had a indiscretion. I am guess you are all saints... lol

If you did not read my earlier posts the name was already on our original name list and I said it was just the icing on the cake that he won the superbowl...

My daughter who is 2 is named after a park in our area because my husband and I went on our first date there.... It just so happens 8 years ago there was a rape and murder in it, that did not dimish the fact that park means something to myself or my husband.

Overall, my original post was about deciding a name and how to go about it whewn we could not agree, and I was able to update with what we chose, and its not based on anything else other our love for the name and in a SMALL part the successful career of a a respected athlete who is know for his class and success playing football, not something that happened over 10 years ago...

I thank you for your feedback its noted!!

 

[awnmyown]

I know a couple female Peytons and a couple male Peytons (and some spelling variations too) and I think it's a BEAUTIFUL name. We have it on both our boys AND our girls name list Plus I too am a huge Peyton Manning fan, so it's icing on the cake.

While TODAY everyone might associate it with a male football player, by the time she's in kindergarten he'll be an old retired football player. It's huge on name lists right now, and I say stick with it. When you and DH had trouble finding a name you both like and hit on this one, sounds like even more reason not to let people budge you on it.

THIS is why so many people don't mention their name until they've named their kid; EVERYONE has an association of a name with something and sometimes they're bad. What's important is that you and your DH don't have any dislike for it, and have atter.

 

[NennaKay]

Love Peyton and Payton both... I know a girl and boy with the name, one in their mid-late teens and one who's 7-8.

Don't let other people stop you from using a name you love!

 

[Em260]

I know nothing about football, had to ask my DH who won the superbowl a few days after it was over lol, so I didn't even think about Peyton Manning. I know a little girl named Peyton and think it's such a sweet name. I agree with the other poster that once your little girl is in school that athlete will be retired anyway and his name will not be on anyone's radar.

 

[kerrymom]

I understand how you feel. My husband and I are both teachers and finding names we agreed on was very hard. Every name was either too common, or belonged to a former student (who we really liked, or didn't much care for).
Names associations are not to be ignored for sure. There are so many names to choose from, just keep looking and you will find the right one. You don't really have to justify not liking a name, in my opinion. I always just said "I like the name ok, but that's not my daughter's name".
In the end we found the right ones, and you will too!