How to deal with other people's rudeness?

[KatO79]

I have to see him again this year at the company christmas party. My husband suggested I really make him feel like an idiot this time. When he bothers me again, I'll just tell him flat out that we are having fertility problems, which is what is going on with us. That shuts people up pretty quick. But he's a tactless drunk, so who knows.

Would you feel comfortable telling him that? I know I wouldn't feel comfortable telling a semi-stranger about our fertility issues. I've only told my mother, my closest friend, DH's little brother's girlfriend, my DH's grandmother and soon the in-laws will know were getting help although they know we've been trying.

If you're comfortable with that, then that's fine. If not, I still am an advocate for just saying you don't want to discuss it with him and change the topic, especially if he's drunk because it might not register. If he keeps going on and on, then just walk away. Because it really is none of his business you and your DH are having fertility issues

Whatever approach you decide to take, I hope you get him to leave you alone

BTW I love your cat, he/she looks a lot like my kitty in both color and coat length

Oh thanks! She's a rescue cat and I'm not sure of her breed. I think she might be a Norwegian forest cat. She's a sweetheart and she cracks me up. From behind she looks like she's wearing furry shorts, lol!
Yeah, I'm not sure why I should have to discuss that with him, it's quite private. I just want him to leave me alone.

Mine's a rescue too I suspect mine is part Forest Cat so that explains the likeness Mine is also a funny little girl.

You shouldn't have to explain yourself to him, especially when he's a semi-stranger I wouldn't be comfortable with discussing it with him either. Some people just need to learn to mind their own business. I'd personally go with trying "Wow, that's a pretty personal question, don't you think?" and then quickly change the subject to something that you know interests him. Maybe your DH can tell you what his boss' hobbys are so you can just start talking about that. If he keeps on going about children, then just say you'd rather not discuss it with him as it's too personal and change the topic. If he still doesn't get it, just walk away. He can't get mad as you said you don't want to discuss it with him and he should respect your boundaries. Otherwise your DH should handle him as he's his boss, you shouldn't have to put up with his boss' respectless behaviour, that should be your DH's department.