How to deal with the excitement of "Annie's" birth. Need advice!

[CapitalChick]

Hey ladies,
I need some help.
I'm going in to visit my family this weekend with my husband (they live in a different city, about 5 hours away). I've been dreading this visit for some time. Here's the deal…My mother's best friend has a daughter who is going to give birth any day now. In fact, if she hasn't given birth today or tomorrow, they're going to induce her while I'm in town. My mother always acts as if this girl and I are close friends, but the truth is that we're just acquaintances who know each other because our mothers are friends.

Anyway, my mom knows how awful I've reacted to this long and unsuccessful road TTC, and yet somehow she just can't hide her excitement about the impending birth. She's actually done the 'countdown' with me when she's called me to say hello (read: Oooooo!! Only another 5 days until "Annie" is due!!). This girl didn't even want to be pregnant for another while….but some friends told her that they had been TTC for a few months without any luck, so she thought she's get a 'head start' on TTC. She figured it would take her a while. Anyway….as you can just imagine…she was pregnant within the first month.

It is SUCH unfortunate timing that I'm going to be in town for "Annie's " delivery. I'm actually having panick attacks at the very thought of my mother getting the 'blessed' phone call while I'm around. I sobbed uncontrollably about it to my DH last night. Short of bitchslapping my mother, he can't think of what to do when it happens….other than cringe.

I'm anticipating screams of joy. I don't know why…my mother is more excited about the birth than the baby's own grandmother.
I've been telling my husband that I'm just dying inside. I'm afraid I'm going to burst into tears.

What am I going to do???

 

[chefamy1122]

aww honey I wish I knew what to say.

 

[Younglutonmum]

That's awful hun. I really feel for you

Could you not perhaps sit down with your mum & tell her how you're feeling? Then perhaps she'd tread more carefully around you?

Sending big your way

xxxx

 

[loopylew]

i think you would be best to tell her how you feel, i think mothers just don't think sometimes , mine reminds me constantly that she doesn't have a grandchild yet despite knowing we are going to a fertility specialist next week!! im sure as you get older you become more self centred!!

 

[baby.love]

I agree with the girls, just sit down and have a chat with her...I hope it all goes ok whatever you decide to do

 

[JASMAK]

Yes, I would tell her. As gentle as you can, because my guess is that she has no idea how much it upsets you. I would find that very upsetting too tho, and I can only imagine how hard/annoying/maddening that must be. Yes, I very much recommend you tell her that you don't want to hear countdowns or juicy details. In fact, (and this is just what I would say, mind you) I would tell my mom to let *me* ask...if I don't ask, please don't tell. I hope you can find a way to tell her, because it really sounds like you are suffering here. (hgus)