How to explain 2nd trimester loss to people

[crazylady79]

A loss is a loss, we all lost babies that we had hopes and dreams for at any stage, but I never describe my baby as a loss or a Miscarriage. I tell people the truth that I gave birth to her she was perfect but sadly she passed away as it was just too early.

That is basically how I feel, too. I don't even like the word miscarriage. It seems to obliterate the existence of my child. He was not a miscarriage, he was a person, a baby.

My baby died around 16 weeks, at 20 weeks he would have been considered a stillbirth.

I lost my daughter last year. She died in my womb at 22 weeks. The medical world calls it a miscarriage. I don't. I labored for 3 and 1/2 days in the hospital to deliver her. I didn't even get a birth certificate because of a policy stating that if the baby is less than 500 grams, they are still considered a fetus. I didn't bury my little one. She weighed about 96 grams; a little smaller than my hand. I had her cremated and she is home with me. She has her little spot on my dresser. A lot of people think I'm weird to have her here like that. To each his own I guess. I never describe her birth as a miscarriage. I always say I had a stillbirth. People seem to be a lot more understanding when I say it like that. And as for time. It's been 19 months and I'm still grieving.

 

[Andypanda6570]

A loss is a loss, we all lost babies that we had hopes and dreams for at any stage, but I never describe my baby as a loss or a Miscarriage. I tell people the truth that I gave birth to her she was perfect but sadly she passed away as it was just too early.

That is basically how I feel, too. I don't even like the word miscarriage. It seems to obliterate the existence of my child. He was not a miscarriage, he was a person, a baby.

My baby died around 16 weeks, at 20 weeks he would have been considered a stillbirth.

I lost my daughter last year. She died in my womb at 22 weeks. The medical world calls it a miscarriage. I don't. I labored for 3 and 1/2 days in the hospital to deliver her. I didn't even get a birth certificate because of a policy stating that if the baby is less than 500 grams, they are still considered a fetus. I didn't bury my little one. She weighed about 96 grams; a little smaller than my hand. I had her cremated and she is home with me. She has her little spot on my dresser. A lot of people think I'm weird to have her here like that. To each his own I guess. I never describe her birth as a miscarriage. I always say I had a stillbirth. People seem to be a lot more understanding when I say it like that. And as for time. It's been 19 months and I'm still grieving.

I am so sorry, people just don't understand. . I lost my Ava at 18 and a half weeks and its been 6 months, I gave birth to her also and we buried her on 3/11/2011. I know this pain is just something you never get over, you just somehow learn to live with it , I am so so deeply sorry for your loss

 

[daopdesign]

I had no idea what to expect my I gave birth to my son but I can tell you that he looked perfect in every way with ears, a mouth, long arms and legs! I too think that some people must think I lost an egg or something. It's truly amazing the speed of growth in the womb.