My sister and her husband TTC for about a year before getting pregnant with their first. They then miscarried around 7 weeks, and that was almost exactly one year ago.
They now have a child. She knows we've been struggling with infertility and at the beginning was thoughtful and sensitive. However, it's been months since she's even asked how I'm doing. I feel like she forgot what it felt like to TTC...like she is ignoring my pain...like she doesn't care.
But that's all beside the point. In 2 days, it will have been one year since her miscarriage. And, while she is completely ignoring me, I'm not sure I want to do the same. I want her to know that I remember. That even if she doesn't show her care for me, I care about her.
So, what do I do? I've never had this situation...have not miscarried myself. Is it bad to say something like, "Praying for you today" or something else? She of course remembers the date of the miscarriage, right? Should I be quiet? Should I say something?
Please, help. I want to do the right thing but don't know what that is!
They now have a child. She knows we've been struggling with infertility and at the beginning was thoughtful and sensitive. However, it's been months since she's even asked how I'm doing. I feel like she forgot what it felt like to TTC...like she is ignoring my pain...like she doesn't care.
But that's all beside the point. In 2 days, it will have been one year since her miscarriage. And, while she is completely ignoring me, I'm not sure I want to do the same. I want her to know that I remember. That even if she doesn't show her care for me, I care about her.
So, what do I do? I've never had this situation...have not miscarried myself. Is it bad to say something like, "Praying for you today" or something else? She of course remembers the date of the miscarriage, right? Should I be quiet? Should I say something?
Please, help. I want to do the right thing but don't know what that is!