I apologise if this is long and scattered, I could realy do with some help on how to deal with this, and how to explain what will be a rambled mess in a grown up, well organised Way.
DS ( 5.5 year one at school) has been going to an after school club on a Tuesday. Today would have been his 3rd week. From what I understand, the teacher who runs the club gathers the kids for the club at the end of the day and keeps them to one side. Club finishes at 4. I am usualy at school for about 3.55 to pick him up.
Today, I get a call from DS' friends mum. She just wanted to check that ds wasn't going to the club, puzzled I asked if the club wasn't on today and she said it was but ds was in the queue waiting to be picked up because he said he wasn't going. She pops me on the phone to him and ds is in tears because he doesn't feel well. So I tell him to stay there and I will collect him. He then passes the phone to his classroom assistant. I explain he should be going to his club but doesn't feel well so I would be there in 15 minutes to collect him and ask where I should collect him from. She says " that's fine. I understand" and hangs up. Obviously she hasn't understood because she didn't answer my question. Luckily my mum was round so I left dd with her and ran to school. On the way i rang the reception to ask where I should pick him up from and had to explain the situation a couple times before she put me in hold to check the club room to see if he was in there. By this point I was outside the school and decided to walk round to the area she mentioned any children who hadn't been picked up would be. I get to the late pick up room, still on hold with the receptionist, and ask if they have ds. After a couple seconds of umming and ahhhing they said they did. I explained I wasn't being rude, I was on hold with the school receptionist and didn't want to hang up without telling them I had found ds. DS comes out and they start talking about a possible " late collection charge" I explained, I wasn't late, he should have been in his club and they decided I " probably wouldn't be charged" . I asked ds what had happened and he said he had told his teachers lots of times he had a tummy ache, all day, so bad he couldn't eat much of his lunch. He kept telling them. Apparently then his teacher told him to wait to one side so he wouldn't cough on someone. Slightly baffled we I decided to walk round to reception and just check what I should be doing. DS is poorly atm ( his tonsils are permanently enlarged, which makes his cough alot, he also struggles to eat, which gives him a tummy ache, he also suffers with excess acid, which gives him a tummy ache. School is aware of all of this or atleast should be because I informed them last year. ) I wanted to know if If I should come to pick him up at usual time, and judge if he is ok or if the school should be ringing me to let me know he doesn't feel great. After explaining what had happened to the two receptionist they seemed confused as to why noone had called me and why he wasn't just taken to his club to wait. One suggested I speak to the deputy head. He wasn't available so I have an appointment tomorrow.
So my issue is that, how was ds missed when they came to collect the kids for the club? If his friend's mum hadn't spotted him, I would have just rocked up at 4pm, and he wouldn't have been with the club kids. He was waiting in a queue to be collected, he thought because he had told his teacher he was unwell, i was coming to get him. When i didnt turn up he got upset thinking i had forgotten about him. If ds had mentioned he wasnt feeling very well to his teacher, why didn't someone just ring me? I explained to his teacher just last week that if he ever isn't feeling well she should give me a call and I can be with them in 20 minutes max.
I'm not sure if this is a slight over reaction on my part. DS was upset, I was freaking out, for a few minutes I had no clue as to where my kid was. I wasn't even going to speak to the deputy head, until it was suggested. But now I have no idea what I should say. I don't want to get anyone into trouble, but I don't think it's another mums job to call me so I know my kid isn't feeling well enough to go to his club. I'm just not sure what to do, Or what to say.
Any advice or opinions welcome. Please feel free to tell me I'm over reacting if you think I am.
I should add, the reason he is at school while poorly is because his tonsils are huge from September till June. The dr won't refer us to the ent for another few months because he wants ds to be atleast 6 before he has them out. If I was to keep him off, he would be off most of the school year. The eating thing and tummy aches all stem from the tonsils. I have no choice but to send him in, or keep him off if he has a fever.
I'm sorry for the length of this. Cake for anyone who got this far.
DS ( 5.5 year one at school) has been going to an after school club on a Tuesday. Today would have been his 3rd week. From what I understand, the teacher who runs the club gathers the kids for the club at the end of the day and keeps them to one side. Club finishes at 4. I am usualy at school for about 3.55 to pick him up.
Today, I get a call from DS' friends mum. She just wanted to check that ds wasn't going to the club, puzzled I asked if the club wasn't on today and she said it was but ds was in the queue waiting to be picked up because he said he wasn't going. She pops me on the phone to him and ds is in tears because he doesn't feel well. So I tell him to stay there and I will collect him. He then passes the phone to his classroom assistant. I explain he should be going to his club but doesn't feel well so I would be there in 15 minutes to collect him and ask where I should collect him from. She says " that's fine. I understand" and hangs up. Obviously she hasn't understood because she didn't answer my question. Luckily my mum was round so I left dd with her and ran to school. On the way i rang the reception to ask where I should pick him up from and had to explain the situation a couple times before she put me in hold to check the club room to see if he was in there. By this point I was outside the school and decided to walk round to the area she mentioned any children who hadn't been picked up would be. I get to the late pick up room, still on hold with the receptionist, and ask if they have ds. After a couple seconds of umming and ahhhing they said they did. I explained I wasn't being rude, I was on hold with the school receptionist and didn't want to hang up without telling them I had found ds. DS comes out and they start talking about a possible " late collection charge" I explained, I wasn't late, he should have been in his club and they decided I " probably wouldn't be charged" . I asked ds what had happened and he said he had told his teachers lots of times he had a tummy ache, all day, so bad he couldn't eat much of his lunch. He kept telling them. Apparently then his teacher told him to wait to one side so he wouldn't cough on someone. Slightly baffled we I decided to walk round to reception and just check what I should be doing. DS is poorly atm ( his tonsils are permanently enlarged, which makes his cough alot, he also struggles to eat, which gives him a tummy ache, he also suffers with excess acid, which gives him a tummy ache. School is aware of all of this or atleast should be because I informed them last year. ) I wanted to know if If I should come to pick him up at usual time, and judge if he is ok or if the school should be ringing me to let me know he doesn't feel great. After explaining what had happened to the two receptionist they seemed confused as to why noone had called me and why he wasn't just taken to his club to wait. One suggested I speak to the deputy head. He wasn't available so I have an appointment tomorrow.
So my issue is that, how was ds missed when they came to collect the kids for the club? If his friend's mum hadn't spotted him, I would have just rocked up at 4pm, and he wouldn't have been with the club kids. He was waiting in a queue to be collected, he thought because he had told his teacher he was unwell, i was coming to get him. When i didnt turn up he got upset thinking i had forgotten about him. If ds had mentioned he wasnt feeling very well to his teacher, why didn't someone just ring me? I explained to his teacher just last week that if he ever isn't feeling well she should give me a call and I can be with them in 20 minutes max.
I'm not sure if this is a slight over reaction on my part. DS was upset, I was freaking out, for a few minutes I had no clue as to where my kid was. I wasn't even going to speak to the deputy head, until it was suggested. But now I have no idea what I should say. I don't want to get anyone into trouble, but I don't think it's another mums job to call me so I know my kid isn't feeling well enough to go to his club. I'm just not sure what to do, Or what to say.
Any advice or opinions welcome. Please feel free to tell me I'm over reacting if you think I am.
I should add, the reason he is at school while poorly is because his tonsils are huge from September till June. The dr won't refer us to the ent for another few months because he wants ds to be atleast 6 before he has them out. If I was to keep him off, he would be off most of the school year. The eating thing and tummy aches all stem from the tonsils. I have no choice but to send him in, or keep him off if he has a fever.
I'm sorry for the length of this. Cake for anyone who got this far.