Vixen_17
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I have a 9 year old boy and am finding it really hard to motivate him to want to do anything that's not directly related to Xbox! He seems to have no common sense, no motivation and a lack of being able to think for himself.
Although I absolutely love him to death I'm finding him really hard work at the moment. Every morning he was taking too long to get ready for school (he has 45 minutes to shower, get dressed, drink a smoothie and have his vitamin tablet). We found he was getting distracted half way through getting dressed as he'd start playing with toys and end up being late, day after day.... So, I wrote him up a schedule of what he should be doing at what time and it seems to have improved things but he forgets to look at it (it's been up since the start of January). This drives my OH crazy "he's got it all written down and STILL cant get it right."
The schedule gives him 20 minutes of free time in the morning so we said he should empty the dishwasher every day and once that's done his time is his own to do as he wishes. I've told him on numerous occassions that if he can't remember things he should write a list - I live off lists and wouldn't function properly without them! I've also told him that if he has a list he has to refer back to it and check that he's done everything on the list otherwise there's no point having it in the first place. I've explained that I'm more than happy to help him figure out what to do and how to write his list but in return he has to put in the effort and actually look at it.
He's only allowed to play his xbox every other day but knowing how much he loves it I offered to buy him some educational games and he could play these on the days he normally is not allowed to play, that way he gets to play and learn at the same time. He wasn't interested. He would rather miss out than do anything which involves applying himself or hard work.
His teacher called me just before Xmas to say that when she's giving instructions to the class he doesn't listen then asks what to do when everyone else is working.
This morning he emptied the dishwasher but only loaded half the dirty stuff back in. I had to remind him to finish the job. Then after I dropped him off at school I noticed he'd left one of his bags in the back of the car.
I feel like he's not interested in thinking for himself and that I'm constantly having to prompt him to get anything done. Does anyone have any ideas please?
Many thanks
Although I absolutely love him to death I'm finding him really hard work at the moment. Every morning he was taking too long to get ready for school (he has 45 minutes to shower, get dressed, drink a smoothie and have his vitamin tablet). We found he was getting distracted half way through getting dressed as he'd start playing with toys and end up being late, day after day.... So, I wrote him up a schedule of what he should be doing at what time and it seems to have improved things but he forgets to look at it (it's been up since the start of January). This drives my OH crazy "he's got it all written down and STILL cant get it right."
The schedule gives him 20 minutes of free time in the morning so we said he should empty the dishwasher every day and once that's done his time is his own to do as he wishes. I've told him on numerous occassions that if he can't remember things he should write a list - I live off lists and wouldn't function properly without them! I've also told him that if he has a list he has to refer back to it and check that he's done everything on the list otherwise there's no point having it in the first place. I've explained that I'm more than happy to help him figure out what to do and how to write his list but in return he has to put in the effort and actually look at it.
He's only allowed to play his xbox every other day but knowing how much he loves it I offered to buy him some educational games and he could play these on the days he normally is not allowed to play, that way he gets to play and learn at the same time. He wasn't interested. He would rather miss out than do anything which involves applying himself or hard work.
His teacher called me just before Xmas to say that when she's giving instructions to the class he doesn't listen then asks what to do when everyone else is working.
This morning he emptied the dishwasher but only loaded half the dirty stuff back in. I had to remind him to finish the job. Then after I dropped him off at school I noticed he'd left one of his bags in the back of the car.
I feel like he's not interested in thinking for himself and that I'm constantly having to prompt him to get anything done. Does anyone have any ideas please?
Many thanks