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nolansmom
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So I'm pretty certain that Oh family just doesn't like me. I suspect they have a "type" for him and I don't meet their criteria (nor has anyone else). I'm ok with that as I'm over trying to impress them - I've been over that.
OH sister recently made some rude remarks about the time and interest OH has in me and my Ds (6 from previous marriage) and how he doesn't have that sort of interest in her son. I find it astonishing that a married, grown woman would expect her grown brother to act like a 3rd parent to her son.. Fast forward she doesn't think it's necessary to congratulate me on pregnancy - afterall she said "congrats" to her brother..
So, now that I'm as annoyed by her as can possibly be, how do I avoid OH family functions w/o making it obvious that it's because of her? I have no desire to entertain them and don't feel like having them entertain me. I would be more than happy visiting with his parents but suspect that she would pretty well always be around. I would like absolutely nothing to do with her going forward and wouldn't give her the satisfaction of spending time with my lo as I don't feel like she is deserving and with the way she has acted I feel she has severely, misguided jealousy issues which I'm sure will tfr to my expected lo.
I don't want her at hospital - or visiting.. Nothing.. I have made this crystal clear to OH. I have also made it clear to him that I'd love for him to continue with his usual family routine, but that I just won't be participating in it.. I would rather my time be spent with my own family (not going to his cousins on Christmas day). I think that's perfectly reasonable and unless he could somehow guarantee me that we would be visiting his other family for an hour and while his sister is not there, I just don't want to do it.
Just to add - OH and I do not live together so I'm not telling him not to open the door to his sister. I'm saying that I will not be opening my door to his sister or taking LO to see her specifically. He is welcome to entertain his sister as he normally would at his own place. I expect to be home a lot with Ds and Lo and not visiting with those who couldn't muster up a congratulations..
Not sure what I'm asking exactly. Do i seem like a horrid bitch? Can I get away with avoidance? or super short 30 minute visits?
OH sister recently made some rude remarks about the time and interest OH has in me and my Ds (6 from previous marriage) and how he doesn't have that sort of interest in her son. I find it astonishing that a married, grown woman would expect her grown brother to act like a 3rd parent to her son.. Fast forward she doesn't think it's necessary to congratulate me on pregnancy - afterall she said "congrats" to her brother..
So, now that I'm as annoyed by her as can possibly be, how do I avoid OH family functions w/o making it obvious that it's because of her? I have no desire to entertain them and don't feel like having them entertain me. I would be more than happy visiting with his parents but suspect that she would pretty well always be around. I would like absolutely nothing to do with her going forward and wouldn't give her the satisfaction of spending time with my lo as I don't feel like she is deserving and with the way she has acted I feel she has severely, misguided jealousy issues which I'm sure will tfr to my expected lo.
I don't want her at hospital - or visiting.. Nothing.. I have made this crystal clear to OH. I have also made it clear to him that I'd love for him to continue with his usual family routine, but that I just won't be participating in it.. I would rather my time be spent with my own family (not going to his cousins on Christmas day). I think that's perfectly reasonable and unless he could somehow guarantee me that we would be visiting his other family for an hour and while his sister is not there, I just don't want to do it.
Just to add - OH and I do not live together so I'm not telling him not to open the door to his sister. I'm saying that I will not be opening my door to his sister or taking LO to see her specifically. He is welcome to entertain his sister as he normally would at his own place. I expect to be home a lot with Ds and Lo and not visiting with those who couldn't muster up a congratulations..
Not sure what I'm asking exactly. Do i seem like a horrid bitch? Can I get away with avoidance? or super short 30 minute visits?