hubby not interested

[sailorsgirl]

Not interested maybe isnt the right way of putting it. Basically my oh left on deployment 6 months ago. At the time we didnt know i was pregnant.
He came home last week. It was the first time wed seen each other in 6 months. It was so amazing to see him again, be close to him. But then it got to bed time. He was lovely. We cuddled and fooled around (sorry tmi) but he wouldnt go any further. Since that night he hasnt touched me. We cuddle etc but nothing else. He says hes not sure if hes comfortable with it. I do understand but i cant help but feel like he doesnt fancy me anymore.

 

[mumtobe01]

Aww hun, some men are worried about what sex may do to the baby, even though we know sex is safe they sometimes still worry, has he mentioned anything like that?

 

[sailorsgirl]

I think its just a huge change. Hed felt her move for the first time the day he came home. Then he came to my midwife appointment and heard her heartbeat. Its all quite overwhelming for him because hes been gone for so long. He hasnt said anything about it, just that hes not sure hes comfortable. We are going to see how things go this weekend when hes home again but we have our 3d scan so i think he may be overwhelmed by that. Will just have to wait and see. Give him time to adjust?

 

[tori_cottier]

Aww hunny it's not because of you chick, my DH stopped all sex with our Boy and this one as soon as the positive hit the stick. . . Its just something he's very sensitive about i'm use to it now and know once my ladie garden is well again we will be at it like rabbits again lol

 

[kiasuten]

My OH hasn't been like this... he's just generally not interested since I've been pregnant.

Some guys either fear hurting the baby, or they're weirded out by the thought of having sex with technically another person in the room. If he's scared he'll hurt LO, have the mw explain how safe sex is during pregnancy (so long as no complications of course). If it's him creeped out, have mw explain that the baby won't have a clue what's going on anyhow.

Good luck!

 

[magicbubble]

i understand how you feel. mine went away on deployment in may. came back in june and we still havent even touched each other! he claims he doesnt want to hurt baby but seriously - i could understand that if we did ANYTHING intimate. but we dont! rarely even get a cuddle!

 

[MrsH86]

It's a lot to take in at once. Like you said he felt your baby for the first time and heard the heartbeat, he's seeing you pregnant for the first time too. It's a lot to take on board. Other men have time to gradually see the change and feel it etc, I expect he's just overwhelmed. Don't let it get you down, he might come around in a few days x