MImom2be
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Ok, confusing title, I'm sure, so I'll explain;
My husband's family has never approved of our relationship, our marriage and now, our baby. HOWEVER, they feel that they are entitled to share in EVERYTHING we do regarding our pregnancy, like they expected to come to all of my ultrasound appointments with us (anyone seen how small those rooms are???), that I was to consult them on ANYTHING I chose for my baby - regarding items (Um, my child, not yours???) and some other asinine stuff.
At first, I was hoping it was them trying to be supportive, now it's suffocating my husband and I to the point where we are avoiding our cell phones when they call, lying about when we'll be home, and avoiding most posts on Facebook. Needless to say, they're kinda sucking the joy out of pregnancy.
When I finally confronted them about this being our first child that has made it this far and how we appreciated their concern but we were excited to also share things as just a husband and wife/father and mother-to-be could, their response? "Last we checked, this wasn't just YOUR baby. Don't forget, we allowed you to marry Nick." UM, NO YOU DIDN'T, WE ELOPED YOU PSYCHOS, REMEMBER BECAUSE YOU STOPPED OUR MARRIAGE THE FIRST TIME?!
Anyway, now, they are ALL insisting that they will be in the delivery room with me (after reading the above, I don't think anyone would argue with me that having them in there will only stress me out!) and plan on staying while we're in the hospital...THE WHOLE TIME.
Nick and I have talked about it, and while we were originally planning on delivering at Henry Ford in Detroit, MI, my husband says he wants us to deliver at Beaumont, in Troy, MI to avoid his family. As in, he wants to go in, unannounced, not tell ANYONE I've gone into labor, had her, and then eventually call people when we leave the hospital...
I have no idea how to take this. My family is non-existent, so that's not a problem, but his family would string me up from the highest tree as a traitor. Seems like whenever NICK (Not even ME, but NICK) does something, I am the reason behind everything. Nick didn't go to a family Christmas party one year because he was still driving in a different state, and who got the blame? Me...yeah.
Any thoughts? Granted I know that the hospital would prevent them from seeing us if I made it clear I didn't want to see any of them, because Nick's already told me he wants the first few days for just US to bond with her, and for us to bond as not only husband and wife, but now as a new father and mother to our daughter.
Yeah...advice? Truth be told, I agree with wanting no visitors for the first few days/week but how to go about it? I'm gonna be painted as the "bad guy" anyway, so...?
My husband's family has never approved of our relationship, our marriage and now, our baby. HOWEVER, they feel that they are entitled to share in EVERYTHING we do regarding our pregnancy, like they expected to come to all of my ultrasound appointments with us (anyone seen how small those rooms are???), that I was to consult them on ANYTHING I chose for my baby - regarding items (Um, my child, not yours???) and some other asinine stuff.
At first, I was hoping it was them trying to be supportive, now it's suffocating my husband and I to the point where we are avoiding our cell phones when they call, lying about when we'll be home, and avoiding most posts on Facebook. Needless to say, they're kinda sucking the joy out of pregnancy.
When I finally confronted them about this being our first child that has made it this far and how we appreciated their concern but we were excited to also share things as just a husband and wife/father and mother-to-be could, their response? "Last we checked, this wasn't just YOUR baby. Don't forget, we allowed you to marry Nick." UM, NO YOU DIDN'T, WE ELOPED YOU PSYCHOS, REMEMBER BECAUSE YOU STOPPED OUR MARRIAGE THE FIRST TIME?!
Anyway, now, they are ALL insisting that they will be in the delivery room with me (after reading the above, I don't think anyone would argue with me that having them in there will only stress me out!) and plan on staying while we're in the hospital...THE WHOLE TIME.
Nick and I have talked about it, and while we were originally planning on delivering at Henry Ford in Detroit, MI, my husband says he wants us to deliver at Beaumont, in Troy, MI to avoid his family. As in, he wants to go in, unannounced, not tell ANYONE I've gone into labor, had her, and then eventually call people when we leave the hospital...
I have no idea how to take this. My family is non-existent, so that's not a problem, but his family would string me up from the highest tree as a traitor. Seems like whenever NICK (Not even ME, but NICK) does something, I am the reason behind everything. Nick didn't go to a family Christmas party one year because he was still driving in a different state, and who got the blame? Me...yeah.
Any thoughts? Granted I know that the hospital would prevent them from seeing us if I made it clear I didn't want to see any of them, because Nick's already told me he wants the first few days for just US to bond with her, and for us to bond as not only husband and wife, but now as a new father and mother to our daughter.
Yeah...advice? Truth be told, I agree with wanting no visitors for the first few days/week but how to go about it? I'm gonna be painted as the "bad guy" anyway, so...?