Hurt by DH Comments and feeling so low!

[MrsRM]

Hey Ladies
Really struggling this w/e have had a lot of lone time which has meant that i have been dwelling and getting myself down in the dumps. So Friday i found out a girl i work with and her DH who works with my husband is pregnant. Another girl anounced on facebook today that she is pregnant and i have basically lost count of the number of women i know that have made announcements in he past few months. Plus my mother in law was worried about showing me a scan pic of her grandchild (Brother-in-laws g/f) in case i cried....i felt so low.

My husband SA test has been delayed until the 8th October, which i was fuming about so i told him i was going to ring up and complain. He then let loose at me and said TTC should be a fun and beautiful thing and that i was turning it into 'a freak show' because i was getting cup open (having a lap and dye). He later apologised and said that he was feeling disappointed and that he had thought it would be easier than this....so all in all i feel a failure, bitter, anxious, angry, frustrated...all the things that you should avoid feeling. Sorry to rant but dream of concieving this year is starting to feel totally unrealistic. Im in also in the 2ww but can't bare the thought of testing and am feeling totally negative. I just can't even imagine being pg. Oh well thank you for letting me rant...feel better already for letting it all out. If you read all of this thank you. Much love ladies xxxx

 

[hopesforababy]

Oh, hun, I am so sorry.

This is such an incredibly difficult journey and have found myself feeling negative, sad, depressed, you name it. And unfortunately there is nothing that can make it better. Except getting pregnant, and that doesn't ever seem to happen!

I wish I had some profound words or advice to give, because I could sure use it myself. Pretty much everything anybody says hurts my feelings, so I completely understand your frustrations. I hope you find something that makes you feel better, but I know that just venting on here helps a little. And it's always something that we've all felt at one time or another! Take care and baby dust!

 

[bumski]

hope your feeling bit better today hun

 

[MrsJA]

Sorry MrsRM, it's a hard road that's for sure.

I love my husband more than anything in the world, and he loves me more than anything back... but what long term TTC has taught me is that men do not experience infertility like women do.

I spent a lot of time at the start trying to talk to him about it, and trying to get him to understand what I was feeling, but it's different for men. Men are not the ones who most of the invasive tests and treatment is happening with, and they don't have the hormones to deal with either!

Men are also not the ones waiting with bated breath every time they go to the toilet and or crying their eyes out every month when AF turns up. Infertility is something that women live and think about every day. Men think about it too, don't get me wrong. It's a big mistake to underestimate the emotions they feel. But they don't think about it every day like we do.

Anyway, I'm sure there are a lot of girls here who can relate. The best advice I can give you is to hold each other close, stick together and remember how much you love each other.

Best of luck

 

[Deb111]

Hi hun

I couldn't agree with MrsJA more. It's an incredibly emotional journey and I'm sorry hubby wasn't very sensitive, but he's probably worried too - worried it may be him who has the problem.

I hope things are feeling a bit better for you today xx

 

[Leila Fae]

 

[MrsRM]

Thank you all ladies...still don't feel much better but its a case of getting on with it i guess isn't it?...just hoping this mood passes quickly.

 

[Emz_number3]

im with you on this.... my cycles have took a turn for the worst, being as long as 66 days apart...so i probably not ov
which is very dis heartening...but i have an appointment next month..

but its all the waiting isnt it...its sooo annoying when u see women that get pregnant no trouble and even worse when they dont want a baby...

Its very hard to deal with, and i ont think many hubby`s get what we are going through.